The Dating Thread 72

[LizzieBelle]

Welcome

batekush I literally gasped out loud at the cheek of that charmer!!

batekush I am glad. You can do better

Folk you sound happy yay you!! Am so pleased - your fella sounds so nice (as do you!)

I think I am with Jarlin and Santa in that I am not feeling totally secure in my relationship. We only ever see each other max of twice a week and only text intermittently between. I don't know if I see us ever living together or being together long term.... I like him a lot but we are so different.

That sounds sensible Jarlin

Twice a week is fine for me but that worries me as well shouldn't I want more than that?!

Am meeting his mum and sister this week which I am quite nervous about. It feels quite up and down really, he made a comment about my bothers new girlfriend on Sunday which I found offensive. It was the first time he has said something that made me properly angry, I had to stand up and move away from him. He apologised and it was fine but I hate confrontation so not sure if I 'let it go' just for an easy life

Hope it goes well with the meet girlie.

Really pleased all is going so well folk.

Date with civil servant guy tomorrow, but toryboy is making me like him, God damn it, with his funny, clever texts.

Is Toryboy an actual Tory Dont ? That would put me off!!

jarlin and girlie Thanks! It's been a bit of a bumpy ride though, hasn't it?!!

I know there are no guarantees, but I feel much more secure in myself and just enjoying it for what it is at the moment.

I've had a friend round this evening who has had it all chapter and verse (at least you haven't quite had that!!) and she said it all sounds very positive to her. So fingers crossed.

Thanks to you both and anyone else who's been really supportive through the darker times.

I saw my counsellor this morning. She said that it's possible to find red flags with pretty much anyone if you look hard enough for them because nobody is perfect and you can generally find what you are looking for... I think the tricky bit is determining whether or not it's a genuine red flag or just someone being a perfectly imperfect person.

I am just going to enjoy it for what it is and whatever it turns out to be, well I will take it for what it is.

No girlie, I call him that a he reads the Times and thinks that michael Gove might have a point. We debated politics at length and now he's sending me funny texts. Apparently there was a condescending article in the Times yesterday about social mobility that would have me spitting feathers, but I'd be pleased with the hatchet job they did on Nigel Farage.

Bloody Hell, Dont

He thinks Michael Gove might have a point?? But you work in education!!!

I think that would actually be a dealbreaker for me!

I'm good at arguing folk, so I like it. He can't win with me.

Oh dear. Boring author asked if he could see me again at the end of the last date. I'd said I might be free Friday but I was very busy and not sure.

He sent me an email to say how much he was looking forward to Friday.

I replied to say I had the dc so couldn't make it. He asked if I could find a babysitter as he'd declined an evening with friends now. Also he's ordered me a present! I only met him Monday and he originally wanted to see me again on Wednesday!!! Help!!

I'm on POF, okcupid and match. Toryboy is from match. The author is from POF and is scaring me with his over keenness!! Date with a real Tory tonight - he writes political briefings for David Cameron..

don't I'm in education too and the Gove comment made me laugh! You have to talk toryboy round - Gove is an idiot!!

I went on my date last night with mr tall ! He is a massive guy, I could wear heels (I rarely do) and still he would be taller than me.

He was very nervous so did a lot of talking, unusual for me as I tend to do most of the talking on a first date lol. He insisted on paying for the drinks.

He's really nice and easy to talk to and we have stuff in common. He is a decent guy BUT he isn't good looking at all makes me sound so shallow but if I saw him in a bar I would notice his height then dismiss him! He wouldn't be my type at all.

I text him when I got home to say thanks for a nice evening and he text me back and asked me out again. We ended up whatsapping till 1am!

We're going to go walking on Saturday afternoon. I saw him for 3 hours so need to give it another date before I decide.

This is so bloody hard!

so much for playing it cool... bloody caved in and text baldy already this morning

hiw do you stay strong ladies? it is killing me lol

louby yes, sounds like you need another date to decide to me.

dont I don't know how you are managing not to wring his neck!

Date with Mr Conductor tonight! Still don't know what to wear.

At the moment I'm also talking to two others, one who is a producer (music) and a punk - which is good as I always get on well with punks! The other seems to be as passionate a reader as I am, I hardly ever meet men who are.

thanks jarlin

have made promise to myself to stay focussed and strong.

lucy I never seem to meet many male readers either! Where are you going? That usually helps in deciding what to wear!

white being strong is so hard especially with all this technology at our fingertips

jarlin first, but he is one of those perfect on paper types...my best friend knows him quite well and also thinks he is perfect for me.

louby nice pub for drinks, it's a real ale and good whiskey kind of place. One of my favourites but apparently his favourite too!

Possibly...grey skinnies, nice top and vintage blazer with blue silk headscarf. Or maybe denim shorts and a broderie anglaise top. Both would be appropriate for the pub....

lucy skinny jeans sounds good!

Just trying to catch up. This thread moves so fast!

Dont That's a bit much from Boring Author! I think you need to tell him straight out that you don't want to meet up on Friday and you appreciate the thought but he shouldn't be buying you presents. Thanks for a nice date but you don't feel you're right for each other (if you're not, that is), then wish him good luck in finding the right woman. Obviously tailor it if you're intending to see him again. Are you planning to see him again? Tbh his over-keenness would put me off. At least you have other dates planned.

Folk That's a very wise thing that your counsellor said, I'm going to try to remember that. Sometimes reading the other relationships threads on here can make us so paranoid that we look for red flags in everyone.

Lucy Go with the skinnies, you can't go wrong with them.

For those of you not using condoms, seriously - USE THEM!!! At all times!! How hard is it to carry some and put one on?! If you're too drunk to suggest using or remember to use one, please drink less on dates. Sorry if I'm coming across as sanctimonious but when I was pregnant my ex gave me an STI that I had to be treated for (he cheated on me so he must have picked it up from god knows who and kindly passed it to me ), so please, please, do not leave your sexual health in the hands of someone you hardly know. Unless you have definitive recent proof from a clinic that someone doesn't have any STI's, you have no idea what someone is carrying. They might not even know they are infected with something. As a good male friend of mine says, you don't know where they've been. Be careful - always. End of lecture .

As for me, well Mr Teacher eventually kind of apologised for his twatty comments about me having a revolving door last week, but I'm still annoyed with him and have been quite distant with him. MCS text me on Sunday but I haven't replied. I mean, what's the point? Also exchanged a few messages with Mr Sales over the weekend but I'm annoyed that even though we swapped mobile numbers he hasn't contacted me off the site, so I've stopped responding to his POF messages. I just feel like I'm wasting my time at the moment with all of them. I'm a bit fed up of it all, actually.