The Brave Babes Battle Bus - A New Year, A New YOU!

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New Year Resolutions Anyone?

Welcome one and all, I'm Mouse, nice to meet YOU. :)

This is a thread for those who want to give up drink completely, or are maybe thinking about doing controlled drinking, or cutting down slowly, it's all up to you.

You know your limits, you know what is required, it's in YOUR hands.

Whatever your goal, you'll find unconditional support here. Always.

There will be talk of drinking quite often and those who fall off the Bus will post about it, so if that is going to jeopardise your chances of complete sobriety, then maybe the DRY threads would suit you better, as they are complete abstainers, but EVERYONE IS WELCOME HERE :)

There are no hard and fast rules, other than the support here is unconditional, it may be in the form of tough love at times, but it's always meant with the very best of intentions.

There are two sayings that we rather like here -

1. • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
2. • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

For those of you who'd like some history, here is the very first thread and the reason that we're all here now. FIRST THREAD

And here is the lastest thread, which you can scroll back through to see the other JOURNEYS SO FAR

The Bus may be 'mythical', but the support is real, it is honest and it will help you to achieve what it is that you seek, as long as you are honest with us, but mostly, YOURSELF

See you soon. x

Hello all.

Had awful news yesterday. Our friend's baby passed away.
There were complications at the birth, and he has spent the last few days in PICU. Sadly, his injuries were too severe and didn't make it.
Going now (waves to all), will be in touch in a few days xxx

only I'm so sorry about your bad news, puts things into perspective, hugs for you my lovely xx

its that's sad news. How awful
Too many of you to name check but why do you really get that tattoo?
indie you are not terminally tainted. You are a hard working super cool babe who makes me laugh. Don't make me set Barrie on you....
Venus thurso are you out there?
silver? purple?
Not doing so well today but no real reason. Just tired.

It's what terrible news. I am so so sorry for your friends

Its such awful news .

Its I am so sorry, that is tragic news.

Its - such sad news.

I am on week 2 of being AF mon-thurs (so far, so good) and attempting controlled drinking at the weekend (so far, not so good). OH has just gone out to buy wine!! because we're both bored and he's stressed with work. I won't be having any but i feel at a bit of a loose end. Phil and Kirsty it is then.

Usually I hit the wine to have fun, relax, de-stress - so i was wondering what do other people do to fill the gap?

Just back from the Astronomy Society, my little boy is in nerd heaven!

Its, that is so sad.

Sweet 'nerd heaven'

Time for bed, but waiting for washing machine to finish. The local laundrette has closed so I have a bag of dads washing to do now. With no tumble drier and endless rain, I could do without this.
However, needs must.

onboard initially I took a candle lit bath EVERY night (very clean these days) painted my nails, lots of moisturising and new books and various box sets on my kindle. It's just a habit and after a few weeks you will fill the time with other things you enjoy, and ofcourse posting on here has saved my soul more times than I could mention xxx

So sorry its, such sad news xx

Today the lady at SS told me casually that she was recommending that my case be dismissed.

I didnt react.

Im almost afraid to post it.

Court in early Feb. Lets see what the judge says.

Why that sounds like that could be the excellent news that you've been waiting for Early Feb is not long to wait xxx

Isinde lovely lovely words Babe. Hang in there Honey, I'm not sure what I would have done without this bus over the passed few months. I am also eternally grateful

Day 21 for me. I'm feeling Meh but I'm not sure why

Have a good day all of you beautiful Brave Babesxxxx

Isinde - what a beautiful post. Wow ... just, wow! You are not terminally tainted - more terminally talented. And funny. I love reading your posts. And you have just articulated how I feel about this bus too - there is no way I would have got through this weekend AF without you all.

Anne - your marriage sounds remarkably like mine. I am sorry you are having what sound like panic attacks but can understand why - other people's debt drags you down as much as them - more sometimes, if they tend to blame everyone else for their ills. Are you sure we aren't with the same person?? And doing the same job?? Strength to you today lovely

Why - fantastic news! I am sending you lots of love and luck and have everything crossed for you here xxx Do you think the tattoo is your lucky tattoo??? That would be a good for a kids' book - the Brave Babe and her Tattoo of Fortune. Like Jamie and the Magic Torch, but better.

