It is a minority of people that are into BDSM isn't it?

[TheArticFunky]

I'm not into BDSM or anything like that, each to their own but the idea of being spanked doesn't do it for me at all.

Recently I have noticed on Facebook that lots of my friends are implying that they like being spanked or sharing daft BDSM posters.

Do you think they are genuinely into it or is it that they think they should be into it because of books like 50 shades?

I'm starting to think that everyone is at it judging by the Facebook updates.

I've really enjoyed reading both threads as I like some bondage and pain play. It's great to see people open up and be honest and I get the whole "the safety is in the risk" thing. If risk is the right word, hopefully you know what I mean!

I am intrigued by further reading materials though. I've not read 50 Shades as it didn't appeal to me especially after I found out my mum had read it so can anyone recommend any other novel/las please?

I could PM you some links to free stories online if you like?

As I only read gay erotica, I can suggest some that DH has read.

The Story of O by Pauline Réage - still has mixed reviews and still causes fuss, many hate how it protraies women, but DH found it to be very open about a woman's life.

Domination & Submission: The BDSM Relationship Handbook by Michael Makai - DH found it insightful and knowledgable. Not a novel though.

The Angel by Tiffany Reisz - DH loves the line; “Fetishes... they’re the pet you feed or the beast that eats you.”

That's all he can think of at minute!

Eats can you PM me those links please? Thanks.

Mama, thank you for the suggestions, I'll look into them.

I got into it years ago when I was a manager. I needed part of my life that I could give over to someone else to make those decisions for me. It was quite peaceful and liberating and there's other things I'd like to try but DP might take some convincing.

As for the erotica, I'm not too fussy about gay or straight, single or group scenes. As long as the language isn't too flowery or metaphor laden.

I think I want something arousing and sensual with scenarios I might never have heard of or imagined.

I look forward to catching up on some dark light reading.

I got into it when looking at porn when I was 15 - DH was 16 when he got into the lifestyle and trained as a submissive due to some childhood things he went through. I turned 16 and had a submissive training for 6mo with DH's consent then had 8 months of training as a Domme again with DH's consent and our friend and DM (dungeon master) was the one who trained DH when he was 16 and then me when DH and I decided to go for it. Then when I was 20 I had Needleplay and Bloodplay training/sessions. We both now have marriage and a contract.

DH needs that release and I want and need to be person who gives that to him, and I need that control.

downstairs, anything by kink.com:-)

I strongly dislike any rough sex, even light spanking or any kind of pain or power play it does not turn me on at all in fact has the opposite effect. Doesn't mean I am 'boring in bed' which is what I think the assumption is with the whole 'vanilla sex' idea thanks to 50 shades - there are many other things you can do that aren't boring but aren't BDSM. I think these Facebook braggers just like people to think they are edgy and exciting