dont I think flipper's post about behaviour modifying is excellent - we must have similar attitudes! Anyway it sounds good that you are focusing on yourself.
cynical definitely go with honesty!!! I agree someone who felt the need to bring the fact that you have breasts up all the time wouldn't be for me. Are yours particularly remarkable - are they musical, or light up perhaps? (lol @ souffle out of the oven btw!) Sounds like you have a good plan - cards on the table, stop being inappropriate, I would be subtle about no-nookie-date-3 - I wouldn't address that quite so directly, but would definitely make sure that date 3 was out somewhere not at (or close to) either home - or maybe even for an afternoon when you then had other plans in the evening? Good luck tonight anyway.
needsmorecake welcome! you've had 2 disappear after arranging dates? how very rude. It's so frustrating isn't it. Not a reflection on you though, at all.
girlie 
bed picnic! bed picnic! Seriously though, I hope you have a lovely day.
hello noones going to hit you! What's changed though?
On a general note, I was having a good natter earlier with a friend about different relationship models and knowing what sort of relationship you want. This came after observing some customers at work (two different couples) and then commenting privately between ourselves how we would just not accept that kind of behaviour in a partner. We came to the conclusion that we all have different expectations; but that the key is probably 1. knowing what sort of relationship you want and 2. discussing that with your partner. It all comes down to communication doesn't it.