The Dating Thread 69

[FolkGirl]

Just because I wanted to be the person to start it really

Welcome one and all.

LizzieBelle I'm going to go against the majority here andsuggest you maybe give Mr Cute just one more chance. At least that way you wouldn't always be thinking "what if....."
You can always keep Mr Sweet in reserve.
Oh and FYI - we are not alone in out hatred of small hands, it's quite common in women apparently

Calamity good luck for tonight! It will be interesting to see if your new dating method works - be sure to update us!

Yes Calamity looks don't matter.

It's all about the personality. I'm so over big muscles and arrogant lying pricks ;-)

Personality first, sense of humour and kindness being top of the list. Then it's not so much about looks as such bug whether there is any chemistry there. I have had chemistry with men who people wouldn't consider conventionally good looking

Yes, personality first or at least just as important as looks......unless of course he has small hands!!

Personality, sexual chemistry and big hands
Mr Bricky has very big hands :)

santa I'm with you on personality vs looks. But chemistry & spark has to be there. Hmm yes bit worrying if Bricky hasn't developed any independence/self-reliance. How do you feel about that?

calamity is it a first date on Valentines? Aw fingers x'd for you!

Lizzie I'm with cynical - how do you feel about multi-dating?

girlie enjoy! not jealous at all, nope nope....have to wait until 9pm to start my V-day :-(

I don't think I dislike small hands.....but I do love Niceguys lovely big hands. Mine look so small in comparison. Makes me feel all dainty

I'm a bit concerned to tell the truth. He has lived with a partner previously for several years in a rented property that he rented off a friend. But then went back to his parents when the relationship ended and his father became ill. I guess only time will tell if he can be independant or if he is lazy. It's the way he freely admitted That his mum has done most things for him since he moved back there that was a bit worrying

Santa loving Mr Bricky more by the minute!

ODWIGU - at least you HAVE a date on valentines day with big hands too soooo jealous!. I'm putting off telling Mr Cuddles there won't be a third date I can't be that cruel to tell him on Valentines day - can I??

santa yes I'd feel the same too. Maybe you can start conversations about things that he likes to cook etc

cynical it's just a day isn't it....I'd probably go with delayed, unenthusiastic replies to any message and hope he doesn't actually ask for another date just yet! I don't think there's any compulsion to swoop in with a ''no thanks'' unless he actually asks you. When I was about 14 I wanted to break up with a boyfriend just before valentines and felt guilty about it....maturely I decided to ignore him for 3 days and then turn up to school on the 15th with a box of his tapes and things that he'd left at mine! So as long as you go with something nicer than that I think he'll be fine

I am stupidly really quite excited about tonight. It is the first time ever ever ever I've actually been taken out on V-day (XP was not the romantic type - I never even got flowers, ever, in 6.5 years). I buy myself flowers now whenever I want them. If Niceguy has got a me a rose or anything I may actually melt. Am trying to think what to write in his card....thinking I might stick a lottery ticket in there, seeing as I'm feeling so lucky today anyway!

santa totally did not finish my personal to you!! Maybe you could start conversations about things that he likes to cook etc to suss out how independent he can actually be. How does he dress - does he buy his own clothes etc? That's a massive bugbear of mine, men that rely on their mums/partners to buy all their clothes for them. My Dad has claimed before that he doesn't know where the kind of pants that he likes come from. WTF?

Oh is it just me or does everyone panic totally when someone asks them to meet up?!

thank you cynical and one-day I will go on date with Mr Sweet, but will give Mr Cute another try. Sexually he is more attractive to me than Mr Sweet who is a bit on the skinny side.

And multi dating? I like it! But isn't it a pseudonym for two timing? Or do they both need to know about each other for it to work?!!!

Jarlin your date sounds lovely, so glad Slowburner decided to get a move on!

Can't remember who told me to stick with OLD even though all prospects disappeared at once but you were right, suddenly got a flurry of activity out of nowhere- last night Mr Guitarist texted me and asked if I'd want to see him again but he'd only be able to come round late after finishing work as he has so much other stuff going on.Then today I got a message on POF from cute guy who disappeared (need to think of a good name for him!) asking me how my week was. Plus I'm talking to a nice punky/alt guy who literally makes me laugh out loud with his messages :)

I also had two lovely flirts with one of my customers (on the way to town and again on the way back!) as he was doing some work on one of the houses I walk past. Had a big grin on my face afterwards!

Yes old fashioned everyone panics before meeting up x Try to relax.

oneday at the pants comment. Bricky dresses ok from what I've seen, I imagine he buys his own although I do remember him saying he doesn't like shopping, but not many men do from what I've seen. Good idea to ask what he likes to cook

cynical why are you loving mr Bricky more every minute *old
oldfashioned YES I panic when I get asked to meet, even the second and third dates

Oldfashioned - it's not just you!!
I sometimes wonder why I'm putting myself through this pressure again and again......and again!

ODWIGU - it's not stupid to get excited, it's lovely today of all days to meet up with someone we are excited about. I hope Mr NiceGuy does bring you flowers.
Unfortunately Mr Cuddles has already asked for another date on sunday, I've been non-committal so far.

Santa - I honestly wouldn't worry too much, I'm sure he is an independant guy really.
Long story but my son had to move back in with me for a while a couple of years back and I did (almost) everything for him too , it's a mum thing! He didn't sak me to do things I just did them i think more for me than him. I thin it made me feel "wanted" again lol

Thanks cynical makes me feel better, I'm a right old worrier about everything

He's just text saying he's gone home as weather so bad and asked what I'm doing. I said I'm sneezing today ( he had bit of a cold last night) and was blaming him. He then said he would come round and look after me if I want. I said no I needed an early night as need to get up early for work but would let him know what we could do tomorrow evening. He then replies " ok have a think where you want to go or if you want to stay in I could bring a movie round"

Help I don't know if I'm ready for that. Why does nobody ever want to take it slowly anymore??? I do like him though and don't want to put him off

Santa - don't panic, a movie could just mean a movie. I think we (me included) sometimes over-think things. Men on the other hand are simple creatures (bless them) and I'm sure he's not even aware of the undertones of his offer.
Would you feel comfortable with him coming round? If not just arrange to go out somewhere. You're in control just do things at your own pace

Sorry for the typos in my previous message I'm typing one handed!

Oh just the message saying fancy meeting for a coffee / drink is putting me into a tizzy!

My photograph is a bit flattering and I am so shy in person - might not even be able to speak!

Santa I wouldn't panic too much, sounds like he's just thinking you might not feel up to going out if you're not well. Arrange to go out, and if he's showing signs of wanting to go back to yours just explain you're not ready yet, he might be more understanding than you'd expect!

I just had my first offer of a valentine's date, from someone 12 years older than me :(

Oldfashioned - Don't panic either!!
Lol, I'm beginning to sound like Corporal Jones in Dad's Army

It's natural to have nerves, just remember he will be nervous too you know. Your photo may be flattering but it IS you, you can't look that different in the flesh. Take a deep breathe and go for it!!

Carpe Diem!!

crow 12 years isn't a huge amount!

I just was really expecting no messages and it is only day 2 and have been asked out by 3 men! Really really odd! Men do not notice me in real life at all.