Dear STBXH,
I think we are all realising the same thing, the analytical, reasonable and rational component of our marriage has been dumped - and the irrational, controlling, blinkered man has decided to go it alone.
Going well so far, eh?
It's three months today since you fucked off, by the way. Our divorce is unlikely to be finalised for another nine months. A whole year to argue about marital assets.
On the 3rd of June I wrote: Your decision to divorce relieves you, and devastates me. The act of divorce, relieves me and devastates you.
The worm hasn't so much as turned, as positively back-flipped.
You've got nine more months of this devastation to look forward to. I have days of relief to anticipate.
Today is the probably the last time you will hear from me directly in RL - at least for quite some time, as I'm giving you the final warning regarding you retrieving your belongings.
I'm now switching you off. I am going to choose to kick you into touch - along with your belongings. I am already selling the material assets of our marriage, which is hard work, and painful. It is an appropriate time to think of you as just another an unwanted, no longer required, "thing".
Oh, one more "thing": My SHL is not to be used to 'get me back in my place'. When you left me there, I had no choice but to wander off directionless. I found someone to take care of me in your absence. She is not there to manage you. She is definitely not there to act as an accomplice to your bullying. She is there to protect me as I bimble towards my future - and she's doing a mighty fine job of it.
Out of curiosity, where is your solicitor? You keep blaming my solicitor for not advising you adequately, but why not sue your own for incompetence?
Or is he just another imaginary "friend"?
You were a coward in how you behaved, making that decision without ever telling me, talking to me about it, trying to make a go of it. You lied and you deceived - all to suit yourself.
And yet, as we wind our way through the divorce process, you are kept informed of our next steps, and what we intend to do should you wish to keep up with your ineptitude.
You will not ever be blindsided by us because that is not an acceptable way of behaving.
So I'm not going to leave my rented home for now, instead I'm going to beautify it by removing your bin bags littering my spare room. There is nothing in divorce law that compels me to make myself voluntarily homeless just because 'my husband says so'.
My solicitor is writing to you today. I am also going to write directly with final warning regarding your belongings. No doubt you'll complain that we're harassing you again.
Tough.
You are not the victim in this divorce; you just petitioned it. Issuing it, as you did the end of our marriage, without notice.
And yet, I give you your final warning on your belongings leaving my home. Still want to whinge? Get a sense of prospective.
But then again, the analytical, reasonable and rational component of our marriage got dumped.
You lost control the day you left. And I'm doing okay today since you've stopped caring.
Wife, getting her shit together.