Morning thread!
ofg the other thing I'd add about not feeling confident about your size, is to not keep mentioning it/referring to it in a negative way. I dated one guy who did this, and it was really really off putting. I actually quite fancied him and thought he was a lovely man, but there were some personality traits that I just thought we would clash with long term. When I said I wasn't interested, he bought it back to him being big again, which really wasn't the issue, but I thought it was quite sad (and a bit insulting) that he assumed that his size was all I could see.
Lizzie all sounding very full. It's funny isn't it - I think if you felt as strongly about him as he seems to about you you'd probably think it was all lovely, but clearly you don't so it sounds a bit creepy! Honesty is the way to go - he's scaring you off. Which one was this - the one your friend set up or the other one?
santa have you told Bricky that you don't like being called things like 'sexy'? Some people do like that kind of thing and he's not psychic. If he persisted once you'd told him you don't like it that's different but it might just feel natural to him.
Well I had a really lovely Valentines with Niceguy. Posh romantic meal out and he stayed at mine again. No flowers or card though - I would have liked flowers and a card. I guess I have made quite a lot of sarcastic noise about not being too mushy so that was my own fault! He now knows that I do like cards. I had a friend staying over for the weekend so he cleared off Sat morning and then came around again last night, met my friend briefly before she had to leave (she gave stamp of approval) and then quiet night in with a movie.
I am struggling with moments of feeling quite vulnerable and anxious about it all - expecting him at any moment to turn round and say he's changed his mind or end things out of the blue. Despite him being consistently lovely, making efforts to see me at pretty much every opportunity, and giving me a lot of dappy smiles when we're spending time together. He's given me no sign at all that there's any problems, it's all going scarily well to be honest, so I wish I could just relax and stop with the paranoia! I've got it under control at the moment and not seeking reassurance from him, keeping my worries to myself, (and ranting to my friend!) but it's hard!! He's coming with me to something on Thursday that I have to do, that I'm very anxious about, he's coming to hold my hand and support me and then we'll go out afterwards, and I'm so appreciative that he's doing that and has even booked the time off work to be there for me. So maybe I'm mostly anxious about Thursday (something I can't do anything about) and displacing the anxiety onto him instead....hmm. Anyway. I don't know why it's so hard for me to accept that this lovely man may actually like me.