The Dating Thread 73.

[MadeMan]

Hello and welcome.

wdb no worries, I'm clear on the difference between delivery guy and baldy

I don't think you need to feel vulnerable about delivery guy, just because of what you've learned today. He could have taken advantage last night, or at the knee tremble moment if he's that way inclined. Plus, your not a boy under 16.

I'd just be inclined to be cool towards him from now on at work.

Doh wdb re differences.....the penny's just dropped

fifty I get that. just clarifying why I went to police.

not a personal witch hunt. sex offender number 1 I met I just told him I chickened out of the whole OLD thing.

dont sounds to me like geeky was doing a good job with/on you, until you called him on it. Good call, you need congratulating

Bloody hell White! Can't believe that! When will your Sarah's Law request give you a response?

The only thing I can suggest is to tell him that you've started seeing someone so would just like to be friends with him. I wouldn't mention that you know anything about his criminal record because you never know how he'd react to you a) googling him and b) knowing.

Thanks fifty. It's thanks to the support on here that I spotted it. Though I didn't want to see it.

Hope you're ok white that is scary.

soft exactly.

Apparently the way it works is police investigate the person in first 24 hours then they meet you face to face to discuss risk and then they make a decision and come back to you one way or the other saying if the person is a possible risk to you or not.

delivery driver knows I am seeing baldy. so will tell him I met baldy again and we are going exclusive and can we just be friends.

yikes! !!

don't again lots of us have been there.

I never saw the light about exh or exp and thier abusive behaviour until I posted on here. and even then it took a long time to sink in

About 6 years ago, I met a guy who turned out to be a proper psycho. I googled him the next day to find he'd done serious time in Wandsworth for fraud!! Epic swerve there! It was a very strange date and to this day I'm surprised I got out alive, his growing anger just served to make me laugh even more...not sure who the nutter was back then!!! (I even went back to retrieve my forgotten jacket!!).

I shall post the whole story on the 'what was your worst date ever' thread!!!

fucking scary shit... please do your homework ladies xx

am having a nostalgia moment here and thinking about all the close calls I've had in life....knifepoint in Amsterdam at 18 being the first I must have a guardian angel

the strikethrough was a fail then!

and so as not to derail.....70% of views/winks on Match have no profile pic. I think this is unacceptable from a paid site. Why would they allow anyone access to people who've paid, from people who haven't posted a pic? I really feel cheated.

F*k f*k
I think I've messed up! As you know I'm new to online dating, In fact any dating for the past 20yrs.

So I met someone online and we've been for two dates and arranged a third. whenever I look online to check new messages I noticed he was online a lot. So a friend told me that your meant to go on dates with a number of different men and it got me thinking that whilst I wasn't arranging to meet up with anyone else maybe he was. However, I didn't want to be not doing the same if he is and neither did I want to be seeing others if he wasn't. So .... I asked him what he was doing and if he was dating others it was fine but could he let me know. Now I've just come across as some jealous, psyco type and probably frightened the poor bloke off.
I've ruined it haven't i? I should've just kept my thoughts to myself and not asked him. Arggggg... Why did I do it?

Hi all experienced daters. My lovely friend has been OLD for about a year now and the first bloke she met broke her heart. So she's recovering, but still meeting up with blokes.

About a month ago I babysat for her so she could meet bloke A. Then she tells me he's picking her up from her house. Was I right to be cross with her and say she has 3 kids in the house and I'm in charge and I see her getting into a car with a total stranger???

So last weekend she meets up with a guy she's been emailing for a few weeks. She drives MILES to his house (she told me previously they were meeting in a pub half way). So she's in his house and his mate turns up. My response is "so you're in a strange blokes house and his friend appears. You are vulnerable. "

Tell me I'm not overreacting. She sort of laughs at me and says stuff like "I knew you'd say that". I don't want to sound harsh but I'm just thinking of her kids and her own personal safety. She suffered DV with ex and IMHO is still a bit on the vulnerable side.

Scarey can you call him and just ask him? You've spent enough time with him to be able to this.

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canihave I did this too. started a conversation basically fishing to find out if he liked me enough to not want to look at others.

when I asked baldy he said he would be ok if I just wanted to meet someone for a coffee. this was by text so I rang him and dug myself in a bit of a hole. we agreed that if we were going to meet others we would tell eachother first.

This obviously wasnt what I wabted to hear. I wanted him to say that he was quite happy to see where he and I went.
after that I just left it.
sorry probably not helping you very much. I tried to back off a bit and not be too needy and it all seems to be fine.

Don't suppose that helps you much. I think alot of men feel just as insecure as we do but don't show it.

moral of the story... just put it behind you and carry on. be confident that what will be will be and if it doesn't work out with him it's because you arw destined to be with someone better later on x

White, thanks. I could just kick myself for even starting the conversation in the first place. I should've just let it be! I'm stressing now and don't know if I should send a message apologising or if that will make it worse and if I should just not mention it again.

I'm worrying encase I've messed everything up

Redundant I wouldn't drive to someone's house or allow them to pick me up on a first date. But then I woke up with a random man in my bed last week, so who am I to offer advice? But I agree, she sounds vulnerable.

Still chatting to geekyalike. He's weird. I know I should stop. Date with Toryboy on Friday. He wishes me goodnight everyday.

dont - nothing wrong with chatting to geekyalike. Toryboy sounds lovely - what's wrong?! is he too nice??

Scarey - re the Tinder. Big red flag for me. Unless he came up with a water tight explanation.

Mexican Boxing Banker (that's his new name) wants to meet me for lunch or coffee near my work next week. getting a few messages from other men but his stand out.

super no he's lovely. He's just not geeky. My friend reckons if I really liked him then I wouldn't still be looking though and that niggles. With geeky I immediately cancelled all other dates. And it's very slow - but I think that's what I need. I'm holding back. There might be something there with Toryboy. I'm not sure. Our date on Friday will illuminate matters I hope.

Mexican boxing banker - I love it! He could be MBB for short. You have to date him just for the name.

Geekyalike just wants sex and is a very odd person.