The Dating Thread 73.

[MadeMan]

Hello and welcome.

If he did, white then he would have done that anyway. You did the right thing.

You're right, white we will try x

shit. I am upset now
wtf is wrong with me sat here crying.

all I want is for him to either say its over or its ok.

he has gone to football now so probably won't hear from him till tonight or maybe tomorrow morning. .. ffs what is wrong with me?

Oh white hope you're ok xx

I'm scared. Geekyalike is emailing me.

Sorry to hijack thread. Any people really good at Guardian Soulmates on here....? I am registered there. If I look at someone else's profile, then hide my profile, will they know that I have looked at their profile? I think the answer is no. But I don't want to risk it.

(It sounds a bit stalk ish and weird but it's not. I just don't want someone to know I fancy them... that's all). Thanks!

Discophile could you set up a fake profile (if it's free) as a trial then with your real profile experiment on your fake one and see what happens?

Folk so glad you had a good break - did you take a gift and did his mum like it?

jarlin thank you... made me feel better. have calned down a bit now.

just need to wait but god it's hard.

I don't expect baldy to get in touch before tomorrow morning. . but God it would help if he did

Been trying on things and I'm now convinced my friend right I'm fat meant to be going to a wedding and sat here in tears I'm so fat why did he want me I'm so Fat and old with fall to show f or it

oh jesy please don't cry.

Take no notice of what your so called friend said. They were bang out of order.

sending you

Sorry it's so stupid to cry I know , sod her I'm not going to wedding to be picked on by her

jesy its not stupid to cry. its shit that other people feel that they have the right to make us feel like shit

I can go back to trying to loose weight again on Monday it's been hard last three weeks.
It just hurts the only date my so cold mates liked as in look of was one I must admit I didn't fancy
But I know I'll end up saying sorry to her I did the other week when she said have u counted the condoms each time u go ..... who needs enemy's lol

JESY you do not need that negativity in your life.
please ditch this friend... being alone is better than having someone like that sucking the life out of you. xxx

Jesy Dont let someone else's incorrect opinion be the basis of your self-confidence. You only have to look around to see that people come in all different shapes and sizes. I know I don't know you but I'm sure there's nothing wrong with you. At all. Enjoy the wedding.

Scarey It definitely needs bringing up. He sounds full of shit. Next time he texts calling you 'his woman' or whatever, I'd probably send one back saying 'Do you say that to all those women you message on Tinder as well?'.

Dont Don't message Geeky. That way madness lies. Warn off Geekyalike just once, in no uncertain terms, and if he doesn't back off call the police on 101 for advice.

White It's out in the open now and you can't control how he feels or reacts to what you've said, but your conversation sounds like it was positive so I'm sure it'll be fine.

Decided not to go wedding
Night of Mexican food and dvd

Discophile. You can view the person then block them and it won't show up as a view. Viewing and hiding your profile won't hide the fact you've viewed the profile.
I've used Soulmates. I don't think someone 'viewing' you is taken as the person 'fancy's you'. You can 'like' or 'message' someone you do like.

Thanks nowayitsme. Don't think I'll risk viewing. It's someone I work with and I fancy the pants off them. Don't want them to know. Not at the moment anyway.

jarlin thanks. its not baldy's fault I am an insecure fuck up!!

I feel like my abusive exh is well and truly back in my head... well he was but I have pushed him back out!
off out with kids to disco tonight to take my mind off things
hope u have a good evening?

xx

Ok. Warned off geekyalike. Have circled May 23rd in my diary. If I still want to I will message geeky then. I can't feel any worse than I do now. I think I really did/do love him.

He's still emailing me. He can't find out where I live can he?

Actually he knows I'm a tutor. If he purchased my details on a tutoring site he'd get my address.

disco I don't think they'd take is as you fancying them, they'll probably just think you were being curious and a bit nosy... You could even send a "Fancy seeing you here...! ;-) x" type message.

jesy I don't blame you for not going. You've had far too many negative influences around you. You need to start getting rid of them!!

Before I did take a gift, and I think she liked it. She thanked me and I got two lots of kisses anyway!

superfly No, I suppose you're right, I don't. I think that if I expect the worst case scenario then anything better than that is a bonus, but at least I can't be let down!

We had some very deep and meaningful conversations while we were away. He is very honest about lots of things, even things that are uncomfortable to hear. So he doesn't just say things because he thinks they are what I want to hear - which I have a bit of an issue with because my exH lied to me about everything big and small because he only ever told me what he thought I wanted to hear rather than the truth. About everything, important or otherwise.

He told me that he wouldn't be unfaithful to me because he loves me. He said he would be lying if he said he never finds other women attractive and knows that I must find other men attractive too (I do, of course) but that he wouldn't do anything because he wouldn't want to hurt me or do that to me and because I'm too important to him. He said that if he ever did, then he would tell me because, even though he knows it would hurt me, he feels that I would have the right to make a decision about whether I still wanted to be with him or not. So I'm guessing that since my exH said he never looked at another woman and claims he found himself having an affair without realising it... then that's a positive. Right?

I mean, he could be talking bollocks and lying to me, but really, what would be the point? He's introduced me to his friends and family, and I've tried to dump him. I'm hardly 'easy'!

He was so lovely to me. I just think that he's worldly wise enough to know that just saying, "I love you and I don't even see other women" is a nonsense. He's called me on a couple of things that he was right about too As he said, he's nearly 50, he's not a stupid kid anymore...

jarlin I think that, deep down, I'd secretly love a happily ever after too...