Mouse thanks for your kind words yesterday lovely. I am working on things. I will keep you posted. ( worked so late last night couldn't respond properly) Hope your pain is better today.

Baby - you can get box sets on a Kindle? Why do I not know this???

It's so sorry about your friend's baby. As another babe just said, puts everything in perspective. Have no idea how awful that would be. Lots of love to you

Faire hope the hair colour turned out well

Work took another turn for the worse yesterday when our evil head honcho announced a visit in half term and our ludicrously weak director again started panicking about us doing power point presentations, sweeping the office clean, laying a red carpet from the train station to the building door and ordering a choir of angels to serenade him to our door etc etc. As if we aren't already terminally stressed and overworked. I have booked that week off to spend with darling dd (and ds if he is not busy with his own teenage things) and I am damned if I am changing my holiday - but know that will go down like a cup of cold sick with the powers that be, who treat him like a king in the days of belief in the Divine Right, despite the fact that he is a short, nasty man with a God complex. Hmmm...

Twunt is being nice to me again as always happens after a major blow up. Or as nice as he can manage, which is just average for anyone normal. He made me dinner last night, and didn't shout when I asked him to take the bins out. Can't go on like this but it is hard when everything in your life is difficult to deliberately push a situation which you know will lead to more rows and stress for the dcs. Have been lurking on the verbal abuse threads on mn and ordered a book called The Verbally Abusive Relationship which several people recommended. The good thing about Kindles is that nobody can see what you are reading. Will report back on any coping techniques I learn while I am planning my next moves.... this may take some time, but at least I am not drinking...

Spanna, Onboard, Ma, everyone - have good day today. Tray of cappucinos on the dashboard to start us all off (caffeine free for those of you in different time zones who want to get to sleep soon)

Is there a seat free? Been meaning to hop on board since Christmas and it hasn't happened for various reasons.

Has come to a point where I now need to cut back on alcohol consumption and want some tips please!

I have wine to unwind from the stresses of life in the evening - wrong I know but it's a habit that needs to go!!

Have tried before and start out with good intentions in the morning but by the evening I cave into temptation.

Any support gratefully appreciated

Checking in. Day 22.

Morning babes

Just checking in because I'm missing you all and to 'fess up that saggy tits finally got me. I had a minor slip and had a couple of glasses of wine on saturday. I can't say that I'm worried or upset at doing it, I never thought that I'd stay sober for any length of time so a small slip along the way is just one of those things.

I'd got very down again and used booze to lift my mood- which it did. Anyhow,back on the bus again and feeling happier. I have no idea where I will go from here. I might go back to aa but I need to find a way to join in that I am comfortable with or I might stay sober mostly, but have a glass on special occasions.

I feel much,much happier thinking that I'm in charge and can make my own decisions. I do know that I might end up arse side up but I hope not.

Thanks for being here and feel free to kick my arse.Please don't make me sit in with barrie.

Welcome MrsBacon well done for posting you have come to the right place. Take a seat where ever you feel comfortable. You will get some good support and advice on this here bus Ma, Mouse, Isinde or Nuff will be along with your ticket.

why Fantastic news. Everything crossed for you. You deserve to get your life back.
Isinde what a lovely post . You have an amazing talent my friend and like hope your words said just what I feel about this bus and the wonderful babes on board, in the sidecar and on the roof rack. Really hope your day to day life gets better soon.
hope Your problems with twunt really resonate with me and with the work issues as well the stress must be enormous. You are coping so well. You are an inspiration to me I've lurked on those threads and read a few books but not that one. Very interested in your thoughts when you have read it.
Got to dash to buy cake (food pellets) for my pregnant ewes. Sorry not to NC everyone.
Catch you later babes.

D'argh forgot to say. Day 10 for me . Could never have got this far without you all. .

Morning babes, haven't been posting as fell by the wayside over the last two weekends but have been reading and keeping up with thread.
Guggs, was only thinking of you this morning as I realised you hadn't posted in a few days.