Is it true most men would rather be with women under 35?

[adjani77]

Unfortunately for me I have been reading a lot online on the "manosphere" recently and a lot about what men think about women ( or a certain kind of man). Talk about "Sexual market Value" which basically amount to women of 30+ are basically hideous monsters to men their own age and older. I see this to on dating websites where men mostly are prepared to date women 10 - 15 years younger but will often not even want to date women the same age as them!

In the press recently 2 high profile men Stephen Hendry and Rowan Atkinson have both left their wives for women half their age (both women are also dead ringers for the 1st wives!).

I find it really depressing. I understand that we can get attracted to other people but if you have a good marriage, if your man is getting love, sex, affection and friendship surely he will have no reason to stray right?

I just don't know. Perhaps I am just worried about getting older 40 in a few years and how will that affect my partners satisfaction with me?

It seems that even men who are happy and love their wives / partners can fall in love with someone else, someone younger and transfer their love and affection to another. I guess I just need to accept that nothing is ever certain in life.

Has anyone else read any of that manosphere stuff about women and SMV etc what do you think?

[neiljames77]

....oh and Grolsh bottle tops on my laces. What was all that about?

[AnyFucker]

heh

VW sign thingies around the neck

My dad had a VW, he was incensed when it was nicked

[Tinks42]

Im 51 and have many admirers.. Find the ones that want young rather sad twats

[superstarheartbreaker]

This is such a depressing thread especially as I've just turned 36 :-( . Having said that, many of the messages I'm getting on Tinder are from young lads in their 20s who like experienced women!

[neiljames77]

You should only get depressed if you're into blokes that drive BMW's, have all their body hair waxed and read FHM. Other than that, you should be ok.

[Tinks42]

what on earth has a car got to do with anything?
what on earth has hairy or non hairy got to do with anything?
reading FHM is a bit silly unless you are under 25

thanks for telling me I "should" be ok [smiles]

[Darkesteyes]

My dad had a 1975 Mercedes in the 80s Apart from me being sick on the back seat at 8 years old on way back from Butlins Skeggy in 81, later in the 80s he used to park it at the allotment he had and he got the emblem on the front snapped off and nicked 3 times because of that Beastie Boys craze.
I had a very big perm in the late 80s Never again.

[neiljames77]

Tinks42 It was because superstar said it was depressing.
Those 3 things though, together with a permatan and bleached teeth on a middle aged man is the kind of bloke the op is talking about I think.
The attention span of a goldfish and about as deep as a papercut.
Those are the blokes that set parameters of what they're prepared to accept in a woman and I don't think they're in the majority.

[Darkesteyes]

Deep as a papercut

[Tinks42]

Neil (guessing that's your name) I really think you are in a world that you 'shouldnt' even try to understand. I also personally think its rather freaky that you would want to be on here. If a guy I dated told me he was on mumsnet id laugh (not in a good way) think twat and never go out with him again.

[handfulofcottonbuds]

tinks - I think your post is a little harsh. MN isn't just for women and there are quite a lot of men on here who also give good advice and support.

You don't have to be a woman to understand most of the dilemmas posted on here and this thread is specifically asking whether men would rather date a woman under 35.

I welcome men's views as well as women's. I read it that neil's reply was directed at superstar but I could have it wrong?

FWIW - I think some men like the idea of dating a woman under 35 but it all changes when your personality shines through. I don't look my age and if I was in a bar, I certainly wouldn't have a man ask me how old I was before he decided to date me. They go by (initially) how you look and then by your personality - as I do too.

[neiljames77]

I suppose a year ago, if one of my mates would have told me that he posted on MN, I'd probably think the same of him.
I only originally posted on here because I wanted a female perspective on a relationship problem. I like it on here though. I'm as surprised as anyone.

When I'm ready to start dating again, I'll make sure I don't ask you out.(it won't be because of your age though)

[Darkesteyes]

Sorry but I think Neil comes across really well and a lot of his posts have made me giggle which ive needed lately.

I don't mind him being on here at all.

[RyvitaSesame]

There are some male posters that land on mn to put wimmen in their place but wouldnt have put neiljames in that category. I think women are more conversational. Not every conversation has to be about somethingvspecific. It is justvwhere the chat flows. That doesnt suit all men but some enjoy it. Do you enjoy fiction neiljames? I think men that mn like fiction. Have met so many men who say they only like non fiction, autobiographies, books about a topic.
I likeca man who is like a woman. Unless it is neil parsons.

[Darkesteyes]

Ryvita I reckon you will like this author then (if you haven't heard of him already)

www.douglaskennedynovelist.com/

[RyvitaSesame]

i have one on my shelf. The title puts me off "a special relationship". It has been on my shelf for 7 years!

I love jonathan tropper. He is american. have read them all Except the last.

[neiljames77]

Thanks for the kind words everyone.

I think Tinks may have thought I was having a go at her in some way. I wasn't though.

Erm.........I'm not like a woman at all!!!
I'm just under 6' tall and weigh 15st!!
I'm ashamed to say I don't read ANY books. My mind wanders too much and I'd rather wait until the film comes out.

[neiljames77]

I did admit up-thread though to being a twat. Tinks has got me on that one.

[Darkesteyes]

[BreakingDad77]

I would agree with Kelly and jelly earlier, powerful men will happily take up with the deluded women who throw themselves at them, and hence nurse each others ego.

Among my peers it's seen as bit weird why u need to go out with a young drama ridden person. Tire of the neurotic texts and calls and go for someone more similar.

A confident women can shine at any age, older women I have found though write themselves off more earlier than men in the attractiveness stakes and couldn't be further wrong.

Wasn't there a survey not long ago where it had women like fern brittain etc as women that men actually go for?

[UtterFool]

You should only get depressed if you're into blokes that drive BMW's, have all their body hair waxed and read FHM. Other than that, you should be ok.^

Neil, im going to start getting a complex (hides car keys, wax and copy of FHM)

Tinks

Bit harsh there imho. Despite being a non hairy, FHM reading BMW driver, I was made to feel very welcome when I first visited.

This may be a predominantly female space but im not a troll and it's good to learn and gain a female perspective. Surely it's better that men try to see the world from the other side (so to speak) thsn take none at all?

Although if the consensus is that men aren't welcome then I'd graciously part company

[Tiredstilltired]

I think most women over the age of 25 would think any guy who reads fhm us a bit cringeworthy.
Rather like a spotty, nervous teen from school. A big turn off.

[Hickorydickory12]

Ha ha just read that George Clooney has got engaged to a 36 year old woman.
The ultimate guy who could have anyone chooses someone over 35!

[Fasttouch]

Well he is 52 so that is still a large age gap.

[Hickorydickory12]

Yes def an age gap. But even older men have a limit re age.