Have another solicitor appointment today.....

[Lemmingswife]

and am trying to gather all the bits I will need together, as he will be looking into whether I am entitled to legal aid today. So far I have wage slips, marriage certificate, tax credits information, mortgage statement & some mortgage info from the move into this house.
Trying to get everything together while H is sleeping at my Mum's house (he has been on nights & doesn't want disturbing!)
Does anyone know if there is anything else I need to take along with me, as I am in a bit of a fluster!

He is a really unpleasant person lw and I know one or two myself! Fancy saying that to his son! Yuk we all know he is a bully but really. What does your solicitor say about getting him out of the house now? Has he put any time limit on things at all?

There still doesn't seem much I can do with regards getting him out of the house, as he is not being physically violent. It seems I have no choice but to continue as we are for now.

Hi, that really is awful. How can he not like his little boy calling him daddy? That is so cruel. And he's giving ds the message that he is not interested in anything he has to say.

Even if it's not always convenient, it's much better that they want to share things with you and talk to you than not tell you anything.

I agree, CQ. It was shockingly horrible of H to say that. I get "Mummy, Mummy" constantly, & yes it can drive you mad at times, but I would NEVER ignore what they had to say or tell them I hated the word.

I have a confession here! Sometimes when they shreak mummmmmmmeeeeeee in a whiney voice at me I say yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeessssssssss in a whiney voice back!

Within 2 minutes of my last post, I had a perfect example of how I cannot even go to the toilet without hearing "Mummy" shouted around 5 times!!

God lw, he really doesn't deserve to be called daddy at all! Your poor DS too. I admire you for being so strong through all this. I can only imagine how frightening it must be for you, and knowing that your family aren't supporting you must be hard to deal with too, but you are doing such a great job! Your two boys are so very lucky to have a mum like you. Stay strong. xx

My two eldest dds are the same! At least by the time dd3 is old enough (she's 6 months now) to start with the "muuummmeeee" business, hopefully the older two will have outgrown it! Although it does grate on my nerves sometimes, I'm also so proud to be called "mummy". Shame your H doesn't feel the same way about "daddy".

I know. I felt so upset that DS heard H say he hated the word Daddy, when he was trying to tell him something. It was heartbreaking.
He has been ok with them today thankfully. It appears I have a poorly DS2 again today, & he did take him upstairs & lay with him for a while.
He has two weeks off work coming up, so will be around a lot, which is sure to be a nightmare.

Was being a little bit jokey FOM! Must say am impressed that you take so much time over explaining. My kids know the minute I start whineing back to stop now! Actually they all laugh and do not take me seriously at all!

LW what you need is a wonderful book called five minutes peace about a mummy who tries everything including going in the bath to get five minutes peace. It is by Jill someone or the other!

We have it, Steph!!

It sums up the life of a mother with little ones imo!

Absolutely!!!
I have just been collecting stones on the beach with DS1, & now I am going to let him paint them!

LW I hope you haven't got paint on the carpet[GRIN]

You will be in big trouble if you have

woops...

Oh no, I wouldn't push it by letting them paint in the house! They painted the stones in the garden & there is paint on the paving slabs, which he hasn't spotted yet!
The boys enjoyed themselves though!

Oh joy, my parents are home & Mum is threatening paying us a visit later! I shall not tell her anything about yesterdays appointment.

Oh my lord - there's a nice treat for you then!!

Toothache's thread under 'legal ('now he wants half the house') has some interesting comparisons about what other poeple's solicitors have told them - ie. it's all allong exactly the same lines as yours is telling you! That you get to stay in the house etc. MrsMiggins and someone else. So there's nothing your solicitor is proposing for you that is in any way en route for the cleaners - just the usual approach. Remember that when the onslaught form your Mum starts.
Not that you will tel her anything, though, as you say.

Good plan!
Good luck!!!!!!

Not unless she...oh, hello LemmingsMIL, did you have a nice holiday?

LOL! Yes quite, Blu!!