Anyone decided to give up on relationships?

[superstarheartbreaker]

And feel better for it? I have just got rid of the latest of a long line of pricks. I do choose some right idiots.
I'm no angel. I do get quite insecure if I'm with a new partner and although I try not to show it, it must manifest. Tbh I am very sad as I feel very unsupported. I suffer from anxiety occasionally and my last bf dumped me because of my anxiety regarding a new job.
Men never seem to deliver the kind of support that I crave. I have been dumped for: starting a new job, getting pregnant, getting upset about drugs, etc etc etc.
I just feel like giving up and that I'm destined to be alone but at the same time I feel a bit jealous of everyone around me who seems it so easy to find someone to love and support them.

[Chesntoots]

I'm with sus14.

I like to come home and find things where I left them. I like to do what I want when I want.

I have been single for over a year and lived on my own for eight years and I can't see myself living with anyone again...

[flippinada]

I haven't had sex since my last relationship ended and don't miss it nearly as much as I thought I would.

Actually, I don't miss it at all...I like having my body to myself.

[Farrowandbawl]

Sex?

I don't miss it at all. If I want some I'm sure I can get some from somewhere but to be honest, I can't even be bothered to er...please myself, shall we say, most of the time anyway.

Over the last three years, I'd say that that particular urge has happened twice? at the most..and even then I'm not sure it's been that many.

[Kernowgal]

Yep, pretty much given up here. Granted I'm not in the right place mentally at the moment but the last one was such hard work that any future bloke would have to be amazing for me to even consider it.

I take care of myself, can cook, do DIY, mend things, fix machines, understand computers blah blah blah. I don't miss the sex either as he was such a selfish bastard that it felt like a chore towards the end.

I like my freedom. I like being answerable to no-one. I like that if I wanted to up and leave and move abroad tomorrow, I could. I spend my weekends doing my own thing, seeing my friends. Yes, occasionally a cuddle would be nice, or someone to cook the dinner or clean the flat or take the car for its MOT, but I get by.

[SwimmingClose]

I feel like a complete and whole person when I am single. My self worth is much diminished as part of a couple.

What DorothyGherkins says (a brilliant line if I may say so, but sad in a way. This should always be the litmus test of whether a relationship is positive for the woman especially, don't you think?)

I would never rule out a relationship, but would have to feel actually respected now (a new thing I have to say). I just couldn't put up with an idiot anymore. I think in the past my sex-drive or my desire to confirm my feminine desirability sometimes got in the way too many times.

[HotDAMNlifeisgood]

Like others here, I feel more whole and stable alone, and find that relationships are hard work, and trigger my feelings of unworthiness / people-pleasing.

Partly it's because these relationships where with abusive / unavailable men. But partly it's my own poor self-esteem getting in the way of a good relationship.

So I don't want to give up on relationships. I just know that two conditions have to be met: respectful, available man, and self-actualized, willing-to-take-the-risk me.

Tough combination to find.