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What's your worst ever date...?

322 replies

Fozziebearmum · 28/01/2014 22:32

I once went on an internet date...we'd been chatting for a week or two online and he seemed normal. But after 5 MINS of meeting, he went to the toilet and returned to say...

  • he really liked me had just called his friends to tell them and I could meet them next time
  • that he needed to be straight with me that he was having a back operation (didn't sound like a big deal so had no idea why he was even telling me)

And... It later became apparent he didn't have a BA which was listed on his profile. He'd never been to uni, but had in fact been single for a while and thought that that's what the online question had meant when asked if he has a Bachelor of Arts.... Confused

There must be better ones out there than this though!

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PatrickStarisabadbellend · 29/01/2014 00:51

Erm... I was 16 and a local lad asked me out. We had a cheeseburger happy meal sat in a bush. He had a monobrow too.

I didn't set my sights high enough back then.

SumBex · 29/01/2014 00:53

Patrick Grin.

Why a bush? Could you not have eaten in?

MummyBeerest · 29/01/2014 00:58

I was the guy's first kiss. He squeed like a little kid and then did a strutting dance afterwards. Then he sang "Bust a move." It was like the date was narrated with a soundtrack.

Then for the rest of the night he kept asking if we could kiss again and would then ask if each one was better than the last.

It was really tiring.

PatrickStarisabadbellend · 29/01/2014 00:59

He got his mum to drop it off we were in a field haha

Sparklysilversequins · 29/01/2014 00:59

The one where his ex girlfriend walked into the pub and started screaming at him, turned out he had only finished with her THAT DAY! About an hour before we met up! The date had been arranged for a week. He started yelling back at her then stood up and actually squared up to her Shock.

I left immediately, he ran out of the pub and begged me not to go then told me he loved me. I had only ever seen him three times in my life and this was our first date.......

WallyBantersJunkBox · 29/01/2014 01:19

Settle in folks....

Met a guy in a bar - after work drinks. I was pretty pissed and in a great mood, gave him my number.

He sent texts and emails - banter for a few weeks then asking me on a date.

I blew him out twice at very short notice - work commitments once, second night I had got my first cleaner and arrived home to a gleaming, scented house complete with a box of Maltesers and a bottle of wine. No way was I schlepping back into town. Blush

He got a bit haughty, I felt guilty so I offered to buy dinner as an apology. I got a 2 for 1 with toptable at a Swedish restaurant on a ship near the Tower of London. Result!

It was pissing it down when I got there. Couldn't get a taxi. He thought I had stood him up and was waiting in the pouring rain, fuming. So the first thing he did was have a go at me! And he wasn't at all as I'd remembered.

We got on board, and in the bad weather it was really lurching around. We sat in the bar to wait for our table and within 5 minutes he mentioned my knee boots in a really letchy way. That was the only mention of me, then he started talking about his big job in IT, how very few people could do it, how important he was. (he was like that IT guy in "The Office")

He then gave me a present. I opened the bag and it was a t shirt nightie with a huge tweety bird on it. I just didn't know what to say. Bearing in mind I was in fashion buying - and he knew this. Plus it was about 6 sizes too big!

He reminded me that dinner was on me (obviously that meant all the drinks) so I went to the bar. Barman was hysterical - offered me a double. I think he could hear my date. Then in my second visit up he gave me a sneaky schnapps to neck at the bar.

At dinner and he started grilling my qualifications with a head tilt - because of my trade I must have done sewing at college.
Err no science. I felt like I had to defend myself, my job was seen as menial, frivolous but an okay way to spend my time until a husband came along. His job again he reminded me, was without a doubt the most important job in the world, and there was no way I was ever going to earn as much as him. Hmm

I got through the meal with a few more visits to the bar, but started to feel very seasick and pissed. I ended up chucking up in the bathroom. I tried to excuse myself as unwell. He reminded me that I had to pay, (oh yes) and that he'd walk me to the bridge.

As we walked around the dock he randomly started to talk about travel, and how well travelled he was and then he said loudly "aaaaah Paris, where I fell in love with the music of Jean Michel Jarre...."

Some people behind us started pissing themselves laughing.

Got up the steps at Tower Bridge and thank fuck I saw my bus coming. I flagged it down and while waiting for it to get to the stop he tried to lean in for a full on the mouth kiss. It was that night when David Blaine was going up into the air in a glass box. I tried to distract him by shouting "Ooh look, David Blaine..." and I turned to point.

He ended up sort of sucking/slurping my cheek instead. I didn't stop for a reaction, I shouted bye and ran like hell and jumped on the bus. (bless you routemasters) I could see him running along the pavement behind the bus trying to get on. I was just willing the bus not to stop.

By the time I'd gotten home he'd emailed me with a critique of the date (what I'd done right and wrong) but forgivingly deemed me worthy of another date and possible relationship.

In the morning there was another mail, asking why I hadn't responded. I sent a mail saying I wasn't interested, but thanks for the evening, good luck for the future etc.

He sent me a mail everyday for about two weeks. In the end I asked a friend to call him and warn him off. My friend told him he was my husband and had found out about the date! Shock

Groovee · 29/01/2014 01:33

I was 18 and a friend was giving me a lift home when he asked me out. I didn't know what to say and freaked a bit and said yes.

