The Dating Thread 71

[TheCrow]

Welcome to all daters :)

Happy birthday Jarlin, hope you get to mark the day in a fun way!

blossom just go but make it a quick drink. If you really don't fancy him you can make a quick exit.

Hi shellwe - just trust your instinct. If you think they're not really 'in' to you, cut your losses. You normally know. But ignore what comes out of their mouths. Actions speak louder, etc.

Poffedoff - I think after last night yes done and dusted. However I think I need to see him so I can either give him a piece of my mind or suggest therapy for his confusion, adoption etc...

After that I will delete, block and ignore.

Maybe that's the wrong way round but I think what can go wrong?

Hello

Be careful with meeting just to give him a piece of your mind - you'll end up looking like a demented bunny boiler and he will be eternally grateful to have escaped. Let him remember you as a strong fun woman and regret that he screwed up this time.

As for advising counselling, your role isn't to rescue him from himself - unless you want that. It tells him you care and will always care no matter how much shit he throws at you and keeps the door open.

I agree with before..what good could possibly come of it?
I'm a bit of a people pleaser, don't like someone thinking badly of me so tend to try and leave things amicable but I'm learning that people can take advantage of that big time. If you feel the need to have one last say I'd email him with a carefully thought out, dignified and non judgmental mail telling him what you think he needs to hear and finish it by saying you wish him well but would rather he didn't contact you again..
Meeting him just leaves yourself wide open to falling for his shit again.

Happy birthday Jarlin !!

Blossom we seem to be on exactly the same wavelength! Although I will have seen Mr Cute 3 times in a week come Saturday! But yes, if I met someone else equally gorgeous, I would have to have a serious chat with my Cutie!

BeforeandAfter and Poffed

well had a text exchange this afternoon got messy but hopefully I won't email or contact him again. I don't really care what he thinks of me.

One day he didn't text me at that point he said he'd thought of me

I think after all this that I will leave this thread. OLD isn't for me. and right now I feel too battered and bruised to do it again.

Sorry hello, I hope I didn't come across as being harsh..just saw the same thing happening to you as happened to me! Everyone needs a break from old every now and then, and especially after whats happened between you and mr kent..

Poffed you weren't being harsh.

I'm just sick of the texts, emails, trying to repair stuff that's gone wrong. I am a bit more clear this afternoon from his texts as to what went wrong. and it is tiring, painful and I'm utterly fed up with it.

Hey everyone! just a quick question....very very cute, but 15 years younger than me.....are we are all agreed, no go, right? he is painfully good looking!!

Bumble generally yes. but depends on your gut reaction. how much is 15 years eg how old are you?

if he's painfully good looking bear in mind he may appear the same to others and if much younger may, not stick around, (that's not what I mean!) but long term he or you may want more or different things from the relationship.

It sounds exhausting Hello..try to distract yourself from it all..delete the texts and emails, put your phone on silent for a while and try not to keep running over things in your mind..

bumbe For me I would not have the confidence in myself to go out with someone 15, have been chatting to quite a few 10 years younger and that scares me.

I am decided to meet mrFisherman tonight, that is his name now, just be fair and give him a chance.He seems like lovely man but a bit obsessed by fishing. ( will update later)
Also MrSA is coming to see me on Friday so that will be totally lush.

Hello I think sometimes it's just not necessary to work out "what went wrong", especially when it's their problem, not yours. I still have no idea why housemate guy (the one I dated for about 6 weeks before Xmas) broke up with me. I was having a lot of fun, liked him, he seemed to like me etc, it was quite unexpected when he suddenly changed his mind and I was pretty upset. But not dwelling on it and not contacting him meant I got over it pretty quickly. Just in time to meet Niceguy

bumble context - how old is he/you and what life stages are you at wrt family etc?

Different strokes for different folks wrt ages; alhough that old French rule is half your age plus 7, non?

Age differences
Well used to bother me till I met my first love as a late starter I must admit, he was 11 years younger than me already a dad so was semi mature what broke us was he didn't want to settle.
Mr IT has asked how I felt about kids ( bit odd after just had sex but I'd ready Sussesd he wants kids),
I'm sure it's got to go with gut feeling

blossom good luck tonight! Just ask about other things

Hi all

Happy Birthday, Jarlin!

I have been lurking. Sorry to read that others have been having a tough time, too.

I wouldn't take any interest from someone 15 years younger than me seriously! Besides, it would make them 24 and there's no way I'd consider that!!

I haven't had chance to speak with the man I'm seeing yet. I'm supposed to be going over this weekend to talk about 'us' and stuff.

We've been invited over to his friend's house with his girlfriend and another couple. I don't know what to make of it really. He's been fairly attentive this week, he's emailed me a few times every day - we didnt email daily before.

I'm a bit nervous about it. I'll be the only English person there. In my head the other women are going to be stunningly beautiful, interesting, 'romantic' (I know what one of them does for a living and I think I might have fallen a little bit in love with her...) and I'm just me

I feel a bit sorry and embarrassed for him that I'm going to be who he is there with

It was counselling again today so I feel a bit out of sorts again this evening.

Poffed and oneday yes I've been torturing myself actually last Friday was deleting any more links suddenly he sends me email he'd forgot to send and like a fool I replied. I was just getting over him then too. What gives there?! Surely unsent email didn't have to be sent from him but he has an answer for everything.

I think I will just delete everything and try and forget so bloody hard.

Well I've told him thanks but no thanks....I'm 40 he's 25, no kids....he says its up to me to choose if I want a bit of fun ...bloody gorgeous though and a PE Teacher....sigh

Good luck tonight Blossom..hope he has more to talk about than fish!

It's very hard Hello but you will feel relief after a while that you're away from the tension of it all..

Good luck Blossom!! Don't let him get up to anything fishy (god I crease myself up sometimes!!)

this thread moves so fast! I will try hard to keep up to speed! Not sure if it is putting me off OLD! I was on POF for a couple of months but came off....and now I'm not sure what to do.

I'm sort of hoping my knight in shining armour will just turn up at my door - has that happened yet to anybody??!