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My partner has left me and my 2 boys this morning

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DickCrack · 08/03/2014 09:58

It's been coming a while. 1 shag in 3 years lots if rows. This morning I found loads of dirty texts he sent to another woman. He's gone now. Ds 5 witnessed a lot of my upset this morning. I'm ashamed. What do I do?

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wannabestressfree · 14/03/2014 01:51

Now step away. It's not going to do you any favours. Be strong your boys need you x

sadwidow28 · 14/03/2014 05:13

Be very, very careful what you post on social networking sites. your words can be used against you. It doesn't matter how wronged you are or how hurt you feel, if you are abusive to them they can report you.

Now, he has gone and you need time to heal, You really don't need to be searching for more evidence of his dreadful behaviour. Focus on your boys and the start of your new and happier life. You CAN do it.

beckslovestimmy · 14/03/2014 05:35

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Lweji · 14/03/2014 05:39

So sorry about all this, but I agree with pps.
Be careful with what you do. And what you write. It may be a good idea to get some of your posts removed

In any case, stop sending those messages and leave his accounts alone.

You have to be the bigger person here for your children, as well as your self esteem. I know you are hurt, but he doesn't deserve your time or concern. Detach as much as possible.

mammadiggingdeep · 14/03/2014 06:19

No more hacking/ messaging. It's not going to change anything is it??

Your focus now is on you and your boys. I understand that you're angry but your emotions and energy are better used on yourself and your dc's right now.

JourneyToThePlacentaOfTheEarth · 14/03/2014 06:23

Op I'm so sorry you're going through this. This man is a disgusting waste of skin. My ex did something similar when I was pregnant with our ds2. I wish I'd had mn back then. You will get through this. We are all here for You. You are doing so well. Look after yourself

Logg1e · 14/03/2014 07:30

How are things this morning OP?

MrsLevineinmydreams · 14/03/2014 07:33

Hope your ok this morning op, it does get better I promise you that, and as much as you want to send messages etc please try not to, don't give him the satisfaction of it

Lucylloyd13 · 14/03/2014 07:56

How awful, I feel for you.

Things will get better and sometimes you have to take the pain to dust yourself down, which you will.

On the plus side you will do better than one shag in three years now!

DickCrack · 14/03/2014 08:13

I just can't get my head round the fact that while I was working, having counselling, looking after kids, sleeping beside him, he was doing this.
Not a word from him yet.
He was meant to be coming in to take some stuff for his new flat today, I'm tempted to stop him.

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LavenderGreen14 · 14/03/2014 08:18

nah don't stop him - shove it in binbags and leave it at the kerb

If I were you I would not speak to him at all - he isn't worth it.

DickCrack · 14/03/2014 08:21

He was coming in with the key to take the telly etc

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DickCrack · 14/03/2014 08:21

He was coming in with the key to take the telly etc

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MissScatterbrain · 14/03/2014 08:32

I would still pack up his clothes and man crap in bin liners and leave at the door.

roomwithoutaroof · 14/03/2014 08:35

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NotSuchASmugMarriedNow · 14/03/2014 08:46

Change the locks. Is he trying to take the family telly? The one the kids use? What a knob.

LavenderGreen14 · 14/03/2014 08:53

whose name is the house in, is it rented or owned. Have you had legal advice yet?

DickCrack · 14/03/2014 09:09

House mortgaged in joint names. No not sought legal advice. Yet. Am still getting up and going to work, don't know what else to do?

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DickCrack · 14/03/2014 09:10

I took copies of the Facebook stuff but not the texts. We are not married.

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NotSuchASmugMarriedNow · 14/03/2014 09:11

Change the locks. If he queries it say you lost your purse with your keys and personal information in it and had no choice. Then let him take you to court to force you to give him a key. (then "lose" your purse again")

DickCrack · 14/03/2014 09:11

Sorry cant keep thoughts straight in head, we have 2 tvs downstairs, the kids use both, he wants one

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NotSuchASmugMarriedNow · 14/03/2014 09:13

Oh just let him have a tv - it's not worth stressing about. As long as there's one for the kids I don't see the problem.

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LavenderGreen14 · 14/03/2014 09:19

You can't legally change the locks. You need proper legal advice really before you do anything else.

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow · 14/03/2014 09:21

You can change the locks if your purse is lost or stolen containing your keys and personal information. (and it's very easy to "lose" your purse)

LavenderGreen14 · 14/03/2014 09:29

ha - yep fair enough. V easy to lose your purse isn't it ;)

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