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The Dating Thread 69

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FolkGirl · 07/02/2014 12:36

Just because I wanted to be the person to start it really Smile

Welcome one and all.

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dontcallmehon · 09/02/2014 12:54

Hope the date does lead to some fireworks, Bant.

Hansel that is a good excuse for missing the date. I'd give him a chance.

I feel a bit flat. Think I need to go away again. I'm going to Reykjavik with geeky in September - nice long term planning there!

HanselandGretel · 09/02/2014 12:55

Hope the date pans out for you Bant. Hard to not build it up and who knows it may turn out to follow through in RL but as we all know, it's not real etc until it actually happens.

HanselandGretel · 09/02/2014 12:57

dont looks like another mini break is just what the doctor ordered Smile

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 09/02/2014 13:09

So... I'm just going to put this out there...

When you find someone you like... After 1 or 2 dates...

How do you know that the person in question isn't meeting up with 7 other people at a time and shagging their way around the whole city?!?

Just a bit paranoid about Mr NBNA. I mean he did mix me up with someone else before we met up. I actually asked him did he do this often and he said 'No!' I asked it innocently as I mentioned having met up with people and blahdeblah. I said I was surprised. It's true that its a bit early for me to be getting envious!!!! Any tips other than playing it cool and being generally amazing when we do meet up?!?

Mumtoh · 09/02/2014 13:11

Keeping an eye on this thread as I hope to start dating soon (almost said 'again' and then realised it's probably about 24 years since my last date!! Am I really that old?!)

Just wanted to say it's really good to have the male POV on here too.

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 09/02/2014 13:11

Oh! And please do tell me more about what you all wear on dates please. This is all new to me and its going to be Valentines Night so I will be requiring a kiss!

MadeMan · 09/02/2014 13:11

"How do you know that the person in question isn't meeting up with 7 other people at a time and shagging their way around the whole city?!?"

I suppose in the beginning you don't really, you just have to accept that it's early days and they might be casting their net wide.

OneDayWhenIGrowUp · 09/02/2014 13:14

Morning thread!
Sounds like things are pootling along nicely for many of us sorry its a bit difficult to catch up all at once!

Dont glad sounds like things are back on track with geeky

Hansel I agree a broken collarbone would distract from a date, poor chap, but the combination of that and the not exchanging numbers....all very unfortunate! At least it'd be a good story to tell if it worked out I guess....I'd expect a date rearranged sharpish.

Santa Bricky sounds promising! Def see both again....I think it tends to get more obvious over time in these situations. When is cinema date with Bricky?

Bant don't be assuming the worst before it happens!

As for me....I am struggling to reign in the inner-crazy and not overthink things too much! I can feel myself really really liking Niceguy and I know it leaves me vulnerable, and that makes me feel uncomfortable. Niceguy isn't coming with me & my friend this afternoon as he is seeing a friend of his instead....it was quite cute, he didn't want to leave my flat this morning to go see his friend, and at one point suggested I go with him to his friend's place and hang out until it was time for me to see my friend....all a little bit too intense maybe? I went out drinking with a different friend on Friday and of course we ended up at a cocktail bar dissecting me & Niceguy, and my friend's take on it was I was trying to find fault where there is none need to stop overthinking. I said to him (Niceguy) this morning, that I felt acutely aware that things seemed to be going very well between us, and that it makes me feel a little paranoid as things don't usually go well for me. He gave me a big kiss & cuddle.
I think it's all good, so why can't I just be completely positive about it, rather than expecting it to go tits up at any moment? Wasn't the whole point of this dating search to find a good relationship!!?? Ha!

OneDayWhenIGrowUp · 09/02/2014 13:19

"How do you know that the person in question isn't meeting up with 7 other people at a time and shagging their way around the whole city?!?"

