Had anyone married in prison?

[HarrietLicthman]

I've been with my partner for just over 9 years. He's been inside for just over 3. We've decided to get married and I'm so excited, nervous and all of those emotions.

I just wanted to talk to anyone else who has done this? It's can be quite a lonely time having a partner inside.

I'm not looking for advice on if I should marry him, that has been decided already. I'm just looking for someone even just one person who knows my situation and I can talk to

Please no negative posts I get enough of that in RL as it is

Thanks

Quite some time ago now I worked in the welfare section of a prison. OP, I share the concerns of many of the posters on this thread about your well-being but I'd like to put that aside for a moment and ask you to consider your DP's well-being. I can tell you that I never saw a single prison marriage last the distance. The challenges were simply too much. Not a single one. I can also tell you that in every single instance the couple involved thought they were different and they would last. They truly cared for each other but they were just unable to beat the odds.

I can also tell you that among the main concerns of prisoners is whether their partners are being faithful. It is a common concern frequently to the point if obsession. It is discussed and thought about constantly. When a partner ends a relationship with a prisoner this worry escalates incredibly. Unfortunately prisoner's risk levels go through the roof when something worrying is happening with their loved ones on the outside. This frequently results in the need to move them to higher security parts of the prison (protection/punishment areas) where they can be monitored more closely.

Please have a really big think about this. If, despite your best intentions, something goes wrong with your relationship your DP will have the additional trauma of divorce proceedings on top of having to having to deal with losing you. This trauma is hard enough for anyone but it's intensified one hundred fold on the inside.

If marrying your DP is a good idea now it will still ge a good idea in the future. You lose nothing by waiting until he's out but you risk a great deal if you go ahead and are unable to overcome the near impossible odds your relationship faces. I know that marriage must feel like a very loving and supportive thing to do for your DP but the chances are the complete opposite will be true. If everything works out then you have a lovely wedding to look forward to after his release. If it doesn't work out, and the risk of that is vey high, it will be much, much harder for your DP if you have married him.

All the best to you.