The Dating Thread 73.

[MadeMan]

Hello and welcome.

Ok I'll try that next time
Think I've just pushed it to far anyway as I've had the I'll let you know text

I'm a 12 on bottom half , 34g boobs big tummy due to junk food lol

Grrr bloody shell. Mr Tall is getting cold feet. Third date planned for tomorrow, meal here at my house and a walk to the pub. Lots of flirty texts going on all week.

I did tell him date 3 is usually my downfall but I didn't want to feel pressured etc and he was really nice about that.

He's text me just saying he's talked to his friend and doesn't know if he's ready for a relationship, doesn't want to sleep with me and make me feel used, wonders if he's overthinking things and getting ahead of himself.

He's a very shy person and has never done OD before.

I've told him I don't to anything I don't want to do, he wouldn't be pressuring me to do anything and that I too am scared of getting hurt again.

Now he's gone quiet?? How he has ever had a relationship before I don't know. Any other man would have taken his chance!

How do I play this now girls?

Well I'm bigger than you as a 14-16 and tbh I love it when a man enjoys my body. I imagine I'm Crystal Renn or someone :) confidence is key

Jesy That's no friend. She's probably jealous of you - mean people usually are.

Louby MCS gave me the 'over thinking things and getting head of myself' spiel, just before starting to go cold on me . I'd not contact him now and would even cancel tomorrow to go out with my friends instead. Let him see you having a good life and he can come back to you and be part of your life when he's got over himself. Jesus, these men! It's not like you're asking him to marry you, ffs!

MCS text again today asking if he pissed me off by asking if I'd been on any parents evenings. Brilliantly concluded, Sherlock . I haven't replied.

Jesy - Size 12 bottom with that bra size sounds gorgeous!! Your friend is an idiot, basically. I'm an ACTUAL big girl, I'm a size 20 with a big bum and 36HH/I boobs and I attract all sorts, although strangely enough, I'm generally the wildcard in what is a history of men dating much smaller women.
But I'm very confident and very outgoing, I believe in myself, whatever my size and I think that has a lot to do with it.
From what I have read on these threads, you sound like a lovely, sweet and thoughtful lady with (what I personally think) are gorgeous measurements.
Love yourself my dear, you deserve it

Thanks soft that's good advice! At least I know he isn't in it just for a quick shag!

Jesy - you could be my size twin! I'm 12 on bottom half too and about 28FF/G on top half…

no way am I fat - I'm curvy! and that's with me not having kids either. They can F right off your friends and men who think you're fat… take some tips from Ursula - and embrace your curves!

Jarlin - just about to watch trash TV but yes I have high hopes for MBB too. I feel I get on with him far better than Kent Lad and the serious ex before him (City Boy but from about 2 years ago).

"I love it when a man enjoys my body. I imagine I'm Crystal Renn or someone"

Crystal Renn, really? Couldn't you be instead?

Date 3 is off. He doesn't want to take it any further. His loss!

Can I slide back in again,I really can't keep up so that's why I pop in and out again.I took time out after soldierboy took the piss,it's taken me this long but my skin is thickening up big time.Trying to sort a date now but my head is still elsewhere gawd why do we put ourselves through this lol,hope all dates go well ,this thread keeps me sane..

Louby Too right it's his loss! Cowardly sod. Move on.

He is a coward and obviously not ready to date!

OMG louby. Did he text you this, or have the decency to phone?

Ooh she's just who I imagine I am Mademan! Thanks! Love that fifties figure, I embrace it as much as possible but obviously flatter myself a lot in my head to try and boost confidence haha

No it was done via WhatsApp. He said he was shaking as he was typing!!! He felt so bad! It's quite funny really as he was obviously keener than me from the start, he messaged me first, eager to sort a 2nd/3rd date. He wasn't really my type looks wise but I enjoyed his company!

I'm just totally confused. My only consolation is that he's given me a massive ego boost.

Hope everyone has a fab weekend!

Sorry Louby, it always feels so shit when they do that. Try not to overthink his reasons, tell yourself it's his own issues and nothing at all to do with you.

Realised I haven't said about my dating really. I've been single a year, have a five yr old DD. Have been dating throughout the year and never got past date three. To be fair mostly it's been bedroom activities rather than dates and I was intending to just have a total break from it all, after getting attached to one over Xmas and getting hurt again and getting slightly over attached to a FWB. But I have met someone on tinder, I'm unsure where it's going but we have had one date and erm shenanigans occurred. The bloody pretending to be someone else is behind it I swear. Am seeing him Sunday again & we are in constant contact. It's kind of intense but not at the same time, he's lovely not pushy not over the too just chatty. But sexually he's very submissive, it seems to be quite important to him and it's not been the be all and end all of our chats but I am worried he's looking for a Domme not a girlfriend. My life is so weird.

Ursula that's made me smile. A domme not a gf!

I've not even got to date 3 yet. Dated 3 guys since Feb and only got to date 2 each time!

I was messaging someone else during my 2 dates with Mr Tall and tentatively arranged a coffee date with him which I then cancelled because I was seeing Mr Tall a second time. Would it be bad form to get back in touch with him? I did blow him out so not ideal?

It's bloody typical of me to end up with a bloody whip in my hand. I have no idea what I'm supposed to do with him hahaha. Google says he might do the dishes.

louby am so sorry. u said it's an ego boost and you are right. learn the lesson and carry on as you were except the better improved version.

just back from date with baldy. not sure you call going to someone's house and having lots of yummy sex a date but there we are

I really like him. not sure when can see him again. he works shifts and is on lates next week. doesn't finish till 10pm. then he has a lads last match of the season thing Saturday. ..
said we would try to meet up one morning.

on the plus side he told me he had told his mum about me??? so guess that is a positive step

I hate this playing it cool part. I really want to fix a date so I can look forward to it. but part of me also wants to wait and see what he does next?