Does he like me?

[TequilaItMakesMeHappy]

Last week a bunch of us went out after work. We work as engineers and subcontract some of the work to other firms. Some of them came out with us. One of the sub firms always sends the same 2 guys, and they've been working with us for a few years. One of the guys (G1) I'd never spoken to, the other (G2) is very outgoing so always have a bit of a chat and giggle with him.

Anyway, in the pub I was with my friends, and noticed that whenever I looked over in G1's direction he was looking at me. Still didn't really speak much to him as I didn't know him at all. I was chatting to his mate a lot, and we all played pool together.

As people started going their separate ways, G2 announced he was going into town and asked if I wanted to join him and G1. I was having a good night and wasn't ready for going home so agreed.

Once we were out we had a few drinks together, then G2 disappeared to another part of the bar (on the pull!!) and I sat chatting to G1 for quite a while. I don't really remember how it came about, but he was telling me I was stunning, quite a catch etc and, surprised, I rubbished it. He was then really surprised that I didn't see it (drink talking and all that?!!)

Anyway, we carried on talking and our heads were very close together (loud music etc), so he said something and I tilted my ear towards his mouth to hear properly, and as I turned back our noses brushed each others. Next thing, he kissed me. The kiss went on quite a long time and built in passion. We then got more drinks, had a little look for G2 and then went back to sitting chatting and kissed again. It was an amazing kiss, real knee trembler, and given that he says he's shy with women, really knew how to push my buttons! (Btw, I believe him when he says he's shy around women as he was blushing when I first spoke to him that night).

Once back at work, he got my number from a guy I work with, and since then we've text each other a few times a day. We talked about our night out and he said it seemed the right thing to do at the time, but was naughty and he shouldn't have done it. Obviously its a bit of a bad move given we work together.

So I have no idea whether he likes me or if it was just a case of being drunk and convenient. And I know it probably doesn't matter because we work together and it wouldn't go any further, but I just want to satisfy my own curiosity! I could ask him outright, but I think he'd be too embarrassed.

OP... stop it. I'd believe that you 'weren't delighted' if you hadn't started this thread to ask 'Does he like me?'. You know he's married so whether he 'likes you' or not is immaterial. You haven't had the responses that you wanted and yes, I too think that you are delighted.

I'm all in favour of women behaving with equality but please stop acting as if you're a wide-eyed innocent, you're sounding ridiculous. Own your behaviour and stop pretending that you don't know what you're doing.

And no I never hoped he liked me either.

The reason for my curiosity was more because whenever I'm on the receiving end of attention its always quite obvious that they've noticed I have big boobs. It wasn't the case this time (so far as I noticed), and I'm not used to a man who doesn't know me finding me attractive beyond my boobs. That is all!

This is all about boobs ?

I'm not hinting at anything, and don't think it would be fair to start discussing in detail somebody else's personal issues of which I have no involvement.

But we are both nursing somebody through something very similar. I recognise that such stress can lead to moments of madness, which is all it was.

In my 3rd post I said why I was curious. I've never said I had any interest in pursuing anything with him. I just explained (admittedly rather badly) the situation.

I'm sure he liked you for your glowing personality

So far as I see I'm answering questions and addressing points raised. Not feeding anything.

I appreciate what people have said. I disagree that we can't be mates, but will ease off the texting as I can see that its potentially not great for his relationship.

Forget him, he's as deep as a muddy puddle. Concentrate on you, and your issues. Sort yourself out, before accumulating any more questionable friends.

Never mind "ease off the texting" - just stop it!

A guy snogging you when drunk doesn't mean he finds you attractive, regardless of boob size. Sorry. But we all learn that.

I'm a bit bewildered as to how you managed to talk about your home situations without it being apparent he was married. What kind of home set up did he tell you he had? A flatmate?

We are both nursing a parent through illness. Both of our parents are likely to pass away in the near future. This is what we talked about. Other relationships didn't come into it.

I appreciate that drunken snogging does not equate to finding somebody attractive. It was more the spark. But its completely irrelevant anyway. Given the amount of booze, the fact that we were both having a bit of an escape from the reality of our rather shitty situations is why it happened.

And yes, sorry where I'm from easing off doing something means not doing it any more.

You were talking about 'seeing him' in your second post, avoiding seeing colleagues from work, yadda yadda . You then quickly backtracked, Tequila. I think what you wanted is to lay out the position in your OP, get posters saying 'yes he likes you' and then input the salient point that he's married. You're focusing on the initial 'yes he likes you' posts, I think, and I don't believe that 'easing off' means 'stopping' anywhere in the country. Given the responses that you've had, a woman not looking to pursue this would have said 'stopping', which is universally understood.

You can write this off as a drunken mistake but please stop thinking it's anything to do with attractiveness; it's availability.

And big boobs.

I've not mentioned seeing him anywhere!! I did say that I have never gone down that road with a colleague as I like to keep my private life and work life separate.

I genuinely asked him if he was in a relationship after a post on here. Although in hindsight I should have realised anyway.

For me, ease off means not doing any more. It is the term that is most commonly used where I live. But regardless of that, I have said that I understand why that could cause issues in his relationship, which obviously I don't want.

ImperialBlether, I have big boobs too, lots of unwanted attention, but in this age of plastic, silicon and 'chicken fillets', it's not hard to have an artificial pair so I'm pinning it down to 'availability' and possibly not many other offers.

Not really sure why its relevant but I have plenty of female friends. I tend to spend more time with men because I work with men, it's a very male dominated industry and environment. And I have no idea what a blokes girl is, nor do I have any idea what other women think of my bust whether negative or otherwise. Why would I???

Ahh. You were wondering if he was being straight with you, or if he was boob curious.

I also don't know how many offers he tends to get on a night out. I know I get them but don't really give much thought to them.

Tequila, you're being slippery. If you are driving a car and you see a child dart out in front of you, do you 'ease off' the accelerator or just immediately remove your foot from it and slam on the brakes like any normal person would?

Are you actually conducting your questionnaire with him whilst posting here?

Not entirely sure whether you're mocking, but yes Jen that was it. And not because it was him, but because it was a different kind of attention.

... and I was talking about the number of proper offers that YOU got, Tequila, as well you know.

Of course I would slam on. But they aren't the same situations really are they! To clarify, I will no longer be texting this guy.

And no, we spoke this afternoon. We haven't spoken since then. Before someone else feels the need to point it out, I imagine he's enjoying spending time with his wife and children.