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The Dating Thread 72

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LizzieBelle · 30/03/2014 11:10

Welcome Grin

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louby44 · 01/04/2014 18:31

folk so glad you chatted and cleared a few things up.

Poffedoff · 01/04/2014 19:25

Really delighted for you folk..what a fantastic outcome for you. I doubt there could have been anything else he could have said to reassure you by the sounds of it. You've got a good 'un there but don't forget, so does he!

ordinarybloke · 01/04/2014 20:04

Sorry louby,I misread your comment about the postie.

Dont,could there be a chapter in your book written by men - perhaps stating that there are some decent examples of us in the OLD world?

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girliefriend · 01/04/2014 21:51

Folk Yayyyyy!!

I knew he was a good un Grin

Keep up the positivity though, don't let the demons sneak in.

LizzieBelle · 01/04/2014 23:03

loving the chapter titles don't!
you forgot 'I like you, but who's round the corner?'

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LizzieBelle · 01/04/2014 23:18

Yay folk!!!xxxxxxx

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dontcallmehon22 · 01/04/2014 23:58

Good point lizzie. And so pleased, folk.

Here is an extract from chapter 7.

If you hold my willy, it helps with my sense of direction.

This dating book wouldn't be complete without a selection of cringeworthy horror stories, purely for your entertainment. I know, I know, I'm good to you.

This section is named in honour of Geeky, who swept me away with his romantic affluence. I was like a boat, drifting on a sea of love-sewage.

Geeky loved me. Really loved me. We'd both never felt like this before. Reader, it was intense. So intense, in fact, that just eight weeks after meeting, we'd booked a mini break to one of the most romantic destinations in the world...Paris. We were made for each other and Geeky had been saving Paris for someone very special. That was me!

We would spend hours adoringly gazing at each other, enraptured by the romance of it all. I don't know if I've mentioned this before, but I do seem to attract starers.

The journey to Paris proceeded in this way, lots of loving looks. Yes, I know, pass the sick bucket! But, the Eurostar to Paris was one of the most amazing journeys of my life. I was sitting next to my beloved Geeky. For, like, hours. Even the married American couple opposite us were envious of our perfect love (detect the sarcasm yet?).

As we neared our supremely romantic destination - the city of lurve - I gazed once more into my beloved's beautiful brown eyes.

'Geeky, dearest...' I whispered (ok, I didn't actually say 'dearest,' I think I've been reading too many trashy romance novels). He gazed back into my eyes, his look of love mirroring my own exactly. We were in sync in the universe. He caressed my hand with a feather-like touch. My stomach somersaulted with the joy of true love. The married Americans averted their eyes, but I could tell that they were moved by the force of our love too.

I spoke again, softly, hoping to cherish every moment. 'When we arrive in Paris, baby, will you know where to go?'

Geeky was good with directions. He was masterful with a map.

Geeky replied, in a much louder voice than I'd anticipated. 'If you hold my willy, it helps with my sense of direction.'

There was a moment of stunned silence.

There was no way the American couple would not have heard. My only hope was that the word 'willy' had been lost in translation. Breaking eye contact abruptly, I pretended to look out of the window.

Can you believe another month would pass before I finally fell out of love with this man? As I said earlier, I was a little naive when I started out.

dontcallmehon22 · 01/04/2014 23:59

Affluence should read effluence.

dontcallmehon22 · 02/04/2014 00:01

Ordinarybloke - good point. Hopefully I'll get a happy ever after with a decent man that can go in my book.

Minime85 · 02/04/2014 05:54

folk I'm so pleased for you Smile

LizzieBelle · 02/04/2014 06:28

oh ha ha dont thats hilarious!!!!!

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Hormonalhell · 02/04/2014 08:17

GrinGrinGrinGrinDon't that's brilliant!!! I love it !!

Denton2406 · 02/04/2014 09:23

I commented a few days back that I thought Tinder was great.....starting to have second thoughts, have been propositioned for "fun" twice in the last few hours - grrrrrr - hate it when they said "you look as though you'd be up for some fun sexy"!!!! Perhaps it is just a pick up site after all!

HelloBoys · 02/04/2014 09:46

Folk what a great outcome. I'm very pleased for you. Believe in yourself though and don't let your mother's spectre haunt you. Smile

Santaclaws · 02/04/2014 10:03

folk so pleased to read things have sorted themselves out after your chat Grin

FolkGirl · 02/04/2014 10:10

Thanks again, all.

I can't say it's stopped/stopping the demons altogther...

He also said that he can't believe I've never been loved. He actually said, "it's got to be bullshit, you're just so lovely." He just doesn't know/understand. But he said he wants to. So the next time I see him...

I'm very aware that after opening up to him, he might decide I'm too damaged afterall, but at least he'll be making that decision. When I thought about everything this morning, it makes me sound very 'damaged'. I think if someone posted on here saying, "I've met this lovely girl, but..." you'd all be telling him to run for the hills in the other direction and that there are more red flags flying than at a communist street party. Sad

But I am lovely I just want

I think I've just read so many threads/posts on here where women are saying they've discovered their bf/H/P is cheating on them/lying/not who they seem that I'm really worried that every man is doing it, and it's just that every woman isn't finding out. I just feel like I'd be an idiot to trust anyone, it's not just him.

I just need to keep remembering what he said to me yesterday and on Sunday evening and keep that in mind.

FolkGirl · 02/04/2014 10:19

Hm, what do I want?! Grin

Well I suppose I just want someone who thinks I'm amazing and who loves me and who I can love back. That's it. I don't have a huge long list of 'must haves' - I'm certainly not interested in money (although I would avoid debt); or cars; or houses; or any of that. He hasn't got to be someone who turns heads when they walk into a room. Just someone kind, decent and faithful who wants me. That's it.

dontcallmehon22 · 02/04/2014 11:00

Folk, I think you've got a lovely man there. You do deserve it, don't forget that!
Thanks for the feedback on the book, I'll post little snippets now and then if you all like. It's virtually writing itself!

FolkGirl · 02/04/2014 11:34

Thanks dont.

Now I just need to find attractive swimwear that's going to flatter my slightly curvier than is ideal current figure and my pale and pasty skin so that he's not revolted by me on the beach Sad

Bloody hell!

FolkGirl · 02/04/2014 11:42

If it's not one thing, it's another... Sad and a very big Sad

dontcallmehon22 · 02/04/2014 11:48

What's up, folk?

FolkGirl · 02/04/2014 11:49

Just trying to work out how much weight I can lose in the next 3 weeks...

I think "not enough" is likely the be the answer!

1/2 stone at most. Which would be perfect. Perhaps I should stop eating loads of crap and see what happens. And do the 30 day shred every day. And resume the 30 day squat challenge (which was going pretty well).

Perhaps I could start by going for a swim this afternoon.

Panic. Panic. Panic!

FolkGirl · 02/04/2014 11:52

In fact, I'm going to start now by walking to Sainsbury's instead of taking the car!