Hi all - I haven't been on for a couple of days as I was kind of thrown by the events the other day.
First of all - dont - I don't think Geeky is a bad guy, I disagree with some of the others about him being abusive, and I can understand why he'd be upset by your ex being alone with you when your ex was throwing you out of a pub when you took geeky there etc.
However, I don't think he's right for you in your situation, with the DC. Yours has been one of the lovely stories on this thread in the last couple of months, and it's horrid to see it come to an end like this. You've both said things you shouldn't, but that's a sign of an intense relationship, not a healthy one. I think going no contact for a while is a good idea so you can sort your feelings out and work out if the good really does outweigh the bad. He'll be contacting you when you've asked him not to because he's distraught too, can't work out why you're accusing him of stuff and doesn't know what he wants because the situation is fucked up for him too. I feel sorry for the guy, but I don't think it's healthy, what you've got at the moment.
Several posts on here are making him out to be a monster, and he's not, he's just a very upset bloke in an intense relationship with someone with a history, and he's not dealing with it very well, and because of the intensity you've overlooked his inability to deal with it, when you need someone who can.
You deserve better, and he's not giving it.
Other than that:
I'm going to be a mostly-lurker on here from now on, I think. I'll pop up occasionally, but the accusations the other day of inciting or possibly committing date-rape because I let a woman come over to mine at her suggestion and I broke up with her shortly afterwards, the fact that I was attacked several times after telling someone I didn't Date the Thread and obviously didn't read the non-existent sarcasm in her request for a date, combined with Snails/Blooms regular little visits where she attacks me (after being blocked repeatedly from MN for attacking me and others, and has been blocked again) - it's all a bit much really.
I know several people on here jumped up to defend me, and I really do appreciate that. And I know that on internet forums there will always be emotions running high and arguments, but I've had enough of the personal attacks because I'm an easy target and because some people associate me with bad things from their past, or just disagree with my views and feel free to attack me. It's really not what I want to spend my time worrying about.
So good luck everyone, I'll drop by sometimes.