The Dating Thread 73.

[MadeMan]

Hello and welcome.

It's a good buzz word. I'd do well to remember that the man who respected me would ask how I was after a biopsy, would wish my dd a happy birthday, would tell his parents about me, introduce me to his friends, would tell people he was going to Paris with me, wouldn't endlessly discuss his exes, wouldn't say 'shit happens' when I said I was hurting...

don't that is exactly it.

screen shot that last post and look at it every time you feel your resolve weakening.

you deserve so much better

I've actually included a lot of that material in my book. There was, I've realised, a fundamental mismatch between geeky's words and geeky's actions. Even the whole 'I've never felt like this before' was manipulative. I felt in competition with his exes, desperate to gain and maintain his approval and then he withdrew it when he dumped me. I have intellectual clarity. Emotional clarity wavers.

white when was the last time you heard from baldy? ...see i like the man to chase me(hence the reluctence to mess first)..so id wait, i woudnt ring him unless i felt comfortable to do so, if it felt like a proper relationship . if he knows your ill then it would have bin nice for him to at least txt to see how u are...consideration, abit of thought, these things go along way.

oh dont exactly, exactly all those things..ur worth so much more that that!! sending you

Jarlin I think slow might be better. Things happened very quickly with geeky. I'm trying to like Toryboy. I do a bit, but there's a wall up.

Thanks 4free. I'll get over him I guess. At the moment, I don't want to send that email. It could change.

having more conv from POF (free) than Match (paid). Keep getting emails from guys on Match Affinity, who are asking me to subscribe to see them! That pisses me off.

Mr boxer dog trucker not very forthcoming...just little replies all about his dog! Don't think he's that bright! Another from POF messaged with 'nice profile fifty...have you scared many away?'!!!!

Ha ha, I've toned it down further deleted the 'not for the faint hearted' line

Blacklisted the Match stalker...this is going soooooo well not!

Dont how's the caravan? It's been lovely oop north today

WDB...think I've missed something there re. baldy

Start new job tomorrow so really should NOT be quaffing this

jarlin thank you. I feel better now. will be patient. I really do like him but think it might be a slow burn thing

I have intellectual clarity. Emotional clarity wavers.

Dont I think you've summed up the situations of quite a few of us on this thread with those two short sentences. I know you have with me anyway, with regard to MCS. I know he's not right for me but I still pine for him. He text me last weekend - I didn't reply because I'm trying to go cold turkey. He's just text again this evening. I feel rude not responding - in fact I really want to - but feel there's little point as it won't change anything. Will it?

4free am in unreasonable and self pity mood. baldy not aware of my illlness really. am just being impatient bitch

emergency situation delivery driver just rang. says I sound miserable and is coming over. ... help????

he says he is happy to sit and drink tea and will sleep in his van and go to work tomorrow. he lives an hour away ffs.

should I shag him and get it out of my system? I don't really want to do that

except part of me does.... jist once and move on

wtf????????

White thank you, I feel much the same about Mr C, sporadic contact, lack of concern at times and at others, like when I am actually with him he is very intense, romantic and talking about future plans. I really don't know where I am with him. I'm not insecure but this makes me feel insecure.

I have intellectual clarity. Emotional clarity wavers yep, I get this. Mentally I know what is what, emotionally I want for something I probably can't have, at least not on terms I want.

SoftKittyWarmKitty Have you actually just said to MCS, "look I don't want to be your text friend, or your stop gap or whatever, I'm looking for a relationship...do you want that with me? Yes...great, No then go find someone else to text" When did you see him last? Does he suggest meeting at all?

white ooh, you say you would, but do you really want to? I guess if he is offering to make tea and sleep in his van, you could always make him sleep on sofa and not do sex.

little he kissed me at work last week and I went weak at the knees.... I think I could shag him and get him out of my system. .. but feel minging. need a shower and tidy up and ate garlic bread for tea! !!!

If you don't want him to come over just tell him not to, give a good excuse if needs be. Don't shag him because you're feeling down (says me ha!)

wdb no no no no!!!

you know what he's coming for!

but I do want to shag him... it is pure lust and nothing else...

Why do men assume you're ready to go with ten mins notice fucking hell I need an hour to shave everywhere for a start