The Dating Thread 73.

[MadeMan]

Hello and welcome.

superfly haven't we all. and those dickheads have spoilt it for most of us because we are so worried about making another mistake that we can't just have fun and enjoy it...

dont keep a copy of that with you to read in weaker moments to remind yourself. you deserve the best

Hi - has anyone ever done online dating with 'Professional Free and Single'? I am on Match but I'm bored of it and wondered about trying a month on this one. I'd never heard of it before. There looks to be a lot of the dreaded text talk but I'm a bit of a pedant and maybe that's just commonplace on all the online dating sites now.... Any recommendations/experiences of this one would be much appreciated.

Thanks white and Chase/stranger. When I wrote it all down I couldn't fail to see it. It was was obvious. The constant references to his ex girlfriends, the comparisons (even if positive - it set up a sense of competition), the references to his penchant for very slim women, his extreme jealousy and inability to compromise, his comments about my children being messy and noisy....I have kept the book off here, as I think I want it published, but it was very clear.
No experience of that site, knitted. I hate text talk, but I screen carefully to get rid of it.

Oh and the future-faking. The manufactured intensity. The selfie he took of us kissing in front of the Eiffel tower - something he admitted he'd done with other girlfriends (in love with love - much?). And when I got muddled with my cup of tea on the eurostar cos I was nervous and tried to pick up the whole tray, he hissed 'just take the cup.'

don't keep the memories coming. I did this with my abusive xh and it really helped.

dont I'm so glad you've started to write this for 2 reasons. I watched a prog on BBC2 last night about Amazon (Amazon's Retail Revolution: Business Boomers) some guy has become a mega successful author having published his novels there...no publisher rejection slips cos the reviewer was pre-mestrual that day! just public acceptanc/rejection on the quality of the content! Might be a good route for you to take (he's since been picked up by a publisher and gone to print!!!).

But the other reason is that today's chapter has been cathartic for you. Given you clarity on geeky and, goodness me, the French trip tale made me shiver. You dodged a bullet there sweety.

Hope Fleetwood's being kind to you....a bit rainy today

Try and catch the Amazon thing on catch up...was an eye opener!

Dont I'm so glad you can now see what we can, but the more you remember the more I'm like this . I'm looking forward to reading your book when it's published!

I really cba with POF tonight and haven't bothered replying to my most recent messages. Feel like a rude cow but I don't really fancy any of them so what's the point? I'm still pining after MCS. I really need to get a grip.

Blimey, don't I am another one who is happy for you that you have swerved an EA - I had one for 7 years and I keep pinching myself to realise how relieved I am to have got away. I'm also relieved to have got my children away from the 24/7 passive aggressive, and then frequently aggressive, comments he slung my way.

How do you filter out text talk though - is there an actual filter for it on dating site searches???!

I'll try to catch that Amazon programme. Toryboy mentioned he was watching that last night. fifty Fleetwood is v rainy, but it's been lovely to get away. I've done lots of writing and played board games wwith the kids today. Got archery and swimming and hopefully fish and chips on the beach if it cheers up tomorrow.

softkitty it's given me the shivers as well actually. I'm remembering how he told me about the ex who pulled a knife on him once and I'm wondering if it's true.

Soft I'm not replying to any of the twattish messages. If they can't be bothered to say more than hi, tailor their messages to me or try and be witty/interesting, I can't be bothered replying.

Got one tonight from 'invisableman' (sic), I thought Mr, if you can't even fucking spell your ID right, I ain't even opening the message. However, curiosity won out and I got mmmmmmmmmwow hi gorgeous xx how u doin? xxx

Plus = he spelt gorgeous right.
Minus = text speak and proliferation of mms...perhaps he has a sticky keyboard?!

NEXT!

knitted no, I wish there was. There bloody should be! I just ignore anyone who uses it.

Laughing at invisable man!

Toryboy just texted to ask if there's much to do in Fleetwood when it's raining. He's actually a sweetie, I'm thinking.

Disclaimer: my previous typos due to crappy old lappy after I killed the latest with wine. Oh, and user error due to .

Apologies to all!

Started new job today, line manager asked me to spell out my name for my badge. My surname is double barrelled. When I got to the hyphen, and said hyphen, I saw her write down an apostrophe. I politely took the paper, crossed it out and inserted the required -

Clearly she was puzzled, so I said 'it's a dash'!

That she understood! Grrr I despair! (Hence my apology for my typos).

Is it just me that's anal about spelling/grammar?

ok ladies freaking out a bit... after last night saga with delivery driver had a niggle about him... put his name in google and fuck me I got a shock. he got done before Christmas for benefit fraud. but more scary there is slightly dubious article saying he is a sex offender.
this has proper freaked me out. because I have to see him thru work I have pondered it all day and in the end made a request through sarahs law.
ffs... wtf is going on? if this turns out to be true he is the second registered sex offender I have come across since starting OLD.
The first one was off pof. I reported him to police who took details for intelligence.
am pretty much freaking out especially cos he knows where I live.
Thank god I never let him stay over.
I have totally freaked out and deleted all my online profiles now.

police phoned back and took all details and now waiting face to face meeting with police officer to be told what is going on.

don't please put in your book in huge letters to google the prospective dates name and home town before date zero just to check.
for the record baldy I have checked out. I have mutual friends with him... he is from my home town. so am as sure as reasonably possible he has no record.

please be careful ladies

also baldy been in touch today recommending various cold treatments and hoping I feel better for friday for our date.
am hoping he is like slow and a bit shy and inexperienced rather than a confident psycho

And don't even get me started on the messages in French......I only got O level and I did mix up my haricot verts with my petit pois.....so I'm not even going to attempt 'le proof reading Francais'!!!

Oh my goodness, white!!! That's so scary. I will mention about checking prospective dates in my book now.

jeez wdb that was a bullet swerved! Will you tell him you googled him? I'm surprised he still has a job if he's been convicted for those offences. Are you sure it's the same guy? I do have issues with naming an alleged offender if no conviction.

Anyway, your spidey senses kicked in....they're there for a reason.

wdb I'm confused, you say you found incriminating stuff on google about delivery man. Then you say you have mutual friends so you're sure he has no record. Yet the police are involved?

I cannot TELL you how pleased I am to see you write that dont We weren't just trying to spoil things for you, you know?

white WTAF???

fifty the benefit fraud is definitely him. and it marries ip with things he told me... obviously he didn't tell me that but dates match up with his new job and moving house etc.
not sure about the sex offender bit. was an article from a local paper but didnt quite ring true. hence ringing police.

the language was wierd in the article ... kept referring to "cops" and "pervert" and what it said his job was didn't match the headline... it said he was a kids football coach but then said he worked in an admin office for a kids football training company... was wierd.
I read it out to police lady and she agreed it was wierd.
I know I could just tell him to fuck off but I still have to see him at work. and the usual time he delivers I am the only member of staff in the building so feel pretty vulnerable.

no fifty delivery guy is the suspected criminal.

baldy is local lad I am dating who I have mutual friends with... sorry for confusion

I've just written this:

When my (very cute and small) son unwittingly opened the bathroom door when Mr Geeky was washing his hands, he gestured at the broken door lock that I hadn't got round to fixing. In the same voice he'd used during the episode we''ll refer to as 'tea-tray gate' he hissed: 'you'd better sort that.' Next minute: sweetness and light. It was so subtle, I thought I'd imagined it.