Dear STBXH

[WellWhoKnew]

Thank you for trying to save me costs of divorce by selecting a solicitor for me and by covering their costs, you are doing me a favour, I know.

Thank you for being fair by offering to take only 40% of the assets in my name to enable a quick resolution to the end of the marriage, which is what you want.

Of course, I realise that the assets in your name aren't mine because you are the man. Sorry you are THE MAN. I do keep getting things wrong, so I perfectly understand that you want a divorce.

All the same, thank you for offering me a speedy divorce by asking me to agree that we have been separated for two years so that I can move on with my life. Okay, we both know it's less than two weeks in actualment since you walked. I remain in shock but I'm so grateful that you have my best interests at heart during this difficult time.

So, Soon To Be Ex-Husband, thank you.

Because you are a twat and I'm so much better off without you.

TooManyDicks (love your NN) I added My Silver Lining to the YouTube playlist

Another de-lurking to say what fab news. Nice to see some justice in the world and that what goes around comes around :-)

Congratulations on winning the battle WellWhoKnew we are all behind you for the rest of the war. I only wish my lawyer was half as proactive as yours.

this is wonderful reading! hadn't caught up for a few days.

well done that judge. he has been very sternly warned then hasn't he? if he has any sense at all the message will have been received loud and clear that dicking around is not an option, well it is an option but will be a very expensive one if he chooses to do it. let's see where that takes him in the next stage of sorting things.

i'm so happy for you. i know it is all devastating but it is nice to be vindicated somewhat and to have it absolutely confirmed that your version of reality and sanity is indeed real and sane and no you really don't have to bend to some twisted version for the stbxh's sake. let him twist his own sanity and reality to his heart's content if he so desires but you keep yours where it is, which is spot on.

Just found this. I do like a story with a happy mid point (not ending yet). All power to you WWK!

Delurking to say fabulous news

Well done and lots of evil chuckles directed at STBXH!!

I read 'the lady's not for turning' as a quote of Margaret Thatcher's (aka the old tyrant ) referring to WWK's admirable determination and resolve...

This thread makes me so happy to live in a society where the judicial system supports fairness regardless of gender, rather than being based on a presumption of male authority and supremacy. I imagine a certain type of male views it rather differently....

those males are usually the ones who complain that everythign is unfairly weighted against them ime ;)

in the divorce courts anyway, sadly not in rape and child exploitation cases.

WWK also a new reader and fan, as your thread popped up in active and I finally clicked through. It has taken me over a day to read the whole thing, but I am yet another who is thoroughly impressed by you and your staunchness, even in the face of such a dreadful barrage by such an incredible twunt of a man. Congratulations, enjoy some laurel-resting for the next little while and I do hope you continue to post as things move forward for you into a bright and shiny future in the coming months. The divorce party will come, that really is only a formality; you already have your freedom of mind and spirit, that is what is so inspiring to MNers!

Dear STBXH,

I was hoping for a moratorium on your cognitive arseholiance since your were firmly put in your place on Monday, so I could enjoy some quiet spells in the sunshine.

But alas, no.

So now you have decreed that I must not sign a renewal of my tenancy agreement. Okay, sunshine, no problem. I shall just continue living here and undoubtedly pissing off my exceptionally lovely landlords - because you don't want me to give a portion of the money you have been court ordered to give me, something that as a tenant I am legally obliged to do.

You have decreed you will apply for a court order to stop me harassing you. Okay sunshine, go ahead: My solicitor and I will admit that we both emailed you on the same day. She sent you her bill for the court hearing, and I sent you an email informing you that it was long overdue that you removed your belongings from my undecreed home. Furthermore, I will willingly admit is only the third email you have received from me in three months, and this is the only one that I have sent you unsolicited. I didn't even call you a cunt - perhaps I should correct this oversight next time?

