The Brave Babes Battle Bus - A New Year, A New YOU!

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New Year Resolutions Anyone?

Welcome one and all, I'm Mouse, nice to meet YOU. :)

This is a thread for those who want to give up drink completely, or are maybe thinking about doing controlled drinking, or cutting down slowly, it's all up to you.

You know your limits, you know what is required, it's in YOUR hands.

Whatever your goal, you'll find unconditional support here. Always.

There will be talk of drinking quite often and those who fall off the Bus will post about it, so if that is going to jeopardise your chances of complete sobriety, then maybe the DRY threads would suit you better, as they are complete abstainers, but EVERYONE IS WELCOME HERE :)

There are no hard and fast rules, other than the support here is unconditional, it may be in the form of tough love at times, but it's always meant with the very best of intentions.

There are two sayings that we rather like here -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

For those of you who'd like some history, here is the very first thread and the reason that we're all here now. FIRST THREAD

And here is the lastest thread, which you can scroll back through to see the other JOURNEYS SO FAR

The Bus may be 'mythical', but the support is real, it is honest and it will help you to achieve what it is that you seek, as long as you are honest with us, but mostly, YOURSELF

See you soon. x

Rural Day 10 is really good Babe - well done darling How are the ewes? very wet here today, rain, rain go away come again another day

Obrigada Hello Babe good to hear from you

morning all still feeling yucky but I realised this morning I fell ten thousand times worse when I am hungover.......so why I do I do it ? It makes no sense.
why fantastic news fingers crossed for you
isindie great post as ever you have such a way with words
welcome Mrsbacon I am new here too you will receive a lot of support
hello to everyone else I am reading and trying to catch up with your news
positive vibes to everyone for today

Two little ducks....22. Always liked that call at seaside bingo! We have another snow day here, which means we are all at home. got to love a blizzard!

isinde you are a soppy old bird . This bus is also such a lifeline for me. You are a real treasure, throughout all of the threads, don't forget that. Sorry things feel crappy in real life just now, I hope things pick up really soon x

Why holding my breath with you, February is not so far. Perhaps hope is right about your 'tatoo of fortune'

Spanna here, have a bit of chipper . Sorry you are feeling meh and hope it shifts soon. Day 21 is awesome and just for you I looked up the bingo call......ready.....Key of the door . Really not sure why I have woken up with bingo running through my veins!

rural day 10 is fantastic! Well done.

Guggs sit with Barrie.

Mrsbacon welcome . Totally relate to the good intentions slipping away throughout the day. Is today the day to stay af? Keep determined, you will probably get whispers later about 'just a couple, start tomorrow, I'm not that bad' IGNORE them. Waking up tomorrow is a gift when you search around in your sleepy head and realise you didn't! Good luck.

joey I weighed last night and am a quarter of a pound less than when I started . and no drinking Feel fed up. Hope yours is going better. How is the not drinking?

Thanks for cappuccino hope, lovely on a cold day like this

Waves to obrigada and sober
Love to all xx

Welcome mrsbacon I'm no expert but the amazing babes will give you heaps of advice. guggs you have done so incredibly well and only you can decide if you can moderate in the future after your abstinence. Your posts are always very smart and level headed as well as full of warmth for others so I'm sure you will make the right decision for you my lovely friend. I'm very low, dh has been gone nearly a week and is coming to take the girls put to spend "quality" time with them, that's all I ever wanted him to do in the first place!!! He has made no attempt to reconcile or discuss our issues and I'm deeply hurt and missing him terribly. I feel however if I ask him to come home he will feel it's on his terms, I even sense he is relieved!!! 12 years together and a 3 year dd and we are now exchanging texts without kisses, my heart actually aches, sorry for hogging the thread, I feel very low but I know I won't drink cos I won't stop and my melancholy would be tenfold plus he looks after me when I'm hungover!!! What a mess xxx

My heart goes out to you baby. No advice but a very sincere squeeze of support. Xxx

Thanks beaches xx

Beaches thank you Babe. LOVE the bingo calling (A Bingo Caller is what you really want to be, go on admit it)

I've got a new after-school club to do today and I'm really nervous not worked for this school yet so I'm not sure what to expect. We're going to be making flowers out of egg boxes, what fun

Baby darling I'm so sorry that you're feeling low Now then, brush yourself down, make a 'pampering plan' for when DDs see their Dad. Or arrange to see some girlfriends and have some YOU time

Sober hello babe

Thanks spanna

beaches don't know about weight loss, but my tummy feels a bit more toned. Keep at it, results which take longer are usually the ones which last in the long-term

babyj you poor thing. You have been amazingly strong to not give in to the drink despite everything

Am tucked up in bed with a box of tissues, a dog, and a trashy book. But I want to know - where has the Karvol gone?! Couldn't get it in Sainsbury's, and checked online - nowhere is selling it? I WANT MY KARVOL!!

