The Dating Thread 73.

[MadeMan]

Hello and welcome.

update. .. delivery driver guy been and gone. ... now waitibg for police.

Welcome to the thread another

Have a good time and do what feels right louby

Scarey I'm sorry. I don't know what he could possibly say to make that ok. Sending you and

Hope all goes ok white and at least delivery guy is out of the way.

Scarey I am a big fan of the Baggage Reclaim website - Natalie's book got me through an appalling relationship! Try this post for starters: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/understanding-why-someone-fakes-a-future-with-you/

Louby I say wait - I've never regretted waiting longer than I wanted to go to bed with someone, but I've nearly always regretted caving in too soon!

Hello AnotherTry

Scarey So sorry, why? Maybe he is frightened of rejection and therefore keeping all his options open. I think lots of men are doing this because of fear they will dropped. He's hedging his bets. It is almost as though they want a reserve army on which to call. However this leads to a self fulfilling prophecy, their behaviour leads to them being dumped. I would have it out with him face to face. He needs to know that you know. Why slope off and never mention it, these bloody men need pulling up.

Mr C is not well and being his usual contradictory self. First I am too cool, then I am told "you won't like me if you know me better, you'll dump me" actually quite fed up now being told what I think. I know what I think, why do men think they are an authority on what we think!! apparently all his ex GFs wanted to fast forward and got clingy..mmm, well this isn't going to plan for him because I am not being a limpet. Actually thinking seriously that if next week doesn't bring about a more straight forward honest dialogue, I'm out.

That's shit Scarey..I would have done the same as you and checked his ipad btw. I had the same issue myself a while back with pofguy and when I had enough proof (for myself, not him) I texted him about it. We had already had a few heart to hearts about where we were going so I know how it feels to discover he's seemingly not on the same page as you.
Don't rush into a decision about how you want to broach it yet...a text or email might be best if you feel he'd have the upper hand face to face.

Scarey I'd have checked his ipad too. Serves him right for not having a passcode on it, imo. What I'd have done though is a bit more subtle - I'd have screengrabbed the tinder messages so they go into this photos folder on his ipad, then sent him a text saying I'd used his ipad to do some special photos for him and hope he enjoys looking at them when he gets home from work. Then wait. Personally I'd text him to say you know everything and he can get to fuck. However like Dont says, what the hell is he going to say to excuse it? No doubt he'll turn it around to you being at fault for looking at the ipad but you know what? He shouldn't have had the Tinder app on his phone/ipad in the first place because he's seeing you. Lying little shit. I wouldn't be able to forgive that and would have to move on. Hope you're ok.

I've just written a line that I think we should all bear in mind:

Love isn't just something you say or even something you feel. It's something you do and continue to do. Every single day.'

Hope all goes all well as possible and you say what you need to say Scarey

Best of luck scarey..it might be good to have an idea of what you're hoping the outcome to be. Are you having the conversation in order to finish it no matter what he says or are you open to hearing his side?

Hi all!

Can't believe this thread is nearly half way through already...! I'm going to come back and catch up with everyone's news later.

I got back about an hour ago to a pretty much empty house! Big child is stopping over at his friend's house and small child is in a neighbour's garden.

I will update properly later, too, when I've had chance to digest and reflect on it all.

It's been a very interesting few days... Some questions have been answered, some questions have been raised but it's been lovely overall. He told me many times that he loves me, why he loves me and what a big deal that is. I'm beautiful and lovely and sexy and kind and funny.

There was sunshine, music, absinthe and al fresco fornication . What more could a middle aged nearly divorced mum girl want...

folk wow! wow!

Can't wait to hear more

So MCS text me today. Bit weird as he text yesterday and normally he only texts once a week or so to keep me hanging. His text asks if I've been on any dates or gone to any parents' evenings recently (clearly a reference to my fling with Mr Teacher, which MCS knows about ). It comes across as a bit childish, actually, plus why is he so interested? I only noticed his text after work as I've been so busy today, so haven't replied. I might just respond along the lines of 'Wouldn't you like to know!' or just 'No comment!'.

Scarey I think the longer you leave it, the less chance there is of you bringing it up and confronting him because the anger and hurt you felt this morning will dissipate. It's up to you of course but I couldn't live with knowing the man I'm spending lots of quality time with is constantly messaging other women. How long have you been seeing him now?

Folk Good to see you back and so happy .

Scarey Nothing wrong with male fun, just don't get hurt. And now I need to know what job you do that involves people reading skills!

Well I replied to MCS's 'been on any dates/parents evenings' text with 'Im not even going to dignify that with a response'. He immediately replied 'Eh?', then immediately sent another text saying 'I was only joking x' and then another saying 'You ok? x'. I didn't respond to any of them, so he rang me! This is the guy who has never, ever phoned me! Aaarrgghhhh! I didn't answer. My friend Martin (who got a blow-by-blow as it happened account) says I should have answered and just said 'Look, if we aren't dating then it's none of your business. If you want to date me then you need to ask'. I think I need to do that if he rings again. This whole MCS situation needs bringing to a conclusion one way or the other.

We'll see what tomorrow brings.

Folkgirl that's great news. See sometimes things do work out for you

I'm still very happy and in love with MrKids, he also told me last night that he loves me too!! Was over the moon

Just didn't believe it was possible to find a man who feels the same way as I do about him. It feels like a dream and I'm like a silly schoolgirl again.

We've spent a lot of time together on our own and with all our 7 kids he loves mine and I love his!

Sorry if this sounds like a showing off post but believe me it's taken almost 3 years and so so many messed up dates/idiots to find him.

All I can say is 'don't give up ladies, there is someone for us all out there'