The Dating game - welcome all daters to the DATING THREAD 70!!!

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Thought it was my turn to start the thread!!

Sorry that so many are sad on here - if this person isn't right for you then there is someone better out there.

I have dates 4, 5 and possibly 6 lined up ....... all with the same man! I am trying to be cautious and to follow the rules about not getting attached. Not sure I am doing well with this online dating as I have only met one guy!

Jarlin, yes he told me had a lovely evening glad he did

Before, yes that was same with my exh, he couldn't get an erection for the first few times but once his nervousness went and we were together longer he got better and better

OFG but you actually only need one guy, ultimately. It's just harder to not get attached when there's only one guy, that's the thing...

hormonal ooh no, I'm not into a bear of a man either.

MadeMan you're right of course that expensive, imported presents aren't as cool as homemade cakes etc, but I'm also the person who imposes sanctions if rooms aren't tidied and makes them eat something other than McDonalds and makes them do their homework... DS told me yesterday that when all the other kids are saying how great their mums are he says he hates his Now, I know not to believe that one. But it's still tough.

I got an email from my man eventually.

Hope everyone has a good Monday.

Just out of interest on POF when you get a message saying someone would like to meet you, what exactly does that mean. Have they specifically requested or just general send out. It really is confusing or maybe I am just thick, lol

Hey guys, trying to catch up on my phone at work bit difficult....I've been spending all my free time with Niceguy so not has any time to MN at home on my laptop!

Sorry to head a few of us feeling a bit blue.

Jarlin what a shame it all wasn't as you'd hoped this weekend

crow good self control with the number deleting!!!

As for me..... it's all going scarily well still. We are at "really quite like" each other spending every free minute together. I am struggling with not investing emotionally too soon! When is it not too soon?

Ah jarlin I'm sorry it didn't turn out great. Is is worth another go? Just incase complete nerves etc.

well I had date 2 with mr flash last night (I cancelled Saturday date as was majorly hungover) . Few spanners thrown in the way.. but I met him again and it was lovely , chatting , food and kissing. He has said he wants a third date :) I too am not investing emotionally yet.

Morning ladies ( and made )
Well, I joined 'Tinder' yesterday. What a revelation !! No dodgy 'American soldiers', just seemingly a plentiful selection of normal looking men ( a few dodgy shirtless shots, admittedly) & have just had my first message. What's the advice - let them approach me?

OMG. Have just come across 'Sir Shagalot' - ex schoolmate copper who works his way through women and whose comment to me when we had a date was 'don't fall in love with me babe'.... He's on Tinder as well. He told me that he didn't like women going to his house because he'd had a 'stalker' once. It was actually because he lived with his long-term girlfriend. If any of you are on Tinder, in Surrey and want his name, please PM me. Thanks.

jarlin sorry to hear the weekend didn't go well. What do you think you will do? Will you see him again? He should be going out of his way to make you feel special, I must admit I don't think I would have been pleased at him arranging a house viewing when you got back. Or at the dropping off to sleep and snoring

My weekend went quite well. Bricky seems very keen still. I've gone from an very EA long relationship to someone who treats me like a princess, yet is not too over the top. He seems easy going, laid back, really pleasant but not boring. So what's the problem?

Well he not that attractive, now I know looks shouldn't matter and I shouldn't care what people think but I guess I'm vain enough to care. It's not as though I don't fancy him at all, although I'm not sure I look at him and think "I fancy you" he doesn't turn me off though when we do get intimate. Oh god I'm in a muddle aren't i

Oh know just been contacted by a really hot looking man. Now what to do, really like MRScottishAccent but should take advice I have been giving other people and keep options open, but feel ever so slightly guilty.

