The Dating Thread 72

[LizzieBelle]

Welcome

Bramble...I was in your position last month. I dtd wiyh Mr Number4 without a condom. Then Mr Tall, I did the same again. I worried myself sick so went to the walk in sexual health clinic, at the advice of a doctor friend. I had all std swabs and blood tests. My resultd were ready a week later. Thankfully all negative. But I've learnt a lesson... wear a condom. I won't habe unprotected sex again without proof of a partner's sexual history. Too risky otherwise.
Good luck and it wasnt too bad an experience.

Im gona book an app tomorrow just to make sure.

urgh i am so silly!

Ho hum really struggling not to message him tonight

Good job Bramble. It will put your mind at rest. Also good to be able to tell potential partners you have a clean bill of sexual health :0)

Thanks Talisa. I am getting more and more put off as the day goes on. We spoke on the phone last night and he text this morning asking how my day is going. Then he messaged this afternoon saying he'd call me again tonight. No question, just that he was doing it. I've never even met the guy! I told him I'm having an early night.

Somebody from Match messaged me earlier anyway, and I'm going to go on a date with him instead ;-)

scarey I have been told that restraining yourself early on by not running after him is supposed to pay off in the long run. and once you in a proper relationship you can be yourself more yourself iyswim!

farce am 99% sure tiddly winks guy is married and only after a cheap online thrill. .. dickhead!!

bramble will u ask him to get tested too?

batekush good for you... onwards and upwards

Bramble I was talking to some guy friends about this the other day and they were all of the opinion that if they are really into someone then they like receiving little texts/calls every day and that an extra little text from the girl is not what will put them off.

The trick is establishing if they are really into you first I guess

Thanks white!

Yeh i guess I will have to ask him to get tested too!

Ok thanks BateKush - god men are hard work.
So should i message him then?!

I haven't contacted him all day and then he text me when he got in from work:) he then said he would ring when he got back from the gym and we just spent over half an hour on the phone. So I'm feeling happier now

My mum however has annoyed me. She met him for the first time at the week end and she has told me this evening that he seems very nice but there's nothing good looking about him at all!!

I'm well aware that he's not classed as good looking and it shows how shallow I was at the start that I wasn't sure whether to keep seeing him but now I'm so happy with who he is I don't even think what he looks like. This remark has upset me, I just said well it's how he treats me that matters

who started the last conversation and who sent the last text?

Oh and scary thank you for the post, I think you are absolutely spot on in what you said

santa my mum has a real downer on me doing online dating at all and my sister seems to not approve either.
is your mum anti him because you met online or because she doesn't like the look of him?
personally I cannot understand why people can't be happy for you... as long as you are happy and not doing anything stupid or dangerous what is the harm??

white I don't think she's anti him because she said he seems like a nice person but she just had to get the nasty comment in about him not being the best looking in the world. She should just be pleased I found someone who treats me nicely after 4 years of emotional abuse with last partner

i txt him last night about mars and the moon being lined up (becaus eon sat we were stargazing hehe) and that was about 11pm so i got a message this am and we then txt for a bit. last txt was from him at 12pm lunchtime today.

santa having been in an abusive marriage myswlf I totally get you... looks are great but it is so unimportant in the long run. its all about the way he treats you and the way he makes yiu feel.
you go for it!

what about this guy

"hi. I am looking for someone to hold me tight all night while I am sleeping. xxx"

then an hour later

"sorry I can't upload pictures but do you want to chat?"

I never even replied to thw first message. . but he has no profile pic. married chancer do we think?

next\delete

white hmmmm that sounds very suss to me, yep married chancer I reckon.
Yeh looks so not important to me now providing I don't find them repulsive of course. I don't even think about his looks he's just him to me.

hahaha white

What about this guy...."if you don't look like your pictures, you'll be buying the drinks until you do!"

works both ways mrloverboy75

Hi jarlin nice to see you again :) yes a few of us do seem to be in the same place at the moment don't we. At least we can all get our worries out on here and help stop eachother going crazy

How long have you been seeing slow? I've forgotten is it about 3 months like me?

It helps that you feel he really likes me, I really like him now