Um, ask them? It hasn't ever been a practical issue for me - because either I wasn't sure about them so it didn't matter, when I have been sure about them, then we've been comfortable enough to discuss it openly and maturely. Niceguy and I had this discussion on date 3, I think, before we dtd. He said he'd cancelled one date he'd had lined up, I confessed that I had seen 2 other people that I'd had planned in advance, but had no interest in seeing either again, and that's pretty much been that.

OneDayWhenIGrowUp · 09/02/2014 13:21

Green dating wardrobe.....well it's the same as my normal wardrobe Smile which at the moment revolves around cute dresses and wool tights, usually with a cardi/jacket and scarf, and either chunky wedge boots or heels depending on how dressy (I am little. I also tend to wear flats on the way out/home and change shoes at the tube station when I get there!). I did use a solid first-date outfit which I knew looked good and I was comfy in, and made it easier for 2nd dates to remember what I'd worn first time around so as not to repeat it!

oldfashionedgirl · 09/02/2014 13:25

I have never really dated but have realised that I will never meet anyone staying home!

I don't know that I could even write a profile for myself though .... Also I just feel like I have lots that I should fix about myself first.

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Santaclaws · 09/02/2014 15:22

Been at work today. Had texts from both Mr Bricky and I will call the other one Mr Shiny. Mr shiny text with the usual " hope your day is good and hope your feeling well and had a good sleep"

Also had text from Mr Bricky " feeling a little worse for wear, self inflicted. Had a look at film trailer and it looks good, looking forward to seeing you on Thursday."

I'm seeing Mr Shiny for a meal tomorrow and Mr Bricky on Thursday for the cinema. I think I'm more nervous about seeing them for the second time strangely

Bant · 09/02/2014 16:42

Not that strange, santa - first dates are ten a penny. It's easy enough getting a first date through OD, everyone will get chancery, oddballs, and the occasional nice person messaging them.

The trick is getting a date with someone you want a second date with. First dates are to see if you can stand to be around them. Second dates are to tell if you actually like them a lot. Third dates are to tell if you want to bump uglies.

Generally, anyway.

Bant · 09/02/2014 16:43

Everyone will get chancers that was meant to say

Santaclaws · 09/02/2014 17:01

bant it will be my second date with both. Not sure which I prefer just yet, or even if I particularly like either of them. Mr Bricky is tipped for favourite at the moment.

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 09/02/2014 17:04

What does 'bump uglies' mean?

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 09/02/2014 17:05

I prefer Mr Shiny! ;-)

Blossomflowers · 09/02/2014 17:07

Well just come back for my first daet in 22 years, well I say date did not feel like it. Been chatting on pof, met up in country pub chatted for 3 hours. Was nice. He did not suggest meeting again.All a bit sureal really. Not sure what to expect. just analysing my feelings.

TheCrow · 09/02/2014 17:10

Green bump uglies is a literal descriprion of sex :p I prefer the sound of Mr Bricky!

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 09/02/2014 17:14

Well done Blossom! Don't analyse your feelings too much. I went on so many iInternet dates before and if you put too much feeling into it, it can be very tough on you emotionally!

It's so easy to get mismatches!

I've texted mr NBNA back today saying that 'I'm looking forward to it and I haven't worked out what music is on yet... x' or something like that. I feel like he's going to get bored because I'm so unavailable. I'd actually like to see him sooner than Friday but don't have a babysitter. I'd like to talk to him on the phone too but it's true that I have a busy week [especially since I have to look great on Friday night!!!'] ;-)

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 09/02/2014 17:16

Ugh! Bump uglies is a horrible expression!

For me the first date is the test for physical attractiveness and would I sleep with him?!?! and the next dates will be for fun nights out & checking out his personality!

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 09/02/2014 17:20

So yeah... Just putting it out there again...

So on what date on average do you all actually have sex?

Answers on a postcard... ;-)

Santaclaws · 09/02/2014 17:25

green I haven't a clue about the when to have sex question:)
I won't even get in a car with them to drive me anywhere this early on

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 09/02/2014 17:28

Haha! So it's ok to wait like 6 weeks?