The Dating Thread 69

[FolkGirl]

Just because I wanted to be the person to start it really

Welcome one and all.

Oh I am terrified of meeting someone in real life after chatting on line - I a sure they are going to think I am huge!

Some of the profiles I have read have even said no one over a size 12!!

I try to send a no thank you but good luck message if someone contacts me but some messages have been really odd so I ignore those.

Thanks oldfashioned - I guess I need some practice with even plain old flirting. Maybe it's better when there's no photo - then you can just chat and not worry that they will turn out to have two heads with waxed handle bar moustaches.

Same here! Flirting is not one of my skills - blushing and becoming mute sadly is!

My photographs are flattering so that is my panic!

The photo free ones may not all have two heads but they often have a partner they want to keep out of the loop.

omg now in a panic, I am meeting mr Scottish accent @ 8.00 tonight, he is driving to my area and has been really sweet and considerare in texting but I am feeling ever so slight sick now with nerves. Just don't know what to wear, are jeans too casual for Sunday night? should I wea a dress with leggings ( have good legs) or too much, meeting in a fairly laid back pub of my choice. Help!

blossom What would you feel most comfortable in? People wear jeans anywhere and you can dress them up - depends on the top / jacket.

Am panicking as I have a possible date on Tuesday but straight from work so I will be a scruff! Also does anyone know a way of losing 3 stones in 2 days?!

OFG thanks. Forget 3 stone, just be yourself, sure he can see what you look like in your photo's so would not want to meet you if it was an issue. I think we are both over thinking this. I also think my profile pics are flattering and he is 41 a good few years younger than me, hop he does not think I am too old. Am shaking now.

Blossom My pictures don't show my body really! Panic - plus he is driving miles and miles to meet me. I told him the pictures were pretty when he said I was attractive.

He must like you though to arrange to meet you! He knows how old you are already.

Would you normally talk to someone on the phone before meeting them?

This chat is driving nearel an hour to meet me, keep sending me texts I get the feeling he is nervous too. Yes I know he knows my age but even still
I always speak on the phone, if that goes well then meet, trouble is I am dead good on the and not confident f2f.

At least he is nervous too! :) I think this is the thing that worries me with on line dating - if you meet someone in a bar then you know that they have seen you in person and are attracted to you. On line is way more complicated!

Ok - wondered as this one said he wanted to ring me. Even that makes me so nervous! He doesn't seem to be the shy type which is handy as I really am!

Everyone has their own thoughts on talking on the phone but I personally would not meet someone I had not talked but then what do I know.Stillnot decided what to wear, oh bloody hell, 20 year since I have done this and then it was natural being chattted up in a bar, was young and hot then. Now middle aged slightly over weight woman with lines

I guess it is a good way to get a feel for the person - not just carefully constructed messages. I have only been on the site for 3 days so it still feels strange. Plus someone else wants to meet me at the weekend.

You will look fab! He has a long drive to panic on!

:p I am in my 20s and have never been chatted up in a bar!

But you knowwhat OFG that has nothing to do with your size but how you feel about yourself. I have had friends you have been big girls but exude confidence and get plenty of male attention. Many people think I am offish and aloof but actually I am just shy

Probably right there but I figured men were attracted the packaging first. Oh he might not like big girls regardless of confidence! And not like I can ask him really.

Have you decided what to wear yet?

Don't these old sites ask your body type, best me honest, I know for a fact that some men do fine more curvy attractive.
No not decided what to wear but probably go for shortish dress which is quite plain black leggings and boots.

And why not ask him OFG you have nothing to loose, right?

It did ask and I put would prefer not to say ..... Very much a work in progress - one stone off but maybe I should have waited longer before putting a profile up.

Sounds like a good outfit - casual enough for the pub and you said you have good legs. He will be setting off!

hI all, had a lovely day off from everything. Still a bit weirded out from date last night. just wished I hadn't bothered TBH. I am going to have a break from men in general and book a nice holiday somewhere. Im going ignore Mr Cute unless he gets in contact. Sick of the whole shebang...

hi jarlin
got a text last night at half midnight saying he had a lovely time, I replied this morning saying I did too, but havent heard from him today thank God.
Feeling like I wish it hadn't happened TBH

Jarlin I don't really have many photographs of myself - one of those people who hides when a camera is around. My main worry is that I come across better on line - talking to him on the phone tomorrow which might be painful! Still amazed that I have had so many messages and that there were some normal / nice ones in there.

It is so much easier on line! Never realised before!

It doesn't feel like a confidence boost really as I am too busy worrying! There are maybe 5/6 that seem interesting and that I have been able to have a good chat through messages with. Problem is that I don't think I can click with someone without meeting them! I am not really looks orientated but still there has to be something face to face. Two have asked to meet me this week and they are willing to travel and meet me somewhere nice and public. It just seems weird!

ofg, I agree with Jarlin about uploading a full length photo, then there are no surprises when you meet someone. You say your pics are more flattering than you look in real life (and don't we all put our best on of course) but I do think it's better to be honest about your size before a date, if it's an issue to anyone then you will soon know by who contacts you and who doesn't, and wouldn't that be preferable than worrying yourself silly before a date, when you would be nervous enough anyway without that added pressure.