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The Dating Thread 69

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FolkGirl · 07/02/2014 12:36

Just because I wanted to be the person to start it really Smile

Welcome one and all.

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Lahti · 09/02/2014 21:29

greenred I intend to, but how to do it without looking like a stalker (although I'm half I am)?
Am tempted to email him the link to his new profile. SO PISSED OFF.

Lahti · 09/02/2014 21:30

Glad not half

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 09/02/2014 21:35

Hmm Santa it is a tricky one and I hadn't come up with an opinion... If he's a bit older than you could it be an age thing that he's being so caring/ giving you so much advice? Maybe it's just that he really wants a relationship with you and is already very emotionally involved with you even though you aren't with him.

I prefer him over Bricky because firstly, you give him a nicer name :-)

Bricky drinks quite a lot maybe? (Reference to hangover), mixed you up with someone else... Sounds more like a player to me but obviously you know best!! :-)

Physically, could you see yourself fancying Shiny ever?

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 09/02/2014 21:39

Bant if you're ever in the UK (quite a wide open space yes) or if I'm ever in... em... Central Europe again sometime soon, I want to go on a date with you (scrap Mr. NBNA) ;-)

Lahti · 09/02/2014 21:40

I've just sent a text explaining what I have found out and that I'm not interested in any explanations.

Santaclaws · 09/02/2014 21:44

Hmm it's difficult, I don't know if I do physically fancy him, it's not an instant thing. Surely he couldn't be emotionally involved after one date could he? He's 2 years younger than me

I call him Bricky as he's a bricklayer. Not sure if he drinks quite a lot, he didn't come across like that on the date. I did worry about the player bit though. He doesn't LOOK like a player at all, but I wasn't keen when he said he was on match and POF. The mixing me up with someone else I just put down to if you are chatting to a few you forget who told you what, but I could be wrong

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 09/02/2014 21:46

Yeah he really could be emotionally involved after one date.

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 09/02/2014 21:47

What does the other guy do work wise?

Santaclaws · 09/02/2014 21:47

Works in IT for a bank

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 09/02/2014 21:49

Well are you best suited to I.T attentive types or hunky builders?

Santaclaws · 09/02/2014 21:52

Difficult one again because mentally and intellectually to I.T types
Physically and sexually attracted far more to builder types
God I'm awkward! Grin

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 09/02/2014 21:56

If you're looking for a relationship, then Shiny. If you're looking for sex, then Bricky.

Or else, cancel Shiny- tell him next week or the weekend instead. In the meantime, have sex with Bricky on Thursday to give him a test drive. Following Bant's theory, he may become weird after sex or things may change. Then you can put him in the dumper truck and see Shiny instead.

Santaclaws · 09/02/2014 21:59

Next time I'm seeing one at a time, keeps it simple :)

Good plan btw green

Chocberry · 09/02/2014 22:11

Hi all. I've recently started online dating. I met a lovely guy, Friday went out for a 2nd date. The 1st date was a week before and we've spoken every day since. The 2nd date we went bowling then went out for drinks. We had a few too many and ended up having a snog. Had a good night but I felt not very attracted to him. Shouldn't have snogged him I know!
Now he's messaged me asking to go exclusive as he can't deal with us still being on website and knowing I may be dating others. I've said no it's too early and now we are not speaking.
I feel bad about it. Bad that I gave him the wrong idea. I met him for a 2nd date as I felt I wanted to see if I could be attracted to him.
Do you think I have led him on and I'm out of order?
Feeling a bit shit about it all now.

Bant · 09/02/2014 22:13

thanks GRBYP but I think the 'no dating the thread' rule is still in effect Grin

If I dated someone from here, where would I be able to ask all my ridiculous questions?

Jarlin · 09/02/2014 22:21

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Lahti · 09/02/2014 22:29

jarlin he has replied. Claims that the site deleted his profile rather than him. Says he hasn't fine anything wrong, he's just lonely and likes to talk to people and sorry to upset me. I'm ignoring him.

Lahti · 09/02/2014 22:29

Done not fine

Lahti · 09/02/2014 22:31

Now he's saying he was stupid and foolish. Then "please don't end it"

Lahti · 09/02/2014 22:34

Now he claims he is falling in love with me. Aargh.

What is this all about?

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 09/02/2014 22:46

Yeah texts are awkward Lahti. He sounds like a liar though!

Bant- I'm heartbroken. I'm going to start doing crazy woman things. ;-)

MadeMan · 09/02/2014 22:46

Santa, was it Mr Shiny or Mr Bricky that recommended the hot milky bath to help you sleep?

GreenRedBlueYellowPurple · 09/02/2014 22:47

What Chocberry?! You've spoken every day since?! Wow!

Jarlin · 09/02/2014 22:49

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OhWesternWind · 09/02/2014 22:49

Choc no, I don't think you led him on. It was only two dates and a snog. If he's not speaking to you, I'd leave it that way.

Santa why does him being on two dating sites upset you? I was on Match and PoF because I was serious about finding someone and I wanted the best chance of doing that. I wouldn't worry unless he seems like a player for other reasons.