Found out dp is on the sex offenders register

[mrscoleridge]

Please be kind as this has only come out today and I think I'm in shock.
Have posted before about dp that I have been with for a few months. Am smitten with him and we have been very happy.
However my friend googled him and found that he was convicted of having a relationship with a pupil and was dismissed as a teacher.
She was 15 and pursued him according to the judgement and it only got as far as some kissing and cuddling.
I can't believe this and as I have two teenage daughters am in turmoil. He doesn't know I know.
He's been great with my family and as this was few years ago must have been out of trouble since.
I've no idea who knows.
Help!!

And why exactly is it "difficult to talk to people in real life"?

Because they'd be utterly horrified that you are even considering this!

As am I, these are your daughters. Do not believe the "she chased him", crap.

Normal 40 year olds do not find children sexually attractive.

wow, its really recent and hes really much much older. eugh. complete sleaze.

If you can't see the wood for the trees op then consider what your children, family, friends and work colleagues will say and think when this all comes out. And it will!

OP - your 4 year old 'boyfriend' fancies 15 year old girls. You have a 15 year old daughter. Why do you think he is dating you?

You must protect your daughter from this predatory behaviour. You do not have a 'relationship' - you are being groomed.

Sorry - 44 year old boyfriend.

Oh god I hope this is a troll. It's too damn depressing to think that there is a real woman so dicknotised that she would continue a relationship with a sex offender, and allow him access to her children.
OP, grow up. You're a parent - be one.

I remember the previous thread. There's definitely a rabbit away somewhere...

I have a horrible feeling that OP is not a troll but a woman desperate for a man at any cost. She has disappeared and is not listening. Really worried for her girls.

OP if you are still reading this PLEASE GET HIM AWAY FROM YOUR GIRLS. You will live to bitterly regret this

On a side note, I just don't understand the troll hunting policy. I was deleted for 'adding to the notes of caution and reporting' on a long thread which smelled fishy, and yet people feel comfortable blatantly calling troll on this thread. How does it work?
Op, think it's all too fresh and recent for you to do anything other than end the relationship.

Nerf, people need to report and bring it to hq attention before they delete. I'm sure they will delete much fortis thread when they spot it.

So the OP has disappeared, after seeming likely to keep this convicted sex offender in her daughters' lives.

Her old posts are sufficiently detailed for me to contact the girls' school, and from other detail I'm sure the school could identify them.

I am inclined to make the school safeguarding officer aware.

Cabrinha I read this thread last night and I keep feeling sick thinking about the implications of it.

If I knew any actual details myself I would definitely be contacting the school and/or social services.

Cabrinha I assume you are just musing out loud and I empathise, please don't consider doing that in RL.

A witch hunt would be the last thing needed here.

We have no way of knowing if any, all, or part of what has been written here is true.

if this is someone fantasising with a dollop of RL thrown in, the repercussions could be awful

if it's someone real, and the situation is real, the best outcome is that she keeps reading this thread and is not scared underground with a potential abuser

I don't think OP is a troll - her posts read like something I could imagine my mum writing, someone who hates being on her own and jumps from one crap relationship to another, straight in with both feet ignoring all warning signs or words of caution. Twice she has married within a few months of meeting the men concerned - one of them a gambler and heavy drinker, the other 'such a lovely man!' who sexually assaulted me when I was 11.

OP, engage your brain and running like the fecking wind.

I hope op was a troll, but why in the world would anyone go to such lengths to create such a vile lie.
Anyone who has ever suffered at the hands of a pedophile will find this very upsetting and I pray they dont click on this thread.

The OP would need to come back and say whether it is all bullshit or not then. If not, I don't blame Cabhrina for going worst case scenario. That surely must be better than the risk of more child sexual abuse from this man.

Please can we stop the troll hunting? If this is real the OP is a victim too and we should be supporting her not attacking her like this

Grow up he is not your Partner at best he a 'boyfriend'.

You been seeing him since 8/1/14. You haven't known him longer enough to know anything about him.

Out of interest, when are we allowed to refer to our partner as "partner"?

Sooo, are you posting on here to find out if it's ok to date a paedophile?

The answer is:

He is a paedophile.

No, she's posting because she just found compelling evidence that her lovely new partner has a conviction for sexual activities with a teenager. This must be incredibly confusing, upsetting and completely incongruous with everything else she has seen, heard or experienced with this man.

This doesn't make her sick or needy or a terrible mother. This makes her shocked and in need of compassion.

In my opinion that is.

Hello everyone,

Thank you for all your reports - we're going to take a look into this thread now. In the meantime can we please remind you of our talk guidelines