Morning everyone....I'm in a conundrum...been meeting up with an old flame from 20 years ago we had a little something going on 'on-and-off) for about a year, (but he was married and I finished it as I couldn't carry on with the guilt). 20 years on about 6 weeks ago I found him online, and turns out he is going through a divorce. We've since met up about 3 times (he hasn't changed a bit, chemistry on both parts is off the scale, as it always was, we also get on ridiculously well as friends). Since our first meeting he texts me every couple of days just to 'check in' how you doing type thing. He lives miles away but is around my area every week or two for work so I thought it may be a bit of fun, bit of FWB type of thing. Thing is we met up on Friday night overnight in a hotel and its just so bloody brilliant being with him, he is just such a joy to be around. I didn't want to fall for him but I think I maybe . I can't stop thinking about him and I'm supposed to be having a first date with a guy I met online this week, but I just don't want to now. I don't think anyone can compare to Mr OldFlame and that's unfair on the dates. Infact I just want to knock the online dating game on the head, but don't want to have the 'exclusive chat' with Mr OldFlame yet or get heavy at all. I think Mr OldFlame didn't want a relationship, and I think he wanted the FWB type set up to, but now I'm not sure, just a couple of the things he said on Friday. He is crap at distance communication (doesn't phone, texts sporadically), but face to face, really easy to talk to. Should I cancel the date this week with the online guy? Its only fair on both of them isn't it?

Blossom go meet the hottie! What's one date? :)

Hey bumble, take the advice you gave me and keep options open. Are you a 100% sure old flame is def getting divorced, sorry call me cynical, I have some serious trust issues. OLD man might turn out to be the one, what's one date. lol

I know what you mean blossom....you are right. well on first and second meeting with oldflame he said he was separated, but he said talking to me about my divorce had sorted his head out and made him take the decision to go to a solicitor to get the ball rolling as he's been burying his head in the sand over it all. He's now been to a solicitor. I took that as a positive or am I just clutching at straws? ok will keep the date on

I think that is a good plan bumble . There seems ti be a lot of hurdles with Oldflame and I am a great believer that if to be it is meant to be. In the meantime why not see what's out there. I have only met 2 men so far have been ridiculously picky, the one this morning looks so hot and now find out he is living much closer then on POF

You're right blossom oldflame isn't an easy target....but he's so bloody adorable! your hottie sounds fab.....close by is also brilliant. hope you get that date in the diary soon!

Will keep you posted, he has sent me several messages this morning being very upfront, he seems to have a good job and hot, a phone call seems in order ( I always like to suss them out on the phone) Go me!!!

bumble definitely keep your options open. The old flame (from bitter experience!) can sometimes still have another agenda, not changed etc. go on the date with other guy.

My dilemma, I'm still upset and hurt over the ex (the lying etc) I'm not sure where to look for new men (on match affinity but found it rubbish) and on doingsomething (bit crap too). Should I leave it? I just still feel grrrr and teary re ex and a bit distrustful too.

Oh I'm excited for you blossom

bumble I definitely agree. Keep your options open especially if MrOldflame is not quite divorced. I would also want to be sure he was being 100% honest re his marital status.
blossom excellent news!

thanks scorned. ..I will do. as naive and silly as this sounds speaking of a once adulterer but he is trustworthy I do believe him (told you that would sound stupid) he's told me alot of details and has been fairly upfront with the whole situation and it all fits. I've got quite a good bs radar. will keep options open though, you are all right.

hello thanks too, I've found GSM to be the best one for me but im near a big city. Tbh the others just haven't been any good at all for me ive tried match, ok cupid, tinder (not too bad actually), even a fleeting moment with parship, but gsm gets my vote.

Hello yes match affinity is a load of old pants. I like POF and and plenty of fish the best, also gave E Harmoiny a go also found that to be rubbish. Keep going the right one will be out there

What's GSM?

I disliked EHarmony too.... And was on Sarah Beenys My single friend didn't join properly iirc?

Love struck had few dates/interest but wasn't keen on it.

Will look into others ta!

its guardian soulmates hello.....quite a left leaning bunch, academics, some are pretty pompous though, so just weed them ones out.

Hmmm maybe I will try it.