Staying DRY

[MrsSippie]

This is a continuation of the last thread DRY We are all doing our best to abstain completely from alcohol.

D's not nds!

Argh ds!

Well done and the heartiest of congrats. Good for you for being honest. And you deserve the praise and recognition!!!

Movie to the end mistress! Think of how amazing you are going to feel tomorrow. Those glasses of wine won't be worth it, you won't enjoy them as you'll feel too guilty! Go girl!

Mrssippie
You're so strong! Well done you:)

Day 4 nearly done. My Friday night should be easier than yours, on shift!
Just headaches now.....but generally feeling better
So inspired by you all!

Glad you're feeling okay Rachel. Imagine no more headaches!!

It's ok, I made it. In bed listening to radio 4. 5 days under my belt. Good night all.

Thanks for this thread. I have read it all the way through and found it so inspirational. For the last 10 years I have drunk between 4 to 6 bottles per week. I know it isn't good for me and I want to not need that drink. I have tried it all, not having that first glass until a certain time, not drinking in free week (but I then drink more at the weekend), diluting it with soda etc. it dosn't work! So cold turkey it is.

I have not drunk since Saturday night.. I have been helped by having a tooth infection and been prescribed a course of antibiotics on Wednesday ??

I have been dry for 6 days - the longest in years...

Been out tonight but easier to stay off the wine when I have a reason to. Scared of stopping the antibiotics...

I drink to relax, get in from work and have my first whilst preparing supper. My DC are older 17 and 13. I have a pressured job and if I am honest I find life tough. Wine has become my escape.

I found this thread in time, you are all so helpful

Well done Mistress! Hurrah for Radio 4, I say.
Hope you wake up feeling fabulous.

Hi Sonnet. I'm finding the thread very helpful in these first, difficult days. Well done for starting to break free.
Hi Rachael, glad you are slowly getting there.

Morning everyone. Hope you're all in a good place. And if you're not, keep posting.

Only one night feed again and lots of sleep for me, so feeling pretty ok, despite being awake so early!

I'm going to have a read of the first couple of Dry threads today. Find reading about others so inspiring. Just finished Lucy Rocca's books too which I recommend.

Hi everyone! Just checking in! Bubba up at 1 am then 4 am and awake till 5:30 then toddler up at 6:15 so a bit sleepy this morning! Baby sleeps with me after first feed so I get lots of cuddles:) and kicks! Off for a day out so to speak, would have drank lots before but am looking forward to having a clear head all day! My bf is whom I'm out with today is one of the only people who knows everything about my drinking, she is such a massive support to me so I might run things past her today, it's good to be able to talk to her. She doesn't drink( but has never really enjoyed it) so I might get a refreshing point of view from her. She's already encouraged me to go to aa...really don't want to end up there even though I know it's been super helpful to so many. Onwards and upwards ladies!!:) and gents if there are any lurking!

I also ordered Jason Vales kick the drink book:) I hope it's going to work so well that another drop never passes my lips and I become one of those super svelte healthy glowy types of women who you can imagine running down a beach at sunrise with wild horses... Or doing yoga in the rainforest retreats sweating delicate droplets of sweat...!!:)

Hahaha! I am imaging running along the beach in the early morning on our holiday, alone, get at one with nature... Reality will be it will rain all week, the kids will we town then entire time and dh will decide to go for long walks (taking in the local hostelries...)

However, today is another day! Dd has a friend coming to stay.... I will lock them in an appropriate room with minecraft and food , not too sure what else is happening.

Well done to everyone here, we do rock you know!

I despise this tablet - the kids will not 'town' all week, they will argue.

Whoop big pat on the back for everyone who made it through a difficult day/night!

Welcome sonnet

Ds has started mentioning that Minecraft word. I'm putting my fingers in my ears and singing la,la,la as I've heard all about it and Stampy from other parents.

Snurk, I had images of myself looking trim, eagle-eye focused and delicately flushed before I started running, you know like in the trainer ads. In reality I'm sweaty, beetroot faced and huffing away.

Tonight will be my hard night with the kids away and me twiddling my fingers with nothing to do. Worried I'm becoming a bit of a hermit since alcohol is involved in every weekend activity with my friends so I barely go out these days. Just don't see the point and I know from being pregnant being around drunk people when I'm sober pisses me off. You really do talk a load of repetitive rubbish when drunk. Now I know why my non-drinking sis always left after an hour or two.

Just reading an earlier thread and it strikes me that, as women, we juggle so much. We have DC to care for and worry about, and/or other family members. We work so hard and it is often relentless, unrewarding, exhausting, unpleasant, and boring. Throw in the huge pressure to drink as applied by the advertising that is frankly everywhere, the prevalence of drink and other drinkers.... No wonder we succumb to wine. It feels like our time, our treat, and a way out.

I'm just realising that we shouldn't hate ourselves so much, that it's so much harder to step away from drink than it is to pick up the glass. I know I'm preaching to the converted and am not the first to make this realisation but the penny is finally dropping.

Hi sonnet and Rachel - so nice to see new faces - well done everyone for making the (right) decision to knock out the booze

I am struggling right now. I know I cant drink 'normally' ; and I don't want to go back to that place of 'abnormal' drinking ... but Im bored. Im bored of being sensible and sober; feel like there are no 'treats' for me now - feel the weight of relentless consciousness and sobriety.

Sorry, to the newbies. This is just another phase , It will pass.

stress re my relationship and the unsolvable issues there don't help. Sober I HAVE to face them, drunk I didn't. Then there is the almost £50K debt ...

I was wondering about buying one of these

tiredofthinkingaboutdrinking.wordpress.com/2013/12/04/sober-is-the-new-black-necklace/

just for me....

I am struggling as well at the moment. Don't know why really, maybe it's boredom. Just fed up with being 'good'

Any longer term sober peeps around to offer insight into why its so hard for Sippie and me @ 4.5 months ? I have struggled more in the last 10 days than in the 10 weeks before that

I know you are not into AA but one of the tips we use is making a gratitude list.
list all you've gained being sober, write them al down.the times and things you've done thanks to being sober, kind of brings it back into perspective.
Hope this helps x

Would it maybe be the seasons beginning to change? Nights turning lighter and attention now looking forward to summer time.

I so agree MistressofPemberley

I can't even imagine getting to 4.5 months... Easy for me tonight as I feel ill with the antibiotics... Need to pick DD up at 10.30 normally I would feel resentful as I count drink until I got back

To those of you struggling, not trying to be trite but would taking up a hoppy like crochet or knitting help? It may keep your hands occupied and keep you doing something...

FGS- happy is hobby!

Good morning.

Sorcha and Sippie, I hope you are feeling more positive today. Please don't give in. I've been reading the old threads and you've both come so far, and supported each other so much. Everything I've read seems to suggest that when the initial euphoria wears off, there is a sense of 'is this it?' I guess it's a bit like losing weight: things aren't magically wonderful just because you're finally skinny. Would it help to reread any books you found useful in the early days, or remind yourself of things you've missed due to being hungover etc. what do I know though, less than a week in!
I do know that having small things to look forward to always helps me when I feel a bit down and bored and 'is this it?'

Sorcha the necklace link didn't work, but I have been looking at the Tatty Devine name necklaces. You design your own. Trying to decide if I'm brave enough to get a Sober one: there'd be no going back though! Although most of my friends would assume it was ironic anyway...

Right, DC need their breakfast. Here's to a lovely AF day.