on balance i dont this this is a troll and HQ seem to have confirmed that.
So
If people really want to HELP this poster then stop laying into her because thats the fastest way possible of ensuring she does not come back for advice or to talk things through.
threatening to inform SS is counter productive. So is jeering, swearing, accusing and calling troll.
People have a chance to talk rationally to this poster.
OP
my mother met and married a man whom she also had a whirlwind romance with - i was 7 at the time. He made massive effort with me to begin with but i hated him, hated him touching me, from the first day i met him he picked me up and my blood ran cold. i was 7.
she spouted about love at first sight aswell.
Within a year they were married, moved in together and had a baby on the way.
That man was evil. and i do not use that word lightly. He got his just deserts in his early 50s when he dropped dead.
I believe he went for my mother because her boundaries were very skewed, she was older than him, and she feared being "left on the shelf". She saw herself as spoilt goods because she had me in her early 20s when she was unmarried and without a boyfriend. Nothing anyone said about him hit home, she believed none of it, even when one of his previous girlfriends contacted her to say ditch him - she went ahead and married him anyway.
that man caused me considerable damage that i only put to bed through counselling 2 years ago. i am 41 now. ive carried what he did to me from the age of 7.
i have absolutely no contact with my mother, and never will again. she has tried to contact me but i cannot allow that woman back into my life.
please read this. please ask yourself if you want this for yourself and your daughters in years to come.
some women do put relationships before their children.
i think those women and children pay the price.
look at your girls. if you had to choose, who would it be? my mother told me not to make her choose because if i did he would win.
she did not protect me. i hold her more responsible than him - because he meant nothing to me. she did. i loved her. she was supposed to choose me. she was supposed to protect me. she was supposed to love me.
it hurts. i have a friend who is older than my mother and whom i think of as a mum, she has nurtured, counselled, cherished and looked after me more than she ever did, and ive only known her for 15 years. She means more to me than my own mother, because you reap what you sow.
think very very carefully about what you now know. ask yourself why he has honed in on you, and at such speed....you must feel so special, so blown away by his attentions......
dont fall for it.
if you want anything of a relationship with your daughters in the future leave him now.
he should not be worth more to you after 2 months than yoru daughters of 15 and 17 years.