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Original poster

DP always deletes browsing history from phone and ipad.

55 replies

lovingsunshine · 13/03/2014 22:54

I'm suspicious!

What other reason could there be other than him getting up to something / someone behind my back?

He has form, but I thought he had changed.

If I asked him he would never in a million years confess unless i had cold hard proof and even then he would try to deny it.

Am I right to assume the worst or could there be an innocent explanation?

OP posts:
Joules68 · 13/03/2014 22:56

You say always deletes..... Has it really been always? Or since you discovered what he has form for?

VikingLady · 13/03/2014 22:58

DH does, along with regularly defragging the PC, doing disk clean ups and all the virus searches. It is a security/fast running thing.

And DH is very open about his porn etc. He has no problem with me knowing.

Sounds like more going on with your relationship though?

HelpfulChap · 13/03/2014 23:00

Almost certainly porn.

Original poster
lovingsunshine · 13/03/2014 23:01

He has always deleted the history but not cookies.

I had reason to suspect something was going on before (several years ago now) and found he had been on adult dating sites, chat sites etc.

Now he deletes everything, every single time.

I don't have any other reason to suspect him other than that, I can't imagine why he has to delete everything unless he's hiding something.

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BillyBanter · 13/03/2014 23:01

An ex of mine always used to do this even when he was single and lived on his own. More to do with internet security than anything else.

BillyBanter · 13/03/2014 23:01

Oh, but he doesn't 'have form'.

Original poster
lovingsunshine · 13/03/2014 23:02

Wow, I'm really naive aren't I! Just reread my 2 posts.

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prh47bridge · 13/03/2014 23:06

As VikingLady says, some people do delete their browsing history and all cookies. It is a good security precaution (which is why private browsing doesn't keep history and destroys cookies) and can help with speed. The fact he has form makes it more suspicious but it is by no means conclusive.

RhondaJean · 13/03/2014 23:08

I delete my browsing history from my iPad every time and my cookies regularly.

I am not up to anything at all.

I am a bit lazier with my phone but I should really do it, it keep the system tidier and quicker doesn't it?

On its own, not suspicious, only you know everything else and what made you feel like this.

Anniecarrieson · 13/03/2014 23:10

Does he delete the 'website data' too? Ie the list of websites visited?
Settings>Safari>advanced>website data

Anniecarrieson · 13/03/2014 23:11

On ipad that is

Wishfulmakeupping · 13/03/2014 23:12

I delete mine on a regular basis I'm bit looking at porn I can assure you!

NeverQuiteSure · 13/03/2014 23:14

Well I came on here to suggest cash back sites (I use them and quite often delete my cookies before a big purchase to make sure I get my cash back), but if he's leaving his cookies that's not likely.

You can open cookies using Notepad and usually work put which site they've come from.

Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 13/03/2014 23:18

Yes I delete my browser history on a regular basis. I had a vague notion that I did it for Internet security and to save memory but now you mention it, I'm not really sure!

redrubyindigo · 13/03/2014 23:25

I have automatic delete. I am not up to anything sinister my emails go to my phone which I leave out on the kitchen worktop. DH can browse at leisure if he wishes

CoolCadbury · 13/03/2014 23:27

Yes, check on iPad like anniecarrieson said above to see if he has deleted the websites he has visited.

cozietoesie · 14/03/2014 00:09

I clear the machines at least daily, sometimes more often, but only for ease of internet usage and nothing more. It becomes like cleaning your teeth.

I think you still have a conversation to have with him though.

JanePurdy · 14/03/2014 00:20

I delete history every time I go online!

kmc1111 · 14/03/2014 01:44

I delete everything daily, nothing suspicious about that on it's own.

sykadelic · 14/03/2014 02:20

My husband has it automatically done. Doesn't keep passwords, or cookies or anything like that. Scheduled defrags and all that fun stuff.

I'm not suspicious because he's always done it and it's set up that way.

I do mine occasionally.

I would find doing it EVERYtime on a phone or iPad to be suss, especially as you said he has form.

Original poster
lovingsunshine · 14/03/2014 04:35

Hi Annie and CoolCasbury
Yes he deletes the website data / list of websites visited too. That's what made me really start questioning it tbh.

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Lweji · 14/03/2014 05:22

He has to gain your trust, really, so you could ask him to stop deleting history, although he may be on his best behaviour for a while and then, when you get tired of it, get back to his old habits.

Does he show other behaviour that you find suspicious?

CogitoErgoSometimes · 14/03/2014 05:37

Plenty of people have their internet settings on 'delete browsing history on exit'... that's not the problem. The problem is that you appear to be in a relationship with someone you clearly don't trust. Whatever happened last time was not properly dealt with and this is the result.

FrontForward · 14/03/2014 05:41

What Cognito said! Absolutely word for word

Lj8893 · 14/03/2014 05:47

I'm another one that deletes everything, for security, speed and now its just become habit.

I'm bit up to anything dodgy but then I don't have form either.