The Dating Thread 72

[LizzieBelle]

Welcome

I'm 33 and live in Manchester. I've 3 dc, aged 4, 6 and 8.

Im 35, live in Somerset and one 8yo dd

Soooo I am back (not long actually traffic was hideous today!) Had a good couple of days we got up to Legoland ystd morning - it was heaving but we still had a good time.

The hotel was really nice and we had room service which is a first for me! Dd and smallfeet seemed to get on really well, no problems.

I met his mum, sister, bil and 4yo niece today. They all seem lovely, think it went well. I was so nervous but they are so down to earth I soon relaxed. So am actually feeling o.kay about everything for the first time in ages.

Folk have a lovely time - can't wait to hear all about it.

girlie glad it went well

Very quiet on here tonight everyone must be out on dates!

quick question to the wise people on here- is it ok to go on other dates when you've started seeing someone and its going well? I feel bad but part of me is saying not to put all my eggs in one basket. it feels dishonourable though.

I like my new person lots but weve only had 3 dates and live 90 miles apart.

the views of others would be helpful please

Rumred...I would try to think if your current date revealed he was dating others as well, how would you react? Then use this as a basis for what you do next.
I have a very casual arrangement with one guy and we meet when we are both free. I still keep my options open. If I was really into him and maybe saw an extension to the 3 dates, then I'd hold back for a bit.
Hope dates going well tonight....I'm exhausted from a day out with the kids. I'm sunburnt!

thanks flora. I don't mind what I don't know but I would be upset if I was told they were still dating. so I'd be a hypocrite if I went on another date I suppose.

rumred what Flora said

For me once the relationship gets physical and there is some sort of a deeper connection then I'd be looking at taking myself off the OD sites.

When I did OLD 7 years ago I was seeing a guy, it turned physical and lasted 2 months, I was still 'on' the site but wasn't searching but he was on it everyday. I spoke to him about and he said he just checked his mail. I ended it soon after!

I suppose it's down to what you want!

I think he sounds ok Farce. Maybe he has come upon dates who have cancelled or let him down and he was just being reassuring.
Maybe text/email/phone and get to know him a bit better. And hopefully you wil feel confident about meeting him :0)

Good luck to all those on dates tonight, looking forward to tomorrow's updates!

I really, really wanted to text MCS yesterday. I had to literally sit on my hands to stop myself, and get a friend to talk me out of it. I miss him . I feel pathetic .

I've been contacted on POF by someone I almost went on a date with the first time I tried OD, about 4 or 5 years ago. I recall we'd set up a date for a drink after work and on the day, I contacted him to confirm. He said he'd left his wallet at home that day so couldn't make it. Fair enough, I thought, until he messaged later in the day saying he'd been out at lunchtime to the local shopping centre. He must have mentioned buying something as I remember replying asking how he bought stuff if he had no wallet. He claimed he'd borrowed some money off a colleague but I was very as the 'left my wallet at home' just seemed like an excuse not to meet up, so I didn't bother to arrange another date. Anyway he's back on there, as am I, and he's messaged me. Do I give him another chance?

Soft My initial reaction was 'no, how dare he cancel on you with a crap excuse like that?', but then I thought, well how many times do we have second thoughts/panic/anxiety about someone in all this and wonder how to get out of it? He hadn't met you in real life yet, so has no idea how awesome you are . You were just a 2D person to him.

Give him another chance...it's a numbers game after all.

farce yeah I think he sounds ok - go for it!

soft I think I'd give him another chance too! You never know. Does he remember you?

getting sick of winks on Match.....50% have no pic.......wasn't too bothered but thought if I wasn't, neither should they be... so have just made an effort and completed profile (under duress) what's with the winks from guys with no pic....why would they actually think anyone would respond with no pic??

Soft....Are you really attracted to him? If the answer is yes....I'd remind him of the wallet incident and light heartedly ask him if he's likely to use this as an excuse again! If you can both laugh about it and he is able to reassure you....then go on the date and have fun! Will be a good reason not to go dutch on this date lol.

We've been messaging this evening and yes, he remembers me, in fact he mentioned it in his opening message. I've mentioned the wallet excuse (in a lighthearted way because it's all water under the bridge) and he's apologised and said it was genuine, and that he'd really like to meet me. He seems pretty easy going and refreshingly normal but the cons are he's got a bald/shaved head which I'm not a huge fan of (I love a nice head of hair to run my fingers through ) and he's also between jobs, having recently been made redundant. There's a lot of it around though and I believe him when he says he's trying hard to find another job. I'll see how things pan out. I can't meet him (or anyone) at the moment anyway, because I'm so full of hayfever that I look like I've been crying for weeks! Not attractive!

Fifty....I dont use Match so not sure about winks. However, I dont always dismiss guys without pics. Sometimes they are happy to send pics if their profile reads well. They may have a good reason other than being plug ugly lol. One guy I dated was hot and had private pics. It was to do with his very public job.
I think you set your account to only receiving messahes from.people with photos if that helps :0)

soft....I'm baldist too....I really can't stand a bald head. Too many of them around these days

But there is bald......and there is Jason Statham bald lol.
My ex, father of my children suits his shaved head. He has a nice face. I just dont do shiny bald!

soft I think he definitely needs to pay for the date!

When it's time to pay, say you've forgotten your wallet, and you're so embarrassed as who does that?!

I suppose he's Jason Statham type bald, rather than the shiny type. Shiny bald is an absolute no-no .

MyChild That's brilliant, I must do the 'I've forgotten my purse, who does that?!' thing if we meet up .

For the purpose of this thread, I'm going to call him Mr Wallet .

Hi, sorry I struggle to keep up with you all.

I had my first date in 20yrs tonight with someone from pof.
It went well and we've arranged to meet again.however due to circumstances were meeting tomorrow, which is a little soon but it's the only chance for a while. Tonight I drove myself and just gave a peck at the end of the night. What do I do on date 2 ? Do I drive again? Do I just cheek kiss again?

CanI...hurray on your date! I would go with the flow. See how you feel. I full on snogged the last guy as he asked and I fancied him!!
Driving is good if you dont intend to consume acohol. Arrange to meet him at the venue since its quite soon. Good luck :0)

I'm seeing a pattern on Tinder. Men I have liked match with me overnight, prob when they're pissed up and then send a msg saying you looking for some fun, or something similar. Grrrrrr are all men the same? Just after sex?!