The Dating Thread 69

[FolkGirl]

Just because I wanted to be the person to start it really

Welcome one and all.

Hot milky bath??...who does he think she is? Cleopatra?!

lahti sounds like he's been caught and is now desperately trying to clamber out of the hole. I'd not give him any more of your time.

Look Chocberry you haven't led him on at all!!! You have nothing to feel guilty about!!! Text him and tell him you're A/ Not married to him and B/ Not living in the Middle Ages and C/ You think it's maybe not going to work out

I'm going to stand up for Mr Shiny here. Milky baths are amazing. It's a really good idea. [Pours a pint into her own batg]

It's just so fucking disappointing though. I took it slow with this one and look what happened. Like I said I didn't expect him to come off the site yet, I just was explaining that I felt he was going a bit too fast. It's the lying about taking it down which pisses me off. sigh

If I change my name to Cleopatra, you'll know who I am. If it works for the Queen of Egypt, it's good enough for me...

Now he's texting me after he deletes his profile from each site that he is on. I only knew about 2 sites FFS!

Lahti It's just a bad sign that he was being deceitful this early on, do you know if he had the second profile running at the same time as his other one? or did he delete and then create a new one?

Ps Bant I love that expression 'addicted to the sweet trolley.' I am going to say it to Mr NBNA further along the line...

hansel I knew he was on 2 sites and had also just come off MATCH (he made a big deal if it as though it was a sign of undying love). I don't know if he had 2 profiles on the same site at the same time though.
I completely understand why people multidate etc but it's the lying about the profile that's annoyed me.

I think multi (or at least more than one) profile is more common than people realise. I was messaging with a guy once and I had reason to block him, lo and behold I received a message from his 'other' profile almost instantly saying I shouldn't have blocked him!!

He's just texted me about the 5th site he has deleted his profile from.

Yuk, he sounds like a winner lathi

And possibly unhinged.

hansel yep

Green, I think it depends where you're going. The Zara outfit sounds more casual, the Coast one sounds more sophisticated (evening dinner date).

Yeah. He's very, very well dressed. So if we're going for dinner on Valentines Night, I had better wear one of my 'wow' dresses not mentioned above. And I had better book a table ;-) But still, he doesn't live in the city, so where is he going to sleep? I had tried to find a gig but couldn't find anything good online... I don't want to just drink in bars because that's boring... Maybe he should get a hotel room?

(There's no way he's staying at mine as the timing isn't right)

Lahti don't worry. Chin up. There are plenty more fish in the sea.

Oh! I just reread messages from Mr NBNA and after the date on Friday he texted me 'what's your availability for the next 3 months.'

What do you think that means Oh wise dating people?!

Oh God I am having a rare sleepless night!

Bant what you said about the women you slept with has been rattling around in my head.

Did it occur to you that once you disengaged emotionally (as you often did straightaway after sleeping with women) that the woman in question might have been left a little distraught and felt a little used? Did you possibly say things to her that you didn't fully mean? My guess is that these women did not turn crazy at all and that you were cold towards them and they tried to get your attention by sending excessive texts, music videos etc in a vain & desperate attempt to disengage.

I disagree with those people who said 'yeah that's crazy behaviour.'

Maybe men shouldn't mess with womens feelings, tell them things they don't mean at all in order to get into their knickers, screw them and then go around saying that it's the women who are crazy (and it's not just that the men are using their power to screw them over.)

That should have read 'vain and desperate attempt to emotionally engage with you

You might come on Mumsnet threads for a snoop but I'm not sure about how 'lovely' you really are.

lahti IMHO Men like to hedge their bets. A lot of them have what I call 'The Picnic Syndrome'. They find someone they like, but they always think - Ill just have little look further on...

chocberry I have this situation at the moment Met a really lovely guy last weekend and we are going out next Saturday. He sends lovely texts and is smitten with me (so our mutual friend says) So why am I thinking NOOOOOOOOO! He seems too nice, yet this is what I want, so why am I doing this ??????

someone kick me again

GRBYP Glad you said the about bant Not sure of his motives on this board other than trying to justify his behaviour