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The Dating Thread 74.

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MadeMan · 04/05/2014 13:44

Hello and welcome.

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handfulofcottonbuds · 09/05/2014 17:45

What do I do? Been messaging someone since last night, he lives a mile away from me and has given me his number.

Should I just text now or ask him for more information through the site.

He's flipping gorgeous.

Rummikub · 09/05/2014 17:47

I'd go more info, but think others like to meet go up a level quickly.

whitedoorbell · 09/05/2014 17:50

handful say thanks here's my number and wait to see what he does.

whitedoorbell · 09/05/2014 17:52

handful if you like sound of him suggest you meet for coffee in a couple of days.

I found the local ones could be a bit keen and wanting the booty call... suggesting they call round later etc... so I would suggest meeting sunday for coffee or something?

DeliberatelyDreaming · 09/05/2014 17:55

I'm a fan of meet them quickly. I found if I chatted to someone for too long, I had too positive and image in my mind. Meeting sometimes was soooo different to the image I had.

whitedoorbell · 09/05/2014 17:57

dd definitely. just speaking from experience that if they are v local they might think you want to meet the same day... which to me is pure sex thing Hmm

handfulofcottonbuds · 09/05/2014 18:06

Okay, I like that. I'll give my number instead.

I really hope his photos aren't out of date. At least he was polite and not crude.

DeliberatelyDreaming · 09/05/2014 18:06

No way would I meet the same day White. That to me is booty call, but certainly within 2-3 days if possible. I learned this the hard way! I was all but madly in love with one guy as we chatted so long, that one is lesson I remember. Grin

handfulofcottonbuds · 09/05/2014 18:11

Photos - makes me sound shallow, I'm not shallow.

Even a guy put in the first sentence, no cat people! Good to know I'm not the only one Smile

DeliberatelyDreaming · 09/05/2014 18:19

Blush I have up until now been shallow. If I didn't think the picture was attractive, I would speak with them but wouldn't go on a date. This time around, I really am trying not to value anyone by looks alone. It's not easy, but I am trying - honest!

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whitedoorbell · 09/05/2014 18:40

chase harsh but fair advice I think

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whitedoorbell · 09/05/2014 18:55

chase lol

poor neil hope he isn't upset? Wink

neiljames77 · 09/05/2014 18:59

I just thought that if someone took the trouble to message me, it's only fair that I read them and reply. I felt rude and ignorant if I didn't just say "thanks" or "I'll get back to you".

whitedoorbell · 09/05/2014 19:02

neil depends what they say...

any message "hi sexy" for me was a delete and ignore

also ignored winks and "hunglikeadonkey" wants to meet you...

I only replied to people who sounded like they had written to me as an individual... or who were really hotBlush

whitedoorbell · 09/05/2014 19:04

"wanna chat" wasn't a great opener either

if someone wrote a personal message then I did write back cos I am polite and do not ignore personal messages from polite sounding people Grin

neiljames77 · 09/05/2014 19:09

Thanks. If I give it another go, I'll remember to ignore the generic ones. Smile

Rummikub · 09/05/2014 19:10

I tend to reply to all those that message me with a 'thanks but you're not my type' at least.

What I find difficult is I get on well with most people so think its interpreted the wrong way OLD.

whitedoorbell · 09/05/2014 19:13

rummi you are nicer than me then!

maybe depends what site yr on? one of the ones I did yiu could send a blanket message to everyone who fitted certain criteria. .. I didn't realise to start with. then got more ruthless. out of maybe 50 messages only 1 would be a proper one iyswim Smile

handfulofcottonbuds · 09/05/2014 19:27

Oh. I don't reply to them all either Sad

Okay, so boat man seems normal so far, said there's no point in hanging round.

I'll ask him if he has a cat soon.

jesy · 09/05/2014 19:30

Anyone looked into sleeping posistions in couples

neiljames77 · 09/05/2014 19:34

D'you mean who gets which side of the bed?

jesy · 09/05/2014 19:38

No t he way you cuddle up in bed with partner