The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Wading Through Winter Blues Without The Booze!

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I'm Mouse, nice to meet YOU.

This is a thread for those who want to give up drink completely, or are maybe thinking about doing controlled drinking, or cutting down slowly, it's all up to you. And of course all addictions, so if you are taking drugs of any kind, prescription or otherwise, you're very welcome here too!

You know your limits, you know what is required, it's all in YOUR hands.

Whatever your goal, you'll find unconditional support here. Always. :)

There will be talk of drinking quite often and those who fall off the Bus will post about it, so if that is going to jeopardise your chances of complete sobriety, then maybe the DRY threads would suit you better, as they are complete abstainers, but EVERYONE IS WELCOME HERE :)

There are two sayings that we rather like here -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

For those of you who'd like some history, here is the very first thread and the reason that we're all here now. FIRST EVER THREAD

And the most recent so you can work your way back through time IS JUST HERE

The Bus may be 'mythical', but the support is real, it is honest and it will help you to achieve what it is that YOU seek, as long as you are honest with us, but mostly, YOURSELF

Mouse xxx

I'm keep on going. I've pm'd you x

Sending love to Im and Mouse

Why I'll be thinking of you tomorrow and hoping that things go in your favour

Soc day 30!! Well done to you, keep going x

I seem to be getting comfortable in the sidecar for now but rooting for all of you beating the WW. Take care babes xx

Morning all. Drank last night. Not loads, Whiteline and for the wrong reasons. Not proud of myself but feel so fed up and trapped. WB just accuses me of attacking him if I say he needs to try to get a job, situation at work has really got me down and another long day ahead (working till 10.30 tonight). Cannot even look at OH, his selfishness disgusts me so much. Sorry to moan, I know others have a harder time. Just so.... D'agh!

White line? White wine even. Sigh

hope why are you still living with him, you could easily manage on your own as he doesn't contribute anyway. (((Hugs))) to you x

soc what a great post "I don't want to drink, but I do want to get drunk. I just want to check out, but don't want everything else that comes with it. Not sure what do with with all this 'stuff' that goes on. Getting drunk provides such relief sometimes." I know exactly^ what you mean.

Thanks for your support its making me feel a lot better, thanks for pm venus x I love your post soc because its exactly how I feel today struggling as I'm board today too just in house with dc's
I just want to feel 'fuzzy'

Drinking alcohol free beer I'm in dangerous water as I now want to blok out him trying to get past it

Hi Im how are you doing now?

Hello beaches im still drinking my alcohol free beer, I'm pissed off I want to get drunk but I don't ill be fed up if I do drink so trying hard to not give in

Sounds very understandable Im, is it day 7 for you today? A whole shiny week . Keep fighting it, you are right you will feel fed up if you give in. Tell me about the planned tattoo instead, will it be your first one? I haven't got any (a self confessed wimp) but I. Have seen some beautiful ones.

Yep day 7 today I have one tattoo that says 'freedom' with doves flying over my shoulder.I want a starfish on my heel but one I want soon is a quote still pondering over words TBA

I slipped last night ladies and had a joint I just felt so down and hopeless.

Im ah quotes, have you narrowed it down to a few? I love the different types of artistic script you can get. You are brave girl! (But we know that )

Sui it's not the end of the world babe. Beating yourself up will only lead you back to another one tonight though. Can you forgive yourself, draw a line under it and carry on resisting? If this is the first smoke you have had since you first posted then you have been doing great. X

Try not to be too hard on yourself Sui, that was last night, what counts now is today x

Hope I hope your feeling better now, your h sounds similar to mine, trying to get him to step up to his responsibilities is taken as an attack. if your facing redundancy it's only common sense for him to try and get a job, would he want you to forgo your redundancy pay?

Well I've managed to get to the gym three times this week which is a record for me. I think I've got the habit back so next week I really need to tackle my eating. I think I must be the only person who has ever cut down on drinking and taken up exercise, and got fatter!!!

On a side note I waa really shocked by a friend the other day, someone who is normally a glass of wine followed by a cup of tea type. She was telling me how she'd had two large glasses of wine then drove home. I can't believe she did, for some reason I'm really disturbed by it...

Thanks ladies hopefully I won't slip up again.

Got through witching hr now glad I did not drink now x

Well done Im good for you xx

Thank you beaches I do like

" nothing more, nothing less ... Than anything but herself"

but I feel its to weak I want something stronger i really like whys quote its short but to the point sends a strong firm message, trying to find something in between.

Any ideas welcome

Hi. I'm not sure if I should be on the bus or not so please tells to sling my hook if I shouldn't be. My DH has started going to meetings (AA) in attempt to beat the booze. We now have no booze in the house but he will often bring home a bottle of wine and some beers. He'll sometimes hide the beers and share the wine. I want to support him in stopping (which he wants to do. I haven't asked him to stop or ever ever berated him for his drinking) but I never know what to say to help. Do I call him on it? Ask him why? Or do I just keep telling him I'm here for him.

I've cut my drinking to virtually nothing, partly as I'm Bf'ing but also to support him. Any advice would be appreciated but I'll go away if this isn't the right place...

Afternoon, tis me, Mouse

hope - I thought that you wanted to leave him initially? I thought that we'd talked about getting out of there with the DC etc because of how abusive he is towards you?

Am I getting my posters muddled?

Hi pudding you are very welcome here.
How much does he drink a week? Why does he hide the beer and does he know you know about it?
Is he happy to talk about it with you?

No idea where this post has been hiding! Bloomin PC! Be back in a mo xxx

Hi pudding, you are very welcome on the bus and I am sure you will get some support here, even though it is not you directly struggling with the drinking. It sounds like he is aware he may have an issue and is taking steps to address his drinking by attending some meetings. Unfortunately no-one can stop a drinker who wants to drink in my opinion but by not drinking and not being on his case I think you are supporting him well. He has the mental space to try and work into it, examine his habits and options. You sound like a very caring partner. Stay on the bus, you may get some insight into how he maybe feeling.

Im that doesn't sound weak! it sounds good because it is about you and your power. Hope you get some good suggestions xx