The Dating Thread 72

[LizzieBelle]

Welcome

Folk your new hair sounds amazing! It sounds like you're a butterfly emerging from a chrysalis!

jesy a shame you're in West Midlands as I'd come out with you!

How about Meet Up group get someone to look after the children and do that. There are tons of different groups all friendly people. Also try Gingerbread for single parents, a couple of single mum friends of mine say its good.

Softkitty I agree with you about trying new things ballet etc and saying yes to more outings too. It's all too easy to stay in with tv or a book which though great will never get any of us meeting people!

I'm off out with 3 friends on open or closed top bus tour round London tomorrow yes with pouring rain but we plan on exploring and pub stops. Having said that boat race people will be out and if anyone gets chatting i intend to do so!

I don't think dating is for me. Last time I had to date mobiles weren't invented and it was so much easier.
Mr Italian messaged me yesterday to say as I was working late it would give me a night off from his chatting with a wink but since then I've had no other texts. I replied to his message last night at 8pm and haven't had a reply since!
I keep checking my tinder all the time to check for a new message. It's driving me insane. He's also removed his pic from his pof profile. Not sure why he would do that. I've been speaking to him on tinder and he's still on there, although last logged in 25 hrs ago.

Mobiles make you so paranoid!

Hello Your day out tomorrow sounds fab, I'd love that! Hope you have fun and find some hot boat types to chat to .

I just received a POF message from someone who says the following on their profile:

"am looking for a an honest,attractive,intelligent(I'm big on using grammar correctly and please use spell chec ladies)"

I think that when he learns to use spell check himself and gets a grip on his own use of grammar (looking for a an honest?!), then he can demand the same of his 'ladies' .

Ha ha soft kitty. Love the irony!

Hair sounds fab, folk.

Dear oh dear, Mr Jaded texted to say I'm the most beautiful woman he's ever been on a date with. Absolute sweetheart he is. Why do I not want him? But I don't.

I k ow I'm depressed but if I want another nursing job I can t go to doctors as it will go at against me.

Why will it go against you, Jesy. Surely an employer would want a good nurse who's having treatment for a condition that makes her feel better, rather than a good nurse that isn't getting treatment and feels really low? Is it a fact that it would go against you, or are you just assuming it would?

I'd also suggest that your own personal health - either mental or physical - is more important than any job.

When I was signed off depressed before I was made to feel like a freak and I can't have that I'll be ok in a few days

Agree with Jarlin, it's discrimination if you're singled out due to depression. It'll take more than a few days before you feel better from depression so please, vist your GP and accept their help. If people judge you for it, that's their problem, not yours.

jesy I live in Staffordshire so if you live in the North of West Mids we could meet up?

I didn't have a date but my youngest son has been in a production of Bugsy Malone this week so I've been helping out with costume changes all week (and watched it twice) so I just went along and helped out with that. Better use of my time. Plus I've made new friends through this process!

Now at home with half a bottle of Prosecco and some chocolate. Quite happy and looking forward to a well deserved lie in!

Please don't feel bad about being depressed Jesy, I have been on and off for a few years and I just think if I had asthma I'd use an inhaler, right?

Had signed off men but Mr yum on tinder is vay vay cute. Why do I always feel like I need to say I have a child & feel like I'm lying for not saying it? It's not like the subject has come up and I just want to enjoy some lighthearted flirtation.

jesy You don't need to be signed off if you don't want to be. I would also suggest a trip to the drs and ADs.

I couldn't have coped anywhere near as well as I have over the past 18 months without them. They haven't dulled my senses, just meant that that desperate sense of emptiness and being dragged down into the depths of despair by the claws gripping my insides isn't there any more.

If they will help you. Take them.

I Don't want anti deps not again , just a rough patch at mo
I've got to pick myself up again

Jesy If you can't think of a single positive thing about yourself then that's more than a 'rough patch' imo. I'd visit the GP and let them decide.

Ursula I've got a single sentence under my photo on Tinder that just says a little bit about me, including the fact I have a 7yo. Then if they tick me and haven't seen it, that's their problem.

I thought I was getting on track not just coz of Mr It ,
I was loosing weight , got a job after over a year on dole.
I'd finally got a few new cc clothes I'll be honest a lot of my stuff was mega scruffy, ripped ext.

I can think of one positive thing well today I can
I must be a good mum to my fur baby daft as it sounds this morning she looked at me and I know she loves me.
Plus decided I'm going to save up and buy some sports shoes so I can go to the class I want to do.
Plus apart from my car I know only owe debts of 500 quid

Well there you go, you've already made some positive changes!

1. Got a job - no mean feat in the current climate!
2. Lost weight
3. Bought new clothes - always makes you feel better, I think
4. Your dog adores you
5. Good at money management

Have you noticed how a lot of those things are connected? You got a new job and because you're earning again you can buy new clothes and save up for trainers, both things that will help you look and feel better. You love your dog, and if you walk her as often as you can it'll help you get fitter and help with your weight loss.

Btw, they have trainers for sale in Aldi this week if you're near one, think they're £14.99 and £19.99. I need new ones too (had mine about 15 years ) so might pop down later and look at them.

I agree jesy, it sounds like you're doing lots of positive things.

I'm wondering if there's any point in me dating anyone. I'm clearly still in love with Geeky. I realised it on the crap date I went on. I bet geeky is all loved up with someone else. He hates me. I can't imagine feeling that way about anyone else. Mr jaded would never have been right for me though.

Joined match last night, but no one interests me.

It's stupid but think I loved Mr IT
I've not texted him today but it hurts got chatting on pof to a guy last night night but heard nowt today but never mind.
It passed a few hours.
I'd have Mr IT back in a second but let's face it as sexy and kind as he .
Is he don't want me lol well his loss

Nothing exciting planned today ,
Bathing my dog and her best mate plus I have a book on my kindle I wa t to read x

Tar for all the support

Crying over geeky. Why can't I just let him go?

You sound like me I'm not sure what to say as I've cried pver him as well this way
Hoping it get easier for us both , I know it was only weeks for me but I cared about him
Wish I known what I'd done wrong

We have everyone on here to support us and is to support them

I know it's hard. He loved me and even as he ended it, he said he loved me. It's been two months and Friday's disappointing date made it raw again.

Don't
Why did it end