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Found out dp is on the sex offenders register

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mrscoleridge · 10/02/2014 21:37

Please be kind as this has only come out today and I think I'm in shock.
Have posted before about dp that I have been with for a few months. Am smitten with him and we have been very happy.
However my friend googled him and found that he was convicted of having a relationship with a pupil and was dismissed as a teacher.
She was 15 and pursued him according to the judgement and it only got as far as some kissing and cuddling.
I can't believe this and as I have two teenage daughters am in turmoil. He doesn't know I know.
He's been great with my family and as this was few years ago must have been out of trouble since.
I've no idea who knows.
Help!!

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Marn1e · 10/02/2014 22:45

Reading the previous threads I'm with whoever reported the thread .....

It's got all the hallmarks

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LadyBeagleEyes · 10/02/2014 22:46

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pomdereplay · 10/02/2014 22:46

He's a child abuser and he's been grooming you. He more likely than not has far more interest in your teenage daughters than in you; he just sees you as a likely mark. And so far he's right, isn't he?

Prove him wrong, kick him out and never let him near you or your children again. You haven't been in a whirlwind romance. You've just been targeted by a predator and you need to put the brakes on, fast. Take action.

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Cabrinha · 10/02/2014 22:46

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pictish · 10/02/2014 22:47

Quite. Hmm

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MostWicked · 10/02/2014 22:48

He finds teenage girls sexually attractive - that's all you need to know. Most 40yr old men would run a mile from a 15yr old girl's approach.

How did you meet? Did he know you had teenage girls when you met?

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SquirtedPerfumeUpNoseInBoots · 10/02/2014 22:48

I get that you are in shock.

But this needs to end. Now.

Read this thread back when you've had time to process.

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Proseccoisnotrah · 10/02/2014 22:48

Here:

www.nspcc.org.uk/Inform/research/briefings/sex-offender-disclosure-scheme_wda94183.html

It could be that due to the nature of the offence he is deemed at a very low risk of reoffending but I think a talk about what happened with the police and the seriousness of it might help you see things a bit more clearly. The more informed you are, the easier all this will be.

Very sorry for you op. Horrible situation.

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Bitofkipper · 10/02/2014 22:48

I see from another post ,OP, that you met him online. Did he know you daughter's ages before meeting up? Dear me.

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AnyFucker · 10/02/2014 22:48

Apparently, they met online.

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Hissy · 10/02/2014 22:48

Just read all your posts.

This man is a predator, he is a manipulator, he will destroy you and your family.

He will harm your girls.

Whatever it takes to get yourself free of this seemingly terminal case of cockstruckness you seem to have picked up, you have only one option.

If you don't bin him, you will be directly responsible for whatever he does to your dds.

I hope you never find out what he's capable of.

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BuildUpMyFence · 10/02/2014 22:49

Why do you have to announce your intentions to speak to MNHQ people? you all know it is against guidelines.

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IshouldhavemarriedEwanMcGregor · 10/02/2014 22:49

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pictish · 10/02/2014 22:49

Is it against guidelines to say you have reported? Genuine ask?

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Hissy · 10/02/2014 22:49

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SquirtedPerfumeUpNoseInBoots · 10/02/2014 22:49

Oh no, did I fall for one?
FFs.

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Funnyfoot · 10/02/2014 22:52

I think some posters announce their reporting so that if the OP (not saying this one is or isn't) is a hairy handed under the bridge dweller that they will know members are on to them and hopefully take their sick twisted mind somewhere else to play games.

Or I could be wrong.

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BuildUpMyFence · 10/02/2014 22:52

Who knows Squirted, MNHQ say don't invest anything to anyone online you are not willing to loose, be it time or money.

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Cabrinha · 10/02/2014 22:53

BuildUpMyFence - is it? I didn't know. I guess my post will be deleted then. Fair enough.

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BuildUpMyFence · 10/02/2014 22:53

I had a few pm's from Blush people who didn't think I was genuine.

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Proseccoisnotrah · 10/02/2014 22:53

Poster has been around for a long time, I remember the name.

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cees · 10/02/2014 22:53

Yes we all know it's the whorish teens who should know better, chasing a 40-something yr old man really, what do they expect, this poor man more then twice her age is the real victim, isn't he love?

(drips with sarcasm)

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OddFodd · 10/02/2014 22:54

Only the OP's been posting for about 4 years and the background story remains consistent. Bit of a long build up for the big reveal Hmm

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Funnyfoot · 10/02/2014 22:54

I think I remember your thread build. re an e-mail? Tough time you had there for a bit.

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