Today I went into my partner's bag to take some laundry out and found some stiletto heel bits and pieces (he has a shoe fetish... I am not into it at all) which I can only hope belonged to an ex of his.
It's not just that they were there but that he doesn't seem very interested in me sexually, so it was a bit of a double blow.
In the early days he asked me to do something on his phone and a naked picture of one of his exes came up. On another occasion, he was showing me some photos on his computer and I saw a picture of them together, naked.
A few months ago I found some condoms that he left lying around which made me question everything.
I'm fed up of finding things like this. I appreciate he has a past but I don't want fetish items from previous relationships in my house and I don't want it all rubbed in my face. I feel sick thinking about it now and have no idea how I'm supposed to react to things like this?