I worked Saturdays so couldn't stay out late on a Friday. We went to Mcdonalds and had a drink there. He was dressed in a suit and it was so awkward.

We didn't speak after that date until I got engaged to dh when he congratulated me. One of our mutual friends told me I broke his heart as he'd fancied me for ages and hadn't realised me being friendly was just me and not me fancying him back.

MsFanackerPants · 29/01/2014 01:37

Jean Michel Jarre, haaaaahh, hah! I would have cried laughing if I'd overheard that.

My worst date was somebody I'd met through online dating. He lived close to me and seemed ok in email. He suggested we meet up and go for a walk in the woods. I suggested that maybe it was better to go for a drink instead as going for a walk in the woods with a man I'd never met was a dodgy (My general rule being 'could this be the start of a Crimewatch reconstruction', if yes don't do it). Somehow I still thought he was probably ok.

We met up in the cafe and it was just PAINFUL. I asked him about a playwriting course he'd done, he answered in clipped sentences. I asked about the play he'd written and directed, he answered practically in monosyllables. I asked about his job, same thing but even more dull.
I've had more pleasurable dentist's appointments. He hadn't brought his wallet so only had the change in his pocket which wasn't enough for a round or even one beer so we drank coffee.

I went to the bar to get another drink and sent an emergency text to a friend asking her to ring me. She rang about 15 minutes later and I pretended there was an emergency with work so I'd have to go home in order to prepare to run a training session early the next day. He offered to walk me home, I though 'fuck no, I don't want you to know where I live!' and went home via a long weird but busy road detour in case he was following me.

I emailed the next day to say it was nice to meet him but no spark and good luck. He sent me a furious and passive aggressive response about how this is why dating was a terrible thing, he knew it would end like this and why wouldn't I give him a proper chance and I was being so unfair.
DELETE AND BLOCK! Because suprisingly, whiny emails don't get me feeling romantic!

There was also the 5'10 man who was only 5'5 and told very tedious stories about being in the TA and then took me to a comic shop to pick up his Batman back issues. I ran away to get 'my bus' and jumped on the first bus that came along.

Marcipex · 29/01/2014 01:44

pmsl at these.

Blind date, he was up to my shoulder (i'm 5'6"), a very nice chap with lovely manners, but sadly clearly seriously ill.
He explained that he had a degenerative disease and was terrified of having to live in a nursing home as he would soon need a carer and was skint Sad Sad but sorry, I cant commit to being your long-term carer on the first date Shock

Kubrickian · 29/01/2014 02:04

One guy greeted me by playfully punching me in the arm saying - you alright pal?

We then had dinner where when the bill came said with obvious resentment "I guess I'll pay for it then". I said no I don't mind splitting - I don't think he could agree fast enough.

He also told me during the dinner he had almost cancelled because he couldn't be bothered as he'd had a nap. He also told me a story about how a woman had got her breasts out for him on a nightclub dance floor.

He then text me afterwards to say - I expected a kiss pal.

Josie314 · 29/01/2014 02:05

I went out with a guy who explained that he had a crush on his sister's friend at secondary school. He didn't think she was interested, so he started a rumour that she had syphilis. Apparently people started calling her syphilis girl, which he found very funny. It's amazing I didn't want to see more of him...

Fozziebearmum · 29/01/2014 02:29

Loving these! John Michel Jarre!! Ha ha!!

It has reminded me of the guy who blinked madly at me only to tell me that 'all the girls are jealous of my eyelashes'...

Incidentally he's now bald

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Nandocushion · 29/01/2014 03:52

"Then he sang 'Bust a move.' "

The kids want to know why I'm crying.

BeetlebumShesAGun · 29/01/2014 04:19

Not me but my friend. A guy who lived above the pub I was working in in London saw her when she dropped in and asked her out, I told her he was a prick (Totally obsessed with Pete Doherty and an "artist") but she was into that look so went ahead.

During the date they had to cut through Oxford St. My friend suggested they go a different way as it was near Christmas and hellish busy. He said "Don't worry darlin' you're with me; people tend to move out of my way because they think I'm famous" he also spent most of the date explaining why Pete Doherty was a genius and then when they got on to talking about films he told her he was disappointed in her as they "didn't connect cinematically."

She never called him again making for a few awkward conversations for me! He could not understand why anyone would pass up the opportunity to go out with him and commented to me that she was punching well above her we

BeetlebumShesAGun · 29/01/2014 04:19

...weight anyway! Damn phone!

MummyBeerest · 29/01/2014 05:07

I wish I made that part up. Honestly, you just can't make this shit up.

I ran into him a few years later when I was working at a children's museum. He was the parent of one of the kids on a class trip.

AWK.WARD.

thesnowmanrocks · 29/01/2014 06:46

A guy who said to me " ooo, someone took the stars from the sky and put them in your eyes!".

Sorry, but that was far too sickly and he wasn't even that good looking!

My Dh on the other had just said "oo, your a sexy wench!" Smile

Fozziebearmum · 29/01/2014 09:24

The qn about whether women also do odd things on dates...

