The Dating Thread 72

[LizzieBelle]

Welcome

Thanks Before. Some fab ideas there. I've PM'd you.

Had lots of views so far from fat, old blokes louby , one guy's profile said 'looking for a woman from 43-69 FFS!! Desperate or what?!! Another morbidly obese one wrote 'I'm Kevin, I'm a big bloke with a big heart', not the catch of the century...oh dear, what HAVE I done?

fifty it's the ones that say 'a few extra pounds' and they are basically fat

I've just gone back on and my views are actually 349 now.

One guy keeps sending me an email (he works from home according to his profile), I reply, and then he disappears. two hours later he sends me another message??? It's painful!

grrrr, I put on my profile that I can't abide text speak, and the first email I've received says....'wot u on ear 4'....I despair

You just have to ignore them fifty.

I used to get so many messages from men that clearly hadn't read my profile. I just deleted and blocked. I blocked far more people than I ever chatted with.

I had over 5000 views by the time I'd finished; about 800 winks; and I met 10 men. If you get irritated by everyone who contacts you who has no right to be doing so, then you'll go mad!

I also generally didn't reply to men who contacted me first. I only chatted with men if I'd contacted them first and they'd replied.

Thanks folk, I can see I'm going to have to take all this with a big pinch of salt! It's just a tad irksome to think I've just shelled out 77 pounds for this!

Though it HAS only been an hour or 2, just going to have to be patient!

You have to just forget the fact it cost you £77

I actively searched for men. In the end my only search criteria was level of education and distance. If I thought someone was interesting/good looking/a bit intriguing... I would message them.

Sometimes I heard nothing; sometimes we chatted but no more; sometimes it got a bit cheeky ; sometimes it didn't; sometimes the contact dried up; sometimes it led to a date; sometimes it led to a second...; sometimes it led to a few weeks of dating; and just once it [has] led to going to meet the parents...

I generally didn't reply to men who messaged me first because I assumed they were just sending messages to everyone.

It can be fun. But you do have to be clear about what your expecatations are. As I've said on another thread, I think if you're 'husband hunting' it's going to be very disappointing. If you look at is as a bit of fun and if anything comes of it, that's a bonus, then you can have a great time doing it.

I'm definitely NOT husband hunting folk And I hadn't actually considered searching for anyone, though I can understand why you did. I might have a rethink on that one....might as well get value for money and throw my hat into the ring!

And when I break it down to weekly cost....it isn't very much, so speculating to accumulate makes sense!

Guess I'm going to have to learn to be patient, not one of my strongest attributes

I also have specific criteria: tall, intelligence & distance. I don't mind what they look like totally, I'm open to options.

And often what they 'say' in a message can swing it for me. If they're obviously emotionally intelligent, witty and interesting then I'm more intrigued.

Thus my current dilemma with Mr Tall who isn't very attractive but witty and interesting!

Oh god, I've just been blacklisted by someone who I THOUGHT I was exchanging witty messages with!!!! Jeez...WTAF? Clearly has issues...no wonder he's been on there forever ( he said)!!

so...day 1 and I've been insulted and blocked! Ha, great start!

OK, now's the time to get tough

I hate Match! I dont know what it is but i hate it! I like POF.

I am now going round for 3rd date tomorrow. So excited! Cannot wait. I need to pull out the big guns, shame i don't know what they are!

Good luck to everyone going on dates this weekend. Hope they go well!

My skin is positively lizard like Jarlin! Well, in terms of online....I was on POF 5 years ago, can't actually recall detail so nothing to really compare to....I just expected more from a paid for site. Guess as I'm 5 years older, all the potentials are too... Perhaps I'll stick with the gorgeous but too long distanced, emotionally unavailable great shag man!

jarlin I may be offline for a few days from this weekend...

So bloody nervous!

I'm having loads of success on OKC, but then I'm an alternative type. On most sites that is just interpreted as 'wants ONS' which I don't, on OKC there are more people like me!

