Can women really be friends with a man and it mean nothing?

[ALovelyBunch0fCoconuts]

I'm not really a regular on the relationship board but I have posted a few times with the occasional problems dh and I have had.

Now we have an issue regarding a male friend I have. he is the dp of one of my very good female friends and our kids play together most weekends and go to school together. I have become good friends with her dp over the past few months and regard both her amd him as my friends.

dh isn't happy with it. he thinks he has ulterior motives. he says he trusts me but doesn't trust him (!) - I dont think he can say this. if he trusts me implicitly then it should make no odds imo.

me and the male friend occasionally sent each other the odd text but my dh made me stop texting him as he thought it was weird.

I think he is being totally unreasonable.

am I wrong? nothing remotely flirtatious with the friend no feelings whatsoever on either side but dh just won't hear me.

I'm with arson , I don't go out of my way to make my spouse feel uncomfortable either.

We have had a few chats over the last couple of days and I've wheedled out of him that it was exactly as ohpohdear said. he wasn't actually insecure and distrusting of my friend. that was a kneejerk reaction and he put 2 & 2 together and got 20. he has apologised. it basically boils down to the fact that his working pattern is taking away from family time and that im spending my time with them while he misses out.

We've concluded that we need to make time to do something as a family every weekend and I am still encouraged to see my friends but try and get more balance. I am no longer texting the male friend as it is the right thing to do and I can see how it can be misconstrued.

I have also spoken to my female friend and she is not worried in the least about our friendship or my friendship with her dp.

So glad to hear that OP, you both sound like considerate, reasonable people who really love and respect each other, and I'm sure this mini-crisis will simply serve to strengthen your relationship.