You have decreed that I must write a detail inventory of all the belongings that I have requested you remove from my house. I must also record their current condition. Okay, sunshine - I'm sure a charity shop will do that when they have received it.

You have decreed that you will not honour the court order until you have received it in writing. Okay, sunshine, whatever. You do realise that means I can release some of the capital assets that you have decreed must not be sold with your explicit permission.

You have decreed that I must obey every decree you make not matter what my opinion is of your decree.

Have you not noticed yet - that we only respond to decrees that you make if we deem them a legal requirement (and thus a matter of obeying the law) or because we believe them to be a reasonable demand. All your other decrees have landed you in a lot of hot water.

Like your decree that I send you a revised Form E.
Like your decree that I should sack my solicitor.
Like your decree that I should just fuck off.

Wife,

decree-singly tolerant.

So he's a poor looser as well as an arsehole

He has certainly not noticed that you/the world/the legal system does not actually take the slightest bit of notice of his 'Decree's, has he?

Detailed inventory of His stuff, in Your house, that he doesn't even appear to want.... hahahahahaha !

Wow... talk about throwing toys out of prams.

Delurking to say I'm sorry you are having to go through this. It beggars belief that he is being like this. What does he not understand? Civilised people do not behave like this! Part of me hopes you are using all of this to fuel a fiery rage against him, but another part hopes you can laugh it off am go about your day. A day that involves lots of nice things for you.

More fuckwittery, after having been told (and financially penalised!) by a judge to stop being a fuckwit? God how pathetic. Please WWK do take his possessions directly to charity, do not hesitate. More and also some

Wait, wait, he's decided that you aren't allowed to spend the court ordered maintenance payment on keeping a roof over your head? Is that right? Or has he decided that if you pick a cheaper roof he won't have to pay so much for it? He must be still holding out for that caravan

I do hope it's the same judge, who he has already royally pissed off, who gets to decide about the court order to stop you harassing the poor man.

Perhaps your SHL could suggest that he gets himself assessed for MH issues. Someone should at least check that there is an approximation of a brain lurking somewhere in his skull.

Sooooo, basically he's giving a big 'fuck you' to the judge who ORDERED him to pay you an interim settlement & allowance with NO conditions attached to it. Mr Honourable Justice will REALLY like that! I can't wait til that shit hits the fan!

He really does think he's the Lord of All Creation, doesn't he? He gets slapped down again and again and keeps getting back up with more cognitive arsholeiance to spew. Just unbelievable!

he is such a loser isn't he? why does he think he is above the law. what a twat.

"Perhaps your SHL could suggest that he gets himself assessed for MH issues"

This is the juxtaposition:

I have asked this of my SHL, but all that does is give him a 'diminished responsibility' argument - when in fact, the more fuckwittery he does, the greater the risk of him paying more of my legal costs (which is extremely rare in divorce cases anyhow).

So it's a bit of suck up all this vindictiveness in the short term. Whereas actually I would love it to go away and us negotiate a fair settlement without excessive legal action (it's stressful!) and also so I can move on with my life.

That's why I rant. It does hurt all this nastiness, I don't enjoy it but that's his decision, not mine. I just have to cope. Which is where you lot come in rather handy to rant to!

I remind myself: a person with mental health issues does not go to work every day, earning a substantial amount of money each month, play team sports every evening, whilst at the same time manage a stressful divorce, writing intelligent and lengthy letters full of legalese - when he has had no training in law.

It really is just cognitive arseholiance. Nowt else.

Decree Intolerance is a bugger of a condition for the exH to deal with though, lets be fair.

In his ideal world the OP would do exactly as she is told, when she is told and how she is told. This debilitating condition of hers is just making her so damned awkward! Really WWK I think you need to see a doctor about it

:o

Medicinal gin helps alleviate the symptoms!

Oh I think I read about that! Also, I think it was in the Guardian, something about wine helps defeat Whine Intolerance, which you may also find useful as your symptoms point towards that too.

:o