Seems like a lot of us are having good OLD times at the moment, long may it continue!

jarlin hope you have fun tomorrow!

folk you give such brilliant advice

louby I'm similar in what I look for, I do think it really helps to have a few clear ideas so you can sift through!

Going to text Mr Conductor in the morning to arrange to meet for brunch. I love brunch.

lucy what's an 'alternative type'?

Thank you lovely ladies for your advice earlier. I always get a bit down in the school holidays...too much time to think!!
Going to be positive...Mr Tall is definitely intelligent and witty. Will give it a go. Mr Number4 contacted me every day this week.Buttoday...nothing. Whilst he looks gorgeous, he is very needy and his feelings very erratic.
Good luck to all dating this weekend. Look forward to updates.
Bramble...did youmake an appt? Thinking of you.

morning ladies. .. good luck to us all this weekend.

I have date with baldy tonight. Thought were going to have a couple of drinks etc and that was it. yesterday he text me saying he found a film I mentioned wanting to see is on sky and invited me to his to watch it. he then said we could get a few drinks in and I could stay over.
I am pathetically excited about this. I really like him and this is literally the only night in my life I have a friend who offered to watch my 3 kids overnight. .. so it is all or nothing. just going to see what happens and enjoy it.

I know what you mean about your past creeping up on you. my exh was v dominant and over bearing and v abusive so baldy seems a complete contrast. but I find it hard to be with someone much more relaxed and laid back. ... does that make sense.

further complication. .. at work I met mr delivery driver a few weeks ago. he comes once a week to pick up stock. he gave me his phone number so I text him. he lives 50 miles away so I thought it would be a friendly banter type thing. anyway he is v confident and forward but quite gentlemanly.

cut to the chase. he turned up at work yesterday with a mug he had found for me. I told him I was seeing baldy. he has a date this weekend too. all was fine till he left and grabbed me and kissed me. not major snogging but left me hanging.

am confused now. I think with delivery driver it is pure lust... he seems a bit of a ladies man. .. really sowing his wild oats etc. but his confidence I find really attractive. wtf is going on?

must forget about him. only suitable for friends with benefits which I don't want. but at least was a distraction from agonising over date with baldy and stopped me from texting him and being pathetic!!!

wish me luck for tonight. am terrified. we already had sex so I know that will be great but didn't get naked iyswim so lets hope its dark to hide mummy tummy and boobs which as now far south of the equator! !!!!

Seeing Mr IT tonight,
But nervous as anything he is younger than I am and a prob I had with a younger bf before was that I felt I didn't fit in with his mates and I'm worried this maybe the case again.
This will sound daft I am more worried about looking as if j fit in rather than actually fitting in.
I'm basically concerned about looking old and frumpy.
I jokingly said other night when I found out it was a group thing not just us that I'll have to find something better to wear he said the dress you went to five different towns to buy lol
Will a dress look to frumpy
Going to see a band

also someone said yesterday men are like buses... none for ages then they all come at once... seems that is true. but lots of fun

jesy how much younger is he? sorry am nosey?
how old is he?
assuming yr not going to the students union or something I wouldn't worry about it too much. wear what u feel comfortable in

He is 30 so 6 years difference .
It's a pub in town.
I guess I'm feeling self conscious I know I'm over weight and it bothers me but struggle to loose it and he is fit not a meat head gym bunny but exercises every day ext.

jesy what is the dress like?

maybe if it was me for a pub gig (which by the way I have never been to) I might wear jeans and a nice top. I know what you mean. .. a dress seems quite formal or special. .. unless you are a girl who wears a dress every day
sorry probably not v helpful

have you met these friends before or are you being introduced?

Jesy I'd wear a skater type dress, black tights and ballet flats or DMs for a pub gig. Or jeans, a vest, cardi and a scarf. I suppose it depends what sort of music it is.

Almost finished packing. I'm so nervous I can't see straight... Everything is taking so long!!!