The Dating game - welcome all daters to the DATING THREAD 70!!!

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Thought it was my turn to start the thread!!

Supposed to be going on a second date on Monday as we are both off work - not sure of the plan yet - have just had a text to ask if I want to go out Friday night too.

He seems like a genuine guy and he is attractive ..... not sure why I can't just stop worrying that he will think I am dull or that he is just waiting until someone exciting comes along. Wish I could stop my brain sometimes!

OMG met a bloke for an hour yesterday.we've been dancing around each other on OKC for a while. Half way down my diet coke he'd told me he still loved his second wife even though she had an injunction against him.......not a great first date! Been chatting to another on the phone who seems nice but made me a bit wary!

oldfashioned - well, he sounds pretty keen to see you, so try not to worry - though it's hard isn't it - the nicer they are, the more you hope it will work out so the more you worry maybe. If that makes sense!

I'm still chatting to my own very slow burner, we might meet this week after 2 months of emailing. And also texting someone for the last few days - he seems really interesting but very intellectual - I find intelligence a turn on, but I'm feeling a bit inadequate and and convinced I'm too dull.

It's hard isn't it. I keep thinking I'll keep them interested with my wit and banter until they see me but they're probably thinking the same

Everything Not good! At least you found out on date one ....

splishsplosh Yeah - he is being nice so I automatically either doubt it or don't want to get emotionally involved as he is bound to get bored or meet someone better.

Wouldn't it be easier to not have all these hang ups and insecurities!

Yes - I think I might fool him initially but I'm not sure I can sustain super smart for ever!

blossom you just made me spit my coffee out. Fabulous & so glad you weren't err 'disappointed'

scorned Still just chatting with POF guy, light and a bit flirty. Definitely won't ask him out again, if next weekend passes and still nothing will give up on him. Me and Mr Banana have rearranged for Thursday, I have practically no free time next week so I'm meeting him after work and we're going out on the town. I asked whether I should dress for the pub or 'out out' and he said out out and we might as well go all out! Also on the scene is a Mr Builder who is very 'casual'. And also a Mr MM who is infinitely infuriating but who I get a thrill out of being constantly pissed off at. So that's the summary!

well done crow. Lots of 'balls in the air' as it were. I am going to sign up with one of the OLD sites tomorrow. I'm intrigued that plenty of MNers seem to find people on POF. I always thought the 'free' sites were for the MM who didn't want a paper trail. Perhaps I'll look at that too.

Hello, I've just signed up on ok cupid again after a lengthy break. So far have had 18 messages but they are all "generic" ones from America. What on earth is the point in someone in America contacting you? I live in mainland Europe and don't even have a car. Really, unless they live within about 100km it just ain't gonna happen.

I don't remember this last time I was on there. It's quite odd.

scorned true, but it's like a house of cards, only takes a second for it all to fall down! Enjoying it while I can though :)

crow I think the key to it is to bin any 'flaky' ones immediately. To me a last minute cancellation by text, promised calls that don't happen or vagueness re availability are all 'one strike and you're out' offences. As Bant put it the other day, you have to be really thick skinned. I'm getting there...

meant to say Lois I had the same on okc. Plus the 'American soldiers' in 'Afghanistan' with surprisingly poor English who wanted to come & stay with me after three messages.

So you wouldn't have given Mr Banana a second chance in my situation scorned?

Scorned, yes, these Americans have very bad English. I mean not just bad spelling, but as if it's not their first language. One might almost think they weren't really American or in America.

I have decided to raise my bar a bit this time. Last time I was on there the guys I got just weren't interested in anything but a bit of sex. This time I'm not going to chase anyone, or even respond if they don't look like they want a relationship. I might have a long wait.

Any lesbians for my friend I might be a lesbian

Well crow if you're convinced he's genuine & he has rearranged already then maybe...but being suspicious like I am, I would wonder if I'd been blown out because a better offer came along. Mr ShortFatEstateAgent text to say he was 'ill' on the morning of our planned date, then failed to phone when he said he would. I think he was either already attached or juggling the ladies. He was told to jog on'
What's your gut feeling? I normally find mine is spot on.

Not sure

Lois yes it's almost like they might be fibbing

Good plan. Sit back & let them pursue you. Good luck. x

Elizabeth, if you might be a lesbian, you can be your friend's girlfriend. Job done.

I met a chap through OKC shortly after I moved here and he did all that changing things at the last minute and then blowing me out. I ignored his texts after that. If you are going to juggle people, at least bloody do it with some charm.

I just think cancelling by text is a cop out. And rude unless it's an emergency. None of my friends have had any success with free sites, but some ladies on here have found otherwise. I guess it's pot luck!

Hi all, had a lovely day feel much better today, we went to the beach, had a mooch round an aquarium, fun at the pier and finished off the day playing footie on the beach.

Dd really likes him (which worries me almost as much as if she didn't like him incase things don't work out!!) he seemed to like dd - but obv why wouldn't he - she is practically perfect

He mentioned about coming over again tonight but think I am going to spend the evening veggin out with dd

Folkgirl we met beginning of Nov so getting on for 4 months I suppose, he def won't be stopping over when she is here anytime soon and I am going to monitor how much she sees of him.

I think he's genuine, been texting all day so if he was out with someone else then he's been on his phone while on his date! I just don't like to immediately believe the worst about people, I'd be pretty pissed if I had to cancel on someone for a genuine reason and they assumed I was being flaky/seeing someone else and ignored me afterwards. Sometimes things crop up and I'd rather give him the benefit of the doubt and be disappointed than throw away someone potentially nice because he cancelled once by text. He said he was going to call to cancel but didn't know if he sholuld but we haven't spoken on the phone yet.

Sounds genuine to me Crow from what you've said, especially the fact that he was quick to rearrange another date, that's a good sign.