The Dating Thread 73.

[MadeMan]

Hello and welcome.

[SoftKittyWarmKitty]

Ooooh, shiny new thread, thanks Made . Loved the intro summary!

Louby Hope you enjoyed the date walk! A male friend of mine advised me to look up other women's profiles to get an idea of the competition, so I did. It was only after reading half a dozen profiles that I realised the ones I was looking at were all lesbians seeking a female partner! Of course I never thought to change my gender to male, so when I searched it was searching as 'woman seeking women' rather than 'man seeking women' . Might try and have a look in a bit after I've washed the car .

Fifty Totally agree about men past a certain age looking 'old'. I'm a young looking 41 and the majority of men my age and slightly older on POF look like they're fit for an OAP care home. I think it's part of the reason why I'm quite attracted to younger men, as they seem to have more life to them, iyswim. Not to mention a full head of hair .

[UrsulaBuffay]

I once read your profile is only as good as your worst photo and I know that if one photo out of five is a bit rubbish I do sometimes dismiss people (eg on Tinder)

[Denton2406]

Mademan - lol, love the start of this thread! The thought of men in urinals clicking like on me in Tinder doesn't appeal, somehow, funnily enough! Gross!

[Denton2406]

Whoops, thought my post hadn't gone up, so did it again, dunno how to delete!

[Denton2406]

Soft and Fifty - same here, older men don't do it for me at all! Am 48 and have 30 yr old men winking at me, which is ok by me! I don't think men age as well as women, once over the age of 40!

[fiftyandfab]

Does anyone know how to delete a pic on Match? I've followed the instructions by clicking on the pic, but the option to delete doesn't pop up (which the instructions said would happen). TIA

[jesy]

Ok just a question last night he mentioned he'd deleted pof I'm not sure if I should get hopes up .
I'd already realised he had.
I've pulled right back , not texting loads ext.
This morning I dropped him off in town and wasn't expecting a kiss but he leaned over and did.
I'm passed my sell by date with him I k ow that even his mate seems amazed we still seeing each other.
Trying to keep it casual and fun for both of us.
It's what I need to as well to do on before I've rushed into cooking cleaning ext .

[Canihaveaslice]

The date went better than expected for my first one. I was panicking that I wouldn't recognise him and approach the wrong person. Thankfully that didn't happen.
The only thing is last night I enjoyed myself and agreed to a 2nd date but today I'm getting cold feet and I'm not sure why? He was nice, attractive etc. I don't know if in my head I'm focusing on the bits I didn't like. He is quite open and isn't afraid to say how he feels whereas I'm more reserved. I'm not sure if I want him to be less keen iyswim.

The other thing is I was with stbxh for 19 yrs so it seems strange being with someone so different physically looking. Dh was muscly whereas the date is tall and slim with a slimmer face. I'm finding it hard to not just go for people with the same characteristics as dh but struggling as it's what I'm used to.

[MyChildDoesntNeedSleep]

jesy what do you mean by you've passed your sell by date with him?

[DollyTwat]

My second date with activity instructor man went very well last night. Fabulous kiss at the end too. I feel very relaxed in his company and he definitely fancies me

So big from me!

[jesy]

He admits he a serial Dater normally lasting 3 maybe w weeks .

It could just be bravado as I know he was with an ex for a few years( confirmed by a mutual friend),
But we will see ,

[jesy]

Dolly

It's great when you feel relaxed x

[lucyintheskywithdinos]

dolly that sounds wonderful!

I went out dancing last night, pulled a gorgeous woman. It is odd, I find meeting men easier online and women easier in 'real life'. I don't think I'll see her again, but it was fun

Seeing Mr Conductor again next Saturday and have asked someone else out too!

[whitedoorbell]

evening all. had date with baldy last night and stayed over. he is juat lovely and I feel so relaxed around him. it was our 4th date and he started to open up which was lovely.
am dying to know what he feels about the whole thing but don't want to scare him off.
can't see him again till next Friday cos of work shifts etc which is a bit crap

[TalisaMaegyr]

Jesy, why bother? You were really upset last time he pulled away, so why pretend that you're not emotionally involved? Isn't it better to be on your own?

[jesy]

I'm happy this way I think after looking after other for years I c an go out and ha e fun
Yep I'll be upset but he treats me nice n he. It married or drug y so tt hat a bb onus

[SoftKittyWarmKitty]

Dolly, Lucy and White Sounds like you all had fun last night and things are going well!

Jesy I kind of agree with Talisa in that he's messed you around before and you were very upset as a result. You say that you've never not been dating him but that's not strictly the case, is it? Forgive me if I've got this wrong and mixed you up with another poster but didn't he end it with you out of the blue and you were (understandably) quite upset, but then he asked you to be 'friends' which you accepted? You're now sleeping together again but you seem to have resigned yourself to the fact that it's only a matter of time before he ends it again. Why put yourself through the agony of not knowing where you stand, how the relationship is progressing or being sure of how he feels? I really hope I'm wrong and it works out for you but from the outside looking in, it's almost like watching history repeat itself and being powerless to stop it.

[jesy]

Every one leaves me at some point or other friends , family , bf they all go
It never actually ended I got wrong idea

[SoftKittyWarmKitty]

I don't think it's a bonus that he's not married or a druggy, Jesy. That should be a given in any relationship, not a bonus. Maybe he treats you nicely on the surface but he wasn't treating you very nicely a few weeks ago when he ended it, was he? He sounds like he's having his bit of fun at your expense tbh. If you're happy with things as they are then carry on seeing him but I'd say that being with him is stopping you from meeting someone who'll really cherish you, and you deserve to be cherished.

[SoftKittyWarmKitty]

^Add message | Report | Message poster jesy Sat 19-Apr-14 18:34:28
Every one leaves me at some point or other friends , family , bf they all go^

Jesy That's one of the saddest things I've read recently. You sound a bit low tbh and no-one should go through life expecting everyone to leave them. Have you ever thought of counselling? It would really help increase your self esteem, help you to value yourself more and give you coping strategies to deal with different situations. I had some last year and came out of it a completely different person (metaphorically, obvs).

[jesy]

He didn't end it he just said he didn't want anything serious which is fine yes emotionally I w a by more but for now laughs , fun are ok for 'm e.
I've lost so much recently I won't let him use me I promise

[jesy]

Soft
It's fine I'm USed to it.
I'm tougher than ppl think .
I know ppl think I'm stupid but I'd rather grab moments of happiness than be sat alone in a room .
Pathetic I know but he a decent bloke he texted me on / off today , I trust what my ex say about him
It's little dumb stuff I like I'm not saying it's ever goo g to be t he romance of world but I hope you guys will be there wh e n n if it goes wrong

[SoftKittyWarmKitty]

We will always be here Jesy. You know best; we just don't want you to get hurt.

[fiftyandfab]

just been skyped by a guy from 2 years ago asking how I am. After he ascertained my 'status' I got the inevitable offer of a booty call!! After I politely declined he quickly went offline. Seconds later he deleted me!!! Cheeky bastard...I'm fuming!

[fiftyandfab]

Actually, cancel that, I'm not fuming! I'm delighted to have had the opportunity to turn him down after he went 'silent' on me!