The Dating game - welcome all daters to the DATING THREAD 70!!!

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Thought it was my turn to start the thread!!

Jarlin I think that's a good plan, let it go slowly, the bedroom issue is a long term issue. All matters of the heart are painful. Wish I could be one of those ones who keep themselves removed.

Blossom, ick really? What, like certain angles?

I will probably go back on POF when I can start being brave again. My exbf of 2 weeks I met on there and not sure I can take seeing him on there yet. Too fresh. I was absolutely devastated, after 5 months he just up and disappeared, then sporadic texts and eventual dump. Heartbreaking and agonising limbo, won't ever forgive him for that. Of which he is well aware

No one ever comes round to the house. I've tried, but my anxiety levels just go through the roof, I don't enjoy it and it makes me feel really drained.

Folkgirl I completely get this. I also don't feel that anyone would want to come round. (Thanks mum and dad, you did a real number on me there.) Also, there is the feeling that anyone coming round will find out what you are really like. There was so much shit going on in my family that I hated anyone coming round in case they saw it.

Blossom, it seems like the bloke messaging you has the same approach to dating as when buying a used car. Next he'll be checking for rust spots and wanting to make sure your suspension is sound. When was your last M.O.T?

jarlin flip I have no idea what I would reply to that!!

Probably best to be truthful Jarlin. Pick some points from your previous post:

^"I will stay in contact because I can't help but quite like him!
I like the fact he is quite 'gentlemanly' and respectful. He remembers things I have told him. We do have a laugh together and chat about anything. I think if he mentions meeting up, I'll go but won't loose sleep if he doesn't and I certainly won't suggest it."^

Great, italics not working. :/

Jarlin, yikes.. Maybe just say something ambivalent but kind? Or ignore and ask about his day?

Then a kind text asking how he is?

Evening ladies

blossom I'm sorry about MrSA. Who knows what goes on in their heads? its just rude. As for the twonk asking for more pictures, tell him you'll show him yours when he shows you his
Actually I'd probably just tell him to jog on.
jarlin Glad you're ok x
Lois great news re the date
dont big hug. What shit he is. I'm sorry
lizzie good idea re 'meetup' - I will look it up!

and polly hi!!!

Tinder is going well. A few conversations going including one promising one...!

I'm not sure what I would say if someone asked what I "thought about us".

I've sent you a PM, Jarlin.

Thats a tricky one jarlin
What about ' we are just starting to get to know each other - lets just enjoy it!' Nothing too heavy!! It's ca strange text to send you. Perhaps he's realised you weren't too happy re the weekend.

Erm at what point does the girlfriend title start getting thrown out there?!

Hi Jarlin

I hope you don't mind me butting in, again, but your scenario does, kind of, resonate with me.

In your shoes I did say would be honest but in a keeping-the-door-open-kind-of way. I'd just tell him that I really liked his company and always looked forward to seeing him but that the physical side of a relationship is incredibly important to me. Although it's far too early to talk of such things I would say that I'm looking to love someone with all my heart and to feel that back, including being made to feel attractive, and that I'm worried I may have rushed him into the physical side especially given the fact that we were guests at a wedding and had no time on the Sunday etc. Perhaps you could say that when you both feel ready and confident to be intimate next time it should be when you both have the whole weekend to yourselves so that you can just enjoy each other to the maximum without deadlines. I would probably make a joke about the missing compliment and then throw in an oblique compliment to him and suggest that he doesn't need to shy about his naked body because it looked good from your perspective (don't mention the size of his dick... )

Anyway, I am a pushy mare and tend to say what I think which fails miserably most of the time so feel free to ignore.

I do like the slow burn approach so good luck. B&A x

I found the book by Matt Hussey called Get The Guy really good with lots of tips

Then tell him that ... I'm not sure anyone can be a priority after six or so dates but with commitment from both parties it's amazing how easily diaries can accommodate another person. It's just another conversation - a bit like the exclusivity one - where there's a will there's a way and all that... If he says "sorry Jarlin, that's just the way it is" then you'll have your answer.