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The Dating Thread 72

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LizzieBelle · 30/03/2014 11:10

Welcome Grin

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LizzieBelle · 03/04/2014 21:20

Been on Tinder tonight. Found a guy that looked really nice and clicked to see more photos...well, first one nice, second one of him pulling funny face, third one of him wearing what looked like leggings, bit odd...then fourth one of a woman under a Christmas tree dressed in pvc with a GAG ROUND HER MOUTH.

O.M.G

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SoftKittyWarmKitty · 03/04/2014 21:35

Lizzie The other day on Tinder I was somewhat surprised to see a close up photo of a woman giving a man a BJ. On flipping Tinder! Shock

Canihave I have to say that if I was exchanging casual messages on Tinder I'd not want to discuss why I was single. I didn't even discuss it in detail with the last man I dated until after about a month. Maybe keep it a bit more casual until you've met up.

Chairy I'm like that it's Whatsapp so now I have a policy of only opening it if I receive a message, or want to send one. I don't open it just to check when someone was last online. I had to implement that self-imposed rule to stop me torturing myself!

Denton2406 · 03/04/2014 21:39

OMG I'm the same with Whatsapp, I do it constantly....I did delete the app for a while to stop myself, but am back on again now and always checking when a certain someone was last on.
Also, in my experience if you hv good banter with a guy he will text all the time, I was having a bit of a thing with someone who texted me all day and all night, we just had that connection....not anymore though ??

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LizzieBelle · 03/04/2014 21:41

Can you be on Whatsapp without giving your number out??

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chairyhin · 03/04/2014 21:51

Lizziebelle,no you have to have each other's mobile number.It's a curse I swear,I wish I could uninstall but it's mainly how I communicate with my family and friends.Sad,soft I'm trying to do the same but I'm becoming a basketcase lol,firmly sitting on my hands and phone is charging away from me nowGrin.

chairyhin · 03/04/2014 21:53

And yep Denton I'm the same,constant messages then zilch,the mind bogglesHmm

SoftKittyWarmKitty · 03/04/2014 22:16

Chairy I think that if you don't log on to Whatsapp for a while (and by that I mean a few days, as opposed to half an hour Grin), it makes you appear to be too busy to log on and certain people may well wonder what you're up to. I'm getting so good at resisting logging on now, that I sometimes get a message from MCS or Mr Teacher and because I can read it on my phone screen when it pops up, I don't even bother logging in.

chairyhin · 03/04/2014 22:21

Ahh soft I last a few hours,but because my family and friends are in a different country I hate for them to think I'm ignoring,but I'm so not gonna message himGrin.I don't hold out much hope though of him messaging me.it's all a game I thinkSad.

Denton2406 · 03/04/2014 22:23

You're totally right there, I'm gonna see if I can do it!!

Yeh Chairy I did get constant messages, although now know the reason they stopped, he was cheating on his other half! But, just to prove a point that if they want to guys will text away to their hearts content like we do.

dontcallmehon22 · 03/04/2014 22:25

Date confirmed with Mr Jaded. First date since geeky. Feel nervous!!

indecisiveme · 03/04/2014 22:27

Hi all, been lurking and trying to keep up with you all but as I can't sort myself out, I never feel I should give advice!

chairy, lizzie and denton you need kik messenger! very similar but don't need to give out your number and you can't tell if they are online only if they have read your message.... I prefer that now.

soft was the woman giving the BJ wearing an eyemask? I saw one earlier, nearly had a heart attack!

After a bit of advice re: Tinder. got to a guy who I have 29 mutual friends with Shock turns out we were in the same year at school though I don't really remember him. Had we had no friends in common I would have liked him but feel funny about it now WWYD??

chairyhin · 03/04/2014 22:37

Denton mine is single but away with work just now,we have had 3 dates all fab,just can't get me head around it all,too much too soon maybe?
I met him on tinder too,indecisive I downloaded kik but deleted it cos hadn't a clue lolGrin.

chairyhin · 03/04/2014 22:40

Good luck don't,and anyone else with dates lined up.Smile.I can't keep up with this thread so apologies in advance.

dontcallmehon22 · 03/04/2014 22:44

Thanks chairy. It's significant - this date. First one since my poor little heart was broken. And I'm proper excited! And nervous.

Denton2406 · 03/04/2014 22:44

Loads of what looked like fake,profiles on pof tried to get me to add kik but I think it can be a bit dodgy, well from what I've heard anyway. But I don't like giving my mobile number out to randoms tho, so wld need to meet them before I did whatsapp. Play it a bit cool Chairy....says me, Mrs Checkwhatsappevery5mins.....lol!

chairyhin · 03/04/2014 22:59

I know Denton,I played it cool but we got on so well,and I can always block thinks me,he is only the third I've given my number to,one blocked and other is now a palSmile.
My hands are twitching so much I had to pour a wine and water lol.
I hope all goes well dont,sounds good though Smile.

Denton2406 · 03/04/2014 23:16

You mean block on whatsapp? Someone blocked me and was a bit of kick in the teeth, then he unblocked me weeks later....wonder why? It's all too much of a headf*! Didn't contact, just unblocked.

Denton2406 · 03/04/2014 23:17

Ps enjoy yr wine lol

chairyhin · 03/04/2014 23:28

Yeah block on whatsapp just click on profile pic I think,I'm so tempted but I would feel shit too,haha I got one of them too,blocked me then unblocked so I blocked lol.Winkbeat it pal.

UrsulaBuffay · 03/04/2014 23:42

You can turn off last seen on whatsapp so you won't get addicted to checking - only way I allow myself to have it Smile

FloraSpreadableMacDonald · 04/04/2014 00:13

Don't....there's also the Mr Mono-answer. The one with the interesting profile but the actual guy doesn't match it!
You say - hi, your profile sounds cool and I think you look cute!
Him - thanks
You say - so your profile says you're into winter sports. I ski also.
Him - great
You say - I also notice that you studied art and design.....have you got a favourite artist?
Him - not really

It's usually at this point I give up as its like drawing blood from a stone!
Then 2 days later.....

Him - hi
You say - hi (playing him at his own game)

2 days later...

Him - hi. What you been up to?
You say - hi...been busy at work. Went to cinema to see a great French film. Met some friends for drinks. Then I ate poo.
Him - cool

You - block!

ordinarybloke · 04/04/2014 06:24

Dont - I do believe it is rude not at least to reply to serious 1st messages (obviously I am not talking about the "hi cutie" nor the Victim messages) with at least a standard "thanks,but no thanks".

ordinarybloke · 04/04/2014 06:26

Dont-I would add that there is no problem with not answering people who are outside the search criteria in your profile.

jesy · 04/04/2014 06:48

It's over I'm gutted , stupid I know , ended up going to see my ex who a mate and basically threw myself at him , vs.e home got drunk and cried myself asleep.
Feel so cheap this morning

dontcallmehon22 · 04/04/2014 07:32

I once got 50 messages in one day on POF. Is it seriously rude for me not to reply to every message? I don't even read them all!