The Dating Thread 73.

[MadeMan]

Hello and welcome.

but would hate to think baldy was seeing someone else... except he told me that he wanted to still be able to meet others for coffee if we wanted to????

such little warning would piss me off big style. My drive by shag lovely guy knows to give me notice and NEVER surprise me!! Also, he clearly thinks you've nothing better to do.

And after garlic bread and feeling minging, dashing around to be appealing to him is just stressful! I think you've already made your mind up though...

And also, sleep in van? That's a bit low quality....

EXACTLY that Urs!

to be honest wdb if you're feeling grim with a cold, you're not going to give the best performance be at the top of your game!!! And probably not looking your best either.

I'd swerve this tonight and make him try a bit a lot harder!

If he makes you go weak at the knees why do you want to get him out your system? seems like a contradiction in terms. Surely if he has that effect on you, you might like to play a cat and mouse game and see if he is still keen. Even "players" or men out to have fun fall for someone eventually!

I have rang him and told him no sex at all.

I know that he can behave because he proved that to me last week.

no sex. I promise. got date with baldy friday and would rather shag him anybday...

also I know I could have delivery driver if baldy doesn't work out... it's not like it's my only opportunity

I think it helps to know there are a few of us in this position. We can be strong together.

Just got blocked on POF for not replying straight away. The guy looked nice. He messaged me today and I thought I'd reply tonight. Anyway he sent a 'thanks for replying' sarcastic message. So I said 'I was going to reply but I'm on holiday and busy.' he said 'yeah that's what they all say. You're [sic] loss. Buh bye.' I messaged back to say ok - but wrong your. He's blocked me!

Oh hope all goes well white whatever you decide to do.

White If you don't want him to come over, just tell him not to. It's your house and it's up to you who you invite into it. If you do want him to come over, then ignore that last sentence .

Little I haven't had a date with MCS since mid-Feb and I last saw him about a 5 or 6 weeks ago when he gave me a lift to work when my car was in the garage (he works close to where I do). The last time he suggested meeting up, he text offering to come over with a bottle of wine - this was at 9pm so I declined as I'm not his booty call . Yes, I've stated that I'm not the kind of woman who's willing to be scheduled into his life as he sees fit, and that it's best we just leave it. He keeps sending the odd text though. I know he's only dropping me just enough attention to keep me a little bit interested and to remind me that he's there, and that I'm only an option to him, but I really like(d) him and a tiny bit of me kind of wants him to keep in touch. If I tell him to fuck off once and for all, I'll know that's really the end. By him staying in touch, the stupid, naive and idiotically hopeful side of me thinks there's the slightest chance for us, even though my rational, intellectual side knows there isn't. That's why Dont's line about intellectual and emotional clarity rang so true with me.

I haven't yet replied. Still deciding whether to.

definitely no sex tonight. ..

dont I sent a nice message to a guy last night, on the lines of....'ok, you've winked at me twice now, so what's next?'

He replied saying 'you sound angry'!!!

WTAF??? I told him he was clearly issued up and blocked him!!

Too many freakin' crazies out there!!!

That made me chuckle fifty

I have toryboy, Westminster guy and ONS guy all texting today. Don't want to see ONS again.

Littlebluemouse- where in the country are you? Only my date lives/owns a boat which seems a coincidence.

Hmm.. I don't know if I have the thick skin needed for old. I had my 2nd date on The weekend and we've agreed another date. But I've also been asked on a date with someone else. I feel bad going on another date as I know I wouldn't like it if date no1 was going on other dates too. I keep noticing that he's online on pof and wondering why!

How can I get passed how I feel? I'm guessing in theory it's fine if either of us is still going on other dates?

Also how much contact are you all having with your men between dates? Date1 is texting me most nights and so I'm worried we will eventually run out of things to talk about and hell lose interest!

shag update... delivery driver arrived. had a cup of tea and nice chat and I gave him a blanket and off he trotted.

totally respected what I told him
.. no sex. was v sweet. he has restored my faith in men

no longer want to shag him. much rather have baldy and be patient. baldy much more straightforward. not a player at all.

but delivery driver will keep as a friend!

Just a thought, I asked a friend of mine who I've known for ten years what he considers sexy.
And he says it depends see he was no help

The thought came after Mr IT texted me saying you looked really sexy at the petrol station earlier.
I hadn't seen him but it made me wonder what ppl consider is sexy.
For the record I was in jeans flip flops and a vest top .
He calls me sexy a lot of time but he never comments on what I'm wearing
I did text back saying sure that for me in a joking way and he said yes blond big boobs tight jeans so he knew it was me lol

So what are pols opinions
In end mate said red lipstick ?

Am starting to think this should be renamed the dickhead thread!! Lol! Feeling totally disillusioned with all online dating atm!!

denton tell me about it.

feeling crap... full of cold and sore throat. just want a little tlc and someone normal to talk to

have just deactivated or deleted all my old profiles except one... fucked off with the whole thing

I was thinking Tinder was the way forward but the ones I've been talking to all seem to be after one thing, married and lying, or far too keen, although maybe that's the male race in general! lol! Meant to be meeting one for a drink tomorrow night, but he's not replied when I asked where he wants to meet, so think I'll knock that one on the head, I hate last minute answers! I think maybe I'm going for the wrong types.....I'm in my 40s and I've been chatting to guys in early 30s, but I just don't fancy guys my age and older, grrrr! Perhaps I just have to settle for an older, boring, balding type, lol!

oh shit, oh shit oh shit.... think I'm more and more liking the sound (and looks) of Mexican Investment Banker Kung Fu - anyone think of a name for him for me?!

having nice chats too...

dont - I can't believe some men re the one who was off with you re a late reply, what do they expect, you're around waiting for their call/text/message?!

Good to have choice for you though with 3 men texting.

Denton - I was jaded, until I found someone I liked on Match Crapfinity - there ARE some nice older men out there who are single and looking.

I'm now sort of panicking - the Mexican - does this mean at 40 because he's single, you know what we all say here, single at 40 for a man means something's up? Well I don't think that but some here do! But should I pay attention to 'single at 40 for men worries' or not?

Mr IT just asked me over for tea n DVD tomorrow night as he away all weekend at football.
Well my first reaction was yes !
But said Thursday be better for me as I'd got semi plans Wed lol
I haven't but although I'm happy with seeing him minor having a man think I've nowt better to do.

My plans were bathing the dog
Lol

superfly I wouldn't worry about it. concentrate on the good bits and see what happens. The way I see it... we are all single at 40 or whatever and we are all ok... except most of us had the misfortune of getting involved with some dickhead exp and having children!

white - in my case it's been a few dickheads but luckily or not luckily not having children with them!

I've written my red flags chapter of my book. It was painful and cleansing to write. I've realised, with absolute clarity, that geeky was unquestionably emotionally abusive.