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Quick! Is there some kind of protocol for staying at new bloke's house when menstruating.

259 replies

UterusUterusGhali · 12/05/2014 18:33

This is the most ridiculous thing I've ever posted. Confused

I've been dating a guy for a few months. I've stayed at his before. We're going to dinner tonight and I'd like to drink & have more time together so I'd have to stay at his.

Thing is I'm on. Do I just say "I'll stay but I'm not shagging you", or would the proper thing to do be to just drive home?

I'm so shit at dating!!!

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MultipleMama · 12/05/2014 19:26

Just tell him Aunt Flo's arrived in town and she's not only bitch but she's messy too. He can either have his way with her or back off until she goes!

DH knows when Aunt Flo comes to town, and he's not bothered about having sex while she's here, and to be honest, to me having sex while I'm gushing blood is not very unattractive nor do I want DH's very lovely penis up there.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 12/05/2014 19:26

GrinGrin... my husband now thinks I've lost the plot. I was trying to explain what I'm laughing at and he just doesn't get it, AF. Small things indeed. I'm not much of a 'laugher' actually but that, that made me laugh so hard.

I'm still giggling to myself.

I do indeed know he thread you are referring to... very funny. I'm now stifling laughter at the thought of what drains laugh like.

Sorry, OP... Blush

DustBunnyFarmer · 12/05/2014 19:28

I've been with H nearly 21 years & we've never had period sex, mainly down to his extreme squeamishness. Am I missing out?

ProfessorBranestawm · 12/05/2014 19:30

Shark week :o :o :o

MultipleMama · 12/05/2014 19:32

However, saying that I haven't had a period in 4 years. Thank you, PGs! Grin

thecult · 12/05/2014 19:34

I wouldn't say anything till you were about to get to the deed.. if you even do! He might surprise you with his actions!

TinklyLittleLaugh · 12/05/2014 19:40

Gosh I'm surprised at how......unselfconscious everyone on this thread is. I'm obviously much more uptight than I thought.

IWillIfHeWill · 12/05/2014 19:41

Ok, does no-one care about the risk of infection from blood or increased vulnerability when bleeding?
Or has all that been proved entirely irrelevant and I missed it?
Not criticising, just curious. No-one seems concerned.

newtonupontheheath · 12/05/2014 19:41

Do people generally still have axe when they're on? I'm genuinely interested as (naively?!) it had never even entered my head to do it. (Married with 2 dc)

Sorry OP Smile Have a lovely evening whatever you decide!

Maisie0 · 12/05/2014 19:42

The thing is.. you know there's another thread about us ladies being too princessy. Well, a guy has to learn to know these kind of things as well. We do get PMS as well. Does he want us to grump on him or what ? It cannot always about him him him. He has to wait. It is only natural.

Anyway, he can always cuddle if he is okay with that. Plus, if he does wait and can wait, his patience builds up.... and.... and .....

ForalltheSaints · 12/05/2014 19:47

Be honest with him. It is the 21st century after all, most men are understanding. If not then maybe he's not for you.

evelynj · 12/05/2014 20:10

It's not for me-you could just say earl in the evening, 'ooh, just need to check I have tampons/towels while pulling lots out of your handbag & check the response!

ClashCityRocker · 12/05/2014 20:11

The first time I mentioned it to my now DH I informed him arsenal were playing at home.

I got 'no they're not, they're at Fulham'...

Couldn't work out if it was a subtle way to let me know he was still up for it and say worrying about it all night (period sex is not for me!).

ClashCityRocker · 12/05/2014 20:12

Sat, not say.

ForalltheSaints · 12/05/2014 20:14

Clash City Rocker, you won't get that response next football season. You weren't at Centre Parcs by chance?

ClashCityRocker · 12/05/2014 20:17

NOoooooo.....but unfortunately spent the whole of a team meeting last week giggling when a colleague unwittingly said how much she enjoyed trying new activities on her recent centreparcs break...I don't think she was an mner!

WildBill · 12/05/2014 20:18

Tell him it's shark week before he gets a stonker

magpiegin · 12/05/2014 20:21

Surely if you're intimate enough to have sex you can tell him you're on your period? If you don't want to have full penetrative sex then there are plenty of other things you can do!

AnyFucker · 12/05/2014 20:23

or you could do nothing sexual at all

even if he does get a "stonker" Hmm

Maisie0 · 12/05/2014 20:26

Clash Hehehe... how can he get that one ? I thought the auntie line was quite common...

I think it's nice to have a bit of mystery in life. To be that mysterious woman. Smile Not everything needs to be spelt out so obviously.

Maisie0 · 12/05/2014 20:26

What's a "stonker" ?
Ok, ok, I better not ask cos I will look dumb. Wink

Pinkje · 12/05/2014 20:29

Stay and ask him where he'd prefer you dispose of your tampons - bin in the bathroom, if he has one, or kitchen bin. Or is that too icky?

Minime85 · 12/05/2014 20:30

tell him. he is a grown up and ought to be able to cope. if not will tell u something about him. I love the phrase shark week. brilliant.

holdyourown · 12/05/2014 20:37

He must realise you have periods Shock You're dating not fwb.
It may be harder to get the timing right if you're out for a dinner admittedly, perhaps not just as he's about to tuck into his steak Wink Grin

ClashCityRocker · 12/05/2014 20:38

Ask him to nip to the shop to buy you some tampons.

I haven't heard it called a stonker for years Grin