The Dating Thread 73.

[MadeMan]

Hello and welcome.

On POF they will see if they try to send a message to you. Not sure on match.

My heart!! Toryboy sent me a message to say 'hello aka alter ego...

I thought he'd found me on here! But no, thank goodness it was the name I'm writing my book under. It really wouldn't do for toryboy to know all my secrets!

Oh no, can;t handle the drama of him knowing I blocked him. He's on my FB, has my phone number, knows where i live etc :/

Which are the best sites BTW? For non mental people.

Opinion differs. I've met a couple of normal guys on match.

Chatting to lovely seeming guy on POF, but weird ex was from there, so I'll reserve judgement.

Personally, I've found okcupid full of nutters, but some people like it.

Tinder = sexual deviants

Yes I can's go on Tinder because i live in a small place and was getting recognised on the street :/ It was also matching me up with the teenage sons of my friends :/

it doesnt matter if he knows, put ya big girl panties on do it, do it on fb too, let him be drama llama, just ignore him n move on..he'l soon get the message
i dont know about other sites, im only on pof, its all i can handle at min, from what iv read on here there all as bad as each other really, some like match, some like tinder. it does all get v disheartening, i have breaks of a few days off here and there, then when i feel tough enuff to handle it i get back on it.

do u know what im finding hard to find..someone im attracted to and who also has a personality...seems the two dont often go hand in hand!! Mr short is good looking..but i feel abit like im pulling teeth..not good, im really hoping he ups his game!!

Thanks for the responses. Much appreciated. I'm really cross and she knows I think she's been naiive and putting herself at risk. She has 3 Dc's and is solely responsible for them. She doesn't tell me til AFTER the date and then, when I say "WTF?".. She replies with "I knew you'd say that". So she knows she's being unsafe. I just think she's so friendly and nice that someone could easily take the piss. Argh

I'm getting tired of replying to men's messages. Think I'm getting jaded. But - I am making progress in the bye bye Geeky game. I'm looking forward to the day when he's gone from my mind forever.

It's so hard 4free - attraction is an elusive thing.

redundant I guess all you can do is advise her and be there as a point of contact if she needs you.

Well I've agreed to a third date now (& I think we're going on a walk where there's art and stuff to look at, which might take the pressure off) so I'll just see how it goes...

I've also got in touch with another guy I was chatting with off tinder. He texted me a drunken marriage proposal within 3 hours of me sending him my number, which was a bit unnecessary. My friend said I don't need another flakey pisshead in my life (& she's right) but I might give him the benefit of the doubt once as well. We've agreed to a drink 'next week' which is nicely vague and means I can change my mind!

Can someone please summarise who Toryboy and Geekyalike are? I'm guessing one is a Tory and the other...(!)

Also, White - what are the police involved about? Hope you're ok :(

Geekyalike is identical to my ex, Geeky, who I fell in love with on thread 63 and who broke my heart on thread 68. There was a trip to Paris and some emotional abuse in the interim. However Geekyalike appears to be a sexual pervert who I shouldn't meet.

Toryboy reads the Times and likes Michael Gove. On our first date I argued with him about politics, did an impression of a Russian woman he'd dated once, lectured an alcoholic about giving up the booze until Toryboy kicked my foot to get me to shut up... Date 2 Friday!

Hope date 3 goes well maggie

Eeek white, that sounds awkward. Hope police don't make things get worse for you, but you did the right thing x

update...
delivery driver guy will have been and gone before police arrive. they aren't coming till half 11. dunno if its worth going thru with the whole thing cos I could jist ignore him??? but he seems quite persistent....

on more positive front... baldy text tonight. told him had to go to make call on skype. .. and he got all needy and suppose you got a better offer etc... I just sent him a and logged off.

later on I mesaaged him saying it wasn't all that great. and then spoke on the phone and had really good chat. much more positive and open. not specifically about our relationship but talking about the future. so I am a happy camper tonight.
moral of the story. .. I don't really like playing games but didn't hurt to keep him guessing for an hour or so. I wouldn't want to meet other guys at the moment but this showed me that he is keen and could be a little bit jealous.

sorry may sound a bit pathetic but it made me happy!

also I met baldy on okcupid.

the only reason I went for it was cos I read on here somewhere that okcupid was full of folk from Oxford which is where I live... folk... wierdos.... whatever. .. there are plenty local to me...

had to explain to boss about police visit. police will conduct interview thing in thier car in the car park...
told boss it was to do with court case after joy riders smashed up my car before Christmas

Haha hon, you sound like my kind of woman! good luck on Friday!

Seeing Mr IT tonight , tea and a movie night,
He just texted to say did I want to go swimming in the morning with him.
Not sure how I feel about this does it mean he want to spend more time with me or just being polite.
I prob won't get back on her today it I guess I wanted to get this off my chest
Prob over thinking woke up having an anxiety attack and struggling at work

X

scarey I would be gutted at that. What is wrong with these men. They are just low lifes aren't they?

How can there be any trust now, you will always be wondering!

I bet if you back off he'll be chasing you....

So MrTall is coming over on Saturday and I'm cooking a meal, we may walk over to the pub, we shall see.

Lots of texting everyday which is really nice. I do a lot of Zumba and he's said jokingly a few times about date#3 being about me showing him my 'zumba moves' which of course is code for sex. It's all in good humour!

I'm very torn about this. But I know I have no will power. Friends are divided and say just go for it, see it as a bit of fun and getting to know him better, others are like, no!! wait a bit longer!

With size 14 feet I'm just hoping that all the growth hormones haven't gone to his feet and bypassed other areas!

May I join you?

I'm in my 50s - long term relationship ended 2 years ago. Tried OD after that and met a number of men for drinks/coffee dates. They all seemed decent sorts but were dull as ditch water weren't my type (whatever that is).

Feel I'm quite savvy about OD learnt a lot from lurking on the dating thread but it would be nice to share my next foray into OD with you, if thats ok

scarey I am so sorry. you must be feeling really shit

louby fuck it. enjoy yourself.

another welcome