Thank you guys, though barrie's tank is a bit smelly.

sorry for the me,me,me post. I've had a hard week due to the bizarre mini depressions I seem to get. wtf? I feel mostly on the mend today.I can't bring myself to get massively upset about having 2 glasses of wine after more than a year's sobriety and I'm not going to count my sobriety from last week's fuck up. I'm over a year sober,i hope I can continue to stay sober and work out what the fuck is happening with the sporadic depression thingy.

baby thank you. You have been so very kind to me, thank you for your support when times are hard for you. I hope you are ok- or taking things one minute at a time at least. I wonder if he really is 'relieved'? I bet not. Is he good at expressing his feelings? tries hard to not point out that most men are crap at that I know that our reasons for being low are different but some of these things help me: vitamin D,getting out in the sunshine,resting until I'm able to face people- however long that takes.
Best wishes babe

welcome to mrsBacon you will receive lots of help and support here on the lovely bus.

Hi ruraland beaches and obrigadaand spanna and sober and isinde and joey and oohh everyone.

I haven't managed to post recently because I've had an attack of the vapours - such a delicate flower,me. ahem. But I realise that lots of babes are struggling with life at the mo. and there has been very sad news from some.

why I will keep everything crossed for you. does the tatoo still hurt???

guggs have you considered that the mini depressions may tie in with your monthly cycle? Sorry if this is way off but I can always tell when I am on day 19 (the exact week before) when I am snipey or crying. There is a definite difference in my well being, the first two weeks are usually the most stable and then things begin to get more overwhelming as the month progresses. It may not affect you at all but just thought I would raise it. . As far as the slip, being mindful is a good idea but beating yourself up is definitely not. Xx

Joey thanks for the encouragement, I will keep going xx

Spanna perhaps being a bingo caller would be fun!!

Oh and Spanna good luck with the egg box flowers! sure you will charm their socks off xx

just marking place for tonight......DH is out and that used to be an excuse for me to drink unnoticed.
Was clearing out a cupboard in my bathroom today and I have a massive amount of bath products I think I buy them with the intention of using them and then get distracted by the wine bottle
OK tonight I plan to use some of them as a distraction and to go back to my kindle which I have neglected since Christmas.
baby I too did not know that you could get boxsets on a kindle..thank you
waves back to spanna and beaches and everyone else

Hi all and welcome to MrsB.

I'm going to put a face pack on in a minute and then I'm cooking chicken kievs for dinner with another big salad.

Feeling very tired today, maybe I overdid the exercise

Sorry got mixed up with kindle and on demand, I just meant episodes of serials I watch back to back on my kindle, sorry to confuse my lovely friends x

How was your afternoon baby?

Just wanted to mention to Im, if you are reading lovely, there is a thread in relationships about SS and child protection. It is not the same as your situation and I only looked at the first page but it may have some interest to you? Hope you are ok babe x

Thanks beaches honey ill take a look I have another meeting tommorow with SS.

Hope it has something useful in it, it can be good to read about someone who is having some similar experiences. Hope things are calmer for you and the children at the moment babe xx

Do I smell bacon?
Welcome mrsbacon...although with a name like that you risk someone taking a bite out of you round here.

Am pissed off with dh for doing fuck all as usual. All I asked was when he got in from work early this afternoon was that he took dads washing round and bought cat food,bin bags and light bulbs for front room. Washing still here, didn't get bulbs as " didn't know what kind", bin bags bought but kitchen bin still overflowing as he hasn't actually done anything with them. Recycling spilling out onto floor, dishes not done. I cook dinner and get " is there a reason things are being slammed about?'
Yes! The reason is you you fucking useless lazy excuse for a wank badger!!!!!

Welcome aboard Mrs B lots of support here.
guggs great to hear from you. I am in awe at your achievement Sure the slip was just a blip. Really hope you are able to get to the bottom of the mini depressions.
Obrigada good to see you back
ma every sympathy re wank badger. Could have written most of your post myself many times re my control freak H except he doesn't pick anything up from the shops for me or the home. " Thats womans work doncha know" and if we have run out of something thats my bad housekeeping . One day ma one day....
babyj thinking of you, stay strong brave babe.
Waves to spanna beaches Im faire sober joey isinde hope mouse and all babes posting or lurking xxx
Day 10 done. Big wobbles today but made it, phew...
Goodnight Brave Babes.x

Ah, Ma, the old 'didn't know what kind' lightbulb excuse... amazing how long one's partner can live in a house without knowing what light bulbs it needs. And the fact that it is obviously illegal to take out the old bulb and have a look before purchasing a new one is of course another stumbling block - I know it well

Rural thanks for your kind words lovely. I have not been called an inspiration before but thank you for the sentiments and the . Not sure I deserve it with my terminal cowardly faffing about not making decisions but I am very flattered Congrats on Day 10 too

Baby - hugs for you. Sorry things are so hard right now. You are doing so well not drinking.

Joey - well done on Day 22!

Spanna how did the eggbox flowers work out??

MrsBacon - hello and welcome. Stick around, I would not have got to Day 18 without this bus. But your name is making me hungry, could you not have picked something less appetising? MrsQuinoa perhaps??

I'm - good to see you, hope you are OK at the moment and safe...

Sober, Beaches, Guggs, Obrigada - hello babes

And lovely Mouse wherever you may lurk at the moment

Off to read my improving book now before sleep beckons. Making Horlicks if anybody wants one...

Nite nite xxx

Heavens, I seem to be obsessed with making hot drinks. I am Mrs Doyle from Father Ted!!!!

Morning isindie thanks xx