A mate of mine went on a date and decided to cover herself in fake tan beforehand. Very snowy white complexion. It was one of these tans that slowly developed...

Turned out she'd used a fake tan for DARK SKIN.. So had got darker and darker throughout the night. She had woken up at his house like she'd been tangoed and had to make a run for it Shock

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JaneFonda · 29/01/2014 11:34

Oh these are so great!

I have none of my own, but other people's stories have really had me laughing.

MamaPingu · 29/01/2014 11:44

Fozzie that is hilarious Grin
Poor her! I'd have been gutted and probably had a good cry.
I daren't touch fake tan, or if I had to it'd be days before incase I needed to cancel! Shock

laregina · 29/01/2014 12:04

I was once talked into a blind date by a 'friend'. Her cousin had been living in Australia for a few years and had just moved back; didn't know many people; etc. I'd seen photos of him (very old ones as it turned out, all tanned and sunny on the Bondi Beach) and thought he looked nice.

So we met up outside a Chinese canteen place. And that was the first shock. He looked very unwell. He was really, really thin and gaunt looking - he actually looked like he needed to be tucked up in bed. I asked him if he was ok and he told me that yes he's fine but he's 'still got a way to go'... Apparently he'd been seriously ill in Australia and that had been part of the reason why he'd returned home so he could get treatment in the UK. But then he went on to say he'd 'rather not go into details about his illness, he's trying to focus on moving on'.

Ok. So then we went into the restaurant, sat down, got our food. We had a bit of a chat, and after about ten minutes he reached over to hold my hand across the table Shock. I kind of gently pulled mine away, at which point he looked down at the table and I realised tears were rolling down his face. Then he actually started sobbing. At that point I did give him my hand back as he started to tell me that he was so lonely; he wished he was still in Australia but he'll 'never be allowed back now' Confused and how he's really struggling with his (mystery) illness.

I still cringe when I remember this although its nearly 20 years ago now. I just wanted to go home. But I thought I should try to be nice, it's only got to be a couple of hours, so I carried on listening to him over our cold noodles. Anyway another half an hour or so later he got hold of both my hands and told me that he loved me and that' this is the start of something wonderful' and how he had 'found his angel just when he was at the point of giving up'.....

The following bit makes me sound like a bitch. But I said I needed the loo - then left (as in the restaurant). I found the nearest phone box (pre mobiles....), rang the 'friend' and told her she was nuts setting somebody so 'fragile' up on a blind date with me without warning me first. I also told her she needed to get down here pronto because I couldn't handle it and she needed to come and be a friend to him as that's what he clearly needs.

Unfortunately that was the end of my friendship with her. Didn't help that she went on to give him my home number and he then started leaving me answerphone messages about 20 times a day for the next week until I got my BIL to call him and tell him to back off Blush

MargueriteLeChouDeBruxelles · 29/01/2014 12:12

He claimed to be 5'9". I am 5'8" and looked practically amazonian next to him. He was 5'6" at best and frail looking. He took the piss out of my modest dress and told me my "puppy fat" was cute. I was a size 8 (but still sturdier than him) Bizarrely, there was a second date, which included me uttering the possibly-outing line:

"Listen, Nige. You and me both know that I could have you in a fight".

There was a third date in which he gave me a tour of his toiletries collection and introduced me to the man he lived with. Then we all sat in camp chairs around a tiny TV and watched home videos of these two men wrestling.

What can I say? I was just so incredibly bored and depressed with my life at the point that I went along with it for the laughs until he dumped me over MSN because I was bigger than him Grin

PedantMarina · 29/01/2014 12:15

Not a date, but a near-date. I was doing online and on the naughtier side. But I always made it a policy to meet publically first, and always made an initial time-limit (mutually agreed) of, say, 1/2 hr or 1 hour during which there is a ban on asking if one wants to see t'other again (guys really like this - takes the pressure off both parties).

And, of course, I work to the principle that unless I say Yes, it aint gonna happen.

On this occasion, I got home very tired, so texted the guy that I won't be coming out, but happy to try to reschedule. He texted back offering to just come straight to mine. I reminded him of my policy on this one, "... and, as I said, I'm really tired".

Reply: "Don't worry, I'll be gentle".

Like, WTAF?!? What kind of mindset must he have had that I'd "let him", provided he's gentle? Bear in mind that this wasn't one of those "rich men, golddigger" sites - just meant to be mutual pleasure. So I really don't get what was in it for me to "let him".

Needless to say, I sent him an unpleasant reply, and did not re-schedule.

Still boggling at his definition of gentle. Perhaps he meant I'd be able to sleep through it?...

TalisaMaegyr · 29/01/2014 12:16

Now THAT is fabulous Grin

TalisaMaegyr · 29/01/2014 12:19

I've told this story before here - but years ago, I went on a blind date with someone that I'd met on a text chatline. Yes, I know, I know Blush

We went for a few drinks, he was nice enough, but not my type physically at all. I went to the loo, and when I came back and sat down again, he showed me his mobile, saying 'take a look at that'

As I looked... it was a close up of his huge erection. So